Permission 2 Speak Freely Podcast

Political Choices, Identity as a Country, and Family Traditions

• Thee Highest Chief Ali & Lay Loe Tha Mos • Episode 32

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What if the polarizing legacy of a single presidency could redefine the way we view leadership and unity? Join us as we dissect the controversial era of former President Donald Trump, exploring the powerful emotions and actions stirred within both his supporters and critics. We navigate through the complexities of political responsibility, the impact of freedom of speech, and the critical moments when black voter turnout altered the course of history, all while emphasizing the undeniable power of collective action in a functioning democracy.

Our conversation takes a spirited turn as we tackle the sensitive and ever-evolving topics of gender identity and reproductive rights. With candid anecdotes and humorous insights, we shine a light on the importance of safe sex, personal responsibility, and open communication in intimate relationships. We also delve into the emotional and often overlooked experiences faced by both partners in these relationships, advocating for mutual respect and understanding as the bedrock for nurturing healthy connections.

Celebrating family legacy and purpose, we share personal reflections and aspirations that honor cherished memories and envision future generations. From the heartfelt remembrance of beloved family figures to the comedic musings on personal legacy and funeral plans, this episode intertwines humor and sincerity to explore what it means to create a lasting impact. As we wrap up with a nod to the vibrant world of reality TV, we extend our gratitude to our listeners, inviting them to embrace authenticity and join us on this journey of introspection and appreciation.

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Speaker 1:

this old ass, nigga Donald. You said who now? Nigga Donald? I ain't even calling this nigga by his last nigga name. Nigga Donald, don, you mean the president? Yeah, president, if he make it there, if he make it, they did try to go for his life one time, right. If you make it there, if he make it there, they did try to go for his life one time, right, they did try. They say twice I don't believe that shit, man, nigga, I don't believe it at all. Can't catch a packet on this, exactly the one that Chick-fil-A got. You can open it all the way or you can just squirt the shit out. That's what he had. My man, I don't commend nothing that nigga had. Buyer taco sauce, taco bell yeah, diablo's up, I know that shit when I see it. Him and the sauce was the same color. It had an orange U-tube.

Speaker 1:

Do you find yourself as a political person? Nah, I just don't like that, nigga. Yeah, I think that's by design, though. I think the politics, the red and blue side, I think that shit's by design. Freedom speakers.

Speaker 1:

For some people, today is a day to rejoice. For some people, it's a day that they're just dreading moving forward, and it's probably because you were built not to like the presidency candidates. Yeah, I seen some people not like Kamala and do some cruel shit. Yeah, mispronouncing her name Intentionally, intentionally, they know her name Kamala. Did I say it right? Yes, kamala. Okay, I want to make sure I say it right. You got to correct me because I'll be fucking next time. We got your back.

Speaker 1:

But no, I don't consider myself political man. I had a political economic decisions class in the year 2008, an election year that's when Obama was running and that was probably the best time to have that class, not just any election year, but that election year in particular. So I learned a lot. I'm trying to teach my kids kind of how this shit go, you know. But last night I'm not worried, bro, I ain't worried. I'm certainly not rejoicing. I'm certainly kind of like ah man, the country wanted this nigga again. He already showed you what he was and maybe you like that, maybe you with that, maybe you with you know a campaign of, of, of hate. A campaign of hate Because he the type of motherfucker who will throw the rock and hide his hand.

Speaker 1:

You know what I'm? Motherfucker who will throw the rock and hide his hand. You know he say little slick shit to, to, to rile up his base. That's what he do because he know the people who supports him. I don't I don't necessarily think donald trump is racist himself.

Speaker 1:

I don't think he's racist himself, but he gonna rock with the racism because he know that's gonna get him. Him where he needs to go, he, as you mentioned, and I when he want to go. This is a coin turn by you, man. You cannot choose your audience. Yeah, I did say that. So those people who rock with him rock with him for a reason. Yeah, they most definitely rock with him for a reason. They most definitely proven to have his back. But then he like he plays into that shit, though. Like he plays into that shit. So you remember.

Speaker 1:

You know what was it 2016,? Man Fucking they pushing the black girl around at your rally and shit Looking like they want to fucking jump or worse, and he championing shit. Oh, 50 years ago it wouldn't have been ugly, it would have been pretty. Like you're supposed to be the president, man. Yeah, you're supposed to be the president. I don't want my president to be an asshole. Assholes are necessary in the world. I don't want my president to be one necessarily. No, no, at least not against people who live here. Now, when you in them rooms and you got to get some shit done, you got to lay down the law, you got to put that shit on the table. But we talking about a black girl who was at your rally for whatever reason, to fucking protest against or what have you and they pushing this woman around and you you know what I'm saying championing that shit Like man. That shit is not okay. That shit is not okay. I agree that it's not okay, man. I think that it's sad At the same time. You know they had the whole rally with people storming the Capitol. Yeah, yeah, it's a revolution, that shit. We're going down to the Capitol, you rallying niggas out and this is what happened.

Speaker 1:

People die because of what you said. You gotta own your word. You have freedom of speech, but you don't just have freedom from the actions behind your words. You know what I'm saying. You not just exempt from oh, I didn't say that, it's not my fault. See, you throw the rock and hide your hand.

Speaker 1:

From January 6th Was that 2021? You know what I'm saying? On down the line, I don't like dude as a person. He's not somebody who I would say hey, I want that guy to run the country I live in? Nah, nah. But people with that on top of the fact, man, he's already shown you, he's already shown you who he is as a leader and you got people, whatever color they may be, people who say, you know what? Yeah, let's run that back. Let's do that again. Look at how the pandemic with it didn't have to go that way. Canada didn't have millions of people who died three times the amount of people who died in Canada died in the United States.

Speaker 1:

Word, there was shit in place that under the Obama administration, things were in place in case of a global pandemic, a global pandemic happens. This is what you do. One of the first things that Trump did in his presidency was hey, get rid of that shit, we don't need it. We don't need it, we don't need it. 2017, 2018, two years later, what happened? Covid, coronavirus and all of the shit that was put in place was fucking gone.

Speaker 1:

The trump presidency benefited from the first two years. See the country. Just don't, don't go to shit in two weeks. You know I'm saying it takes time, but he benefited from things that the obama administration had in place in the first two years of his presidency, that last two years. That's when it's really like on you. Now what are you showing? You don't just become president. You know I'm saying january 20th and then bang everything you want right here today. It takes some time and after that two years, look all of what happened.

Speaker 1:

Oh, he get the, he get the, he get the bonus points because his, his name was on the stimulus checks. There's been stimulus checks and and things like that put out, but the president, person responsible, is not looking to get the, the direct credit. I'm put my name on that shit, whether it come as a paper check or go into your, your direct deposit, your shit. Say, donald j trump, you know I'm saying that's not the first form of of, uh, of aid to go out, but he, the type of person who wants credit, that's something like that itself. Is you having your name on the shit in which it didn't even come from republicans, that that stimulus came from democrats. But you're the president and you want your name on the checks. You want your name on a direct deposit. You want the clout. Yeah, you want the credit, clout chasing and it like it wasn't you. You know I'm saying so that man and and we outnumbered. We outnumbered.

Speaker 1:

From what I heard last night and over the last month or so with early voting, black people did their job. Black people did their job. Man Got out and voted. You have black people who are not necessarily concerned with who you vote for. You went out and voted. You know some people don't value that as much value. You know. We find ourselves in a place where we feel like our vote don't matter fucking matters.

Speaker 1:

When you saw what happened in 2008, when people went out and drove people voting for the first time, I thought I was too young to vote, but I'm responsible for about 30 people getting up, getting out there and voting you know what I'm saying. And then, come 2012, make that was my first time voting went out there, but president obama didn't beat john mcc McCain by no little bit as much time as it was taking last night for those states to turn blue or red man, obama ran through the East Coast Virginia, maryland, dc, new York, ohio, pennsylvania. Man, that shit was blue as a Quick Quick. I don't even think John McCain had 100 electoral votes. I might be wrong, but I know Obama had over 300. I believe he had around 320-something electoral votes in that first year.

Speaker 1:

You can't tell me voting don't matter, when we rocking the shirts and when you bumping my president is black by Jeezy, that shit matter. Featuring Nas yeah, when we went out there and we showed like let's vote, let's do this shit, black president, he a great guy, he ain't got no earring. You know what I'm saying. Let's get out here and do this shit and look at what happened. That shit matters, yeah. But you see, when we split, when we split and a lot of us have been managed it don't matter. They're going to have who they want. They're going to have. Did they want to buy? Maybe, maybe not. It's a lot of conspiracy, shit that I don't know about. You know what I'm saying, but you saw what happened in 2008.

Speaker 1:

And in 2012,. Hey, maybe we ran our gas a little bit. We got a little sport. We didn't go out there and do as much when he ran against mitt romney, but when we were split between trump and hillary, hillary was getting the. You know what the nigga here votes. Hang in here, bitch. You got because she had hot sauce in her right, just like she had the black vote, or just man, just because I don't like him, I'm gonna give you mine, but you ain't shit either. Bitch. My president is playing is black, you know, but you see what happens.

Speaker 1:

So when black people we find ourselves split between, first of all, I'm going to vote for Trump, because it's a lot of black people, men and women, a lot of people who feel this country is not ready for not just a black female president, but a female president period, the leader of the free world being a woman. A lot of people, men and women, got a huge problem with that. So far, donald Trump has only defeated women for the presidency. He grabbed them by the pussy. You're a fool, man. Donald J Trump is a pussy grabber, yeah, but Hillary Clinton, kamala Harris, it didn't go that way when you ran against Joe. Trump is a woman beater now. Yeah, woman beater. That's what he is woman beater. You put him in the election, heard it here first people Trump is a woman like beater. We not putting that out there? Woman election beater, yeah, although electoral clearly was grabbing pussies, however.

Speaker 1:

But I don't know, I'm disappointed today. You know what I'm saying On this post-election morning, but at the end of the day, man, I ain't worried, though I ain't worried, I'm disappointed, kind of like ah, man, this nigga Again, this nigga again. You know what I'm saying. I'm disappointed in our country as a whole but ultimately, I know who's king. I know who's king. I ain't worried about no man sitting in the seat, me and mine going to be okay. You know what I'm saying. Jesus is king man. Jesus dot Christ. Stop playing with me. So I ain't worried.

Speaker 1:

I'm just more so disappointed, like, wow, this man, he showed, he showed who he was, ran on a campaign of hate and and people who just get riled up with with anger. It was driven from anger and hate. You know I'm saying for particular people, for people who weren't born in this country. Is america not the land of the free? Is it not the melting pot anymore? You know how many different you know I'm saying ethnicities of people are responsible for building this country. I'm not talking about just black people. Yeah, they isolated in the vote. We need the white vote, the black, yeah, uh, we need the oriental. Whoever the fuck gonna go out and vote. Like you said, it don't matter who you voted for, but it's. I guess I come from the place of man. You know how many people die for your vote, for you to have that ability to be able to go out and do it For sure. Yeah, it's that. That's what made me go out and be like all right, I'm like, I'm, it's that and it's and it's not only that man, but it's just the, the people who see it's been, it's still happened.

Speaker 1:

I'm not saying, you know, police killings have not happened under the Biden administration. That would be ridiculous for me to say but wasn't it? Wasn't it better though? Am I tripping? That wasn't it? Wasn't it better though? Am I tripping? That? Wasn't that better? Like safety, yeah, no, what I mean is it seemed like every week under the trump administration, from from 2016 to 2020, it seemed like a hell of a lot of just police killings. You know what I'm saying Because they and I don't know what it is in that white mind but do you feel? You see these people? They feel empowered, they feel emboldened. You know what I'm saying To do what they want. I ain't talking about just the police, but to do what they want to do, say what they want to say.

Speaker 1:

I would say I had to sit here and think, because I know that, most definitely, murder happens quite often, and a lot of it don't make it to the news, but I want to say we did have a lot of national murders. We had the one young I can't remember what his name with the young man went down there with the assault rifle, killing people and got bailed out of jail. Man, it's too many, it's too many to name? Yeah, so, but it's too many, it's too many to name yeah, so, but you know, that's one of them that I do believe in man and I do think that I don't want to sound like I'm not a political person For real.

Speaker 1:

I thought I wanted to be in politics but I really got to see. You know, it's a job still for people, still an appointment, people still got agendas. Honestly, man, like, just like what you said, and he was quoting me. Like you know, we may not view ourselves as political people, but you almost have to be, you almost have to be.

Speaker 1:

For example, how you feel about abortion, bro, I'm for it, I am for making, I am for abortion, pro-choice, I'm pro-choice, yes, pro-choice, me too, pro-choice, I'm pro-choice, yes, Pro-choice, me too, okay, me too. So and I'll say this I am pro-choice for it because that's a firm decision that that person still has to make, still has to live with. Yeah, and I respect that person being like, hey, I'm not ready, yeah, I'm not ready, this isn't't you know. You can, you can give me any other reason, check this out, and you don't have to give me a reason. You feel me? Yeah, but I done been in that clinic, nigga. I done been in that motherfucking clinic. Talk to him. So, I done been in the clinic.

Speaker 1:

Um, some people be hysterical. The girl real talk now, listen like now. When it comes to that, you know they speak about the extremes, you know. So you talk about. You know the R word Incest To where you know Abortion is then necessary. But then you got, hey, she said nothing to me, I did, and now she need $400. You know, yeah, it happened.

Speaker 1:

But I'm gonna make it personal with my situation. My wife and I we got four children, four. We're married, established home, we're good. Do I want another baby in that motherfucker? No, I do not. Now, it's certain things that we need to do. You know she's taking birth control. Now I need to get me a snip tuck, I'm going to get me one. We're going to get matching persectomies. Bro, you with me. I got to do more research. Come on, man, I like to paint, I like to paint. I like to paint, I like to paint, I like to paint. We gonna talk about it, man, but that's something that me and Meekam are talking about because ultimately, I don't want her having to take birth control. I would rather go ahead and get the vasectomy, you know, but we'll touch on that later.

Speaker 1:

But what people need to understand, because when people hear People hear that, oh, they're pro-choice on the permission. Pro-choice means you know you can keep the baby too. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Pro-choice means to me I'm pro-do you. Yeah, pro-choice to me means I ain't in your shit. Yeah, my pro-choice means my choice for you don't fucking matter. Yeah, that's for you. Baby, that's for you. Pro-do you, that's for you. So let's change our stand. We're not pro-choice, we're not pro-life, we're pro-do you. You have the freedom to make your own decision. Okay, that's what that means. Like, hey, you being able. So I got sisters, okay, and the sisters outweigh the brothers in the family. Yeah, and I got aunts that outweigh the uncles in the family, all right.

Speaker 1:

So I know how having the power of them, or, at a time, just having to deliver babies, having a certain medical that they didn't have, rights that they didn't have, and it's like, hey, man, they still kind of arguing against like their own being and then even being subjected as as real women by people who classify them as, like a cis women. And I hear that from my wife of like is bickering amongst just women, of you're not a real woman, you're a cis woman, or you're not a real woman because you didn't have the baby vaginally. Yeah, well, what it was? They say they they used. It's about to get sticky bro.

Speaker 1:

The term cis woman is for what we would just call a woman, just a natural born woman. But with the transgender, them, you know, want to make everything, put it, put things in a box. In my opinion, um, they call naturally born women cis women. To understand, you know? Now, I don't, I don't know, you know what transgender women even call themselves? Do they call themselves trans women or are they calling themselves just women? But then the real women are cis women. Why? I gotta have an extra goddamn prefix on my shit, for sure, for sure, and I was born this way. You know, I like the women that are women that came from that old-fashioned vagina cat. Yeah, yeah, that one. Her mama gave her that one. Okay, that one, that woman.

Speaker 1:

And there's no disrespect to the LGBT community? Yeah, no, disrespect community. We got family and friends that are a part of it, that we love and we care for and protect at the same time. Sometimes it is, you know, we want to be correct, but it is like, hey, man, this shit, it, it, this just seem like it's still developing. Yeah for sure, man, and you can't like, go to like over, correct everything.

Speaker 1:

Sometimes it get to a point to where even with, you know, with women being allies to the lgbt community, even got to speak and say, hey, well, hold up, hold up. Uh, my fellow, my fellow trans women, chill the fuck out. Now you're asking for too much. You know, I'm saying you're taking too much. Yeah, like, we love you, we appreciate you, you're, you're, you're welcome. Okay, but come in here and sit the fuck down, stop making all that noise, stop jumping on my goddamn couch, right?

Speaker 1:

So I'll say this, man, as this quote is coming to me um, I do not believe in boxes, but I do believe in boundaries. Okay, I do believe in boundaries. I believe like, hey, don't put me in no box of x, y, z, I'm with that, but I do believe in boundaries of like, hey, you, you have your respect, but there are borders of like, hey, man, I don't want to do this, I don't want to do that, respect that or this bothers me. So remember we live in a very different time than when we were growing up. When we were growing up, bro, you would say faggot, as just you know. You're talking shit amongst your boys or you're trying to humiliate each other and play, you know, jokingly, but you ain't really know like you insulting somebody for real. You know what I'm saying. So I'm we still learning and be trying to grow from being immature you know what I'm saying, but it's still developing. You know what I'm saying.

Speaker 1:

So, taking it back for a second man of like I said I got women in our family, I got aunts and sisters and stuff like that, and I've seen them in their life and their relationship, having to make decisions as well on just birth control of condoms, to plan b to you know all the different options out there. So to be for them to be able to have the option or choice, it's like, okay, I want to vote on behalf of that, knowing the history at the same time and I done been in the world and seeing how just permission to speak freely, absolutely. I just been in the world to see and be a part of pussies being mismanaged. Okay, so you, you, you, you just having fun for one night, yeah, and and it's like, hey, somehow you didn't forgot. Yeah, you missed your income and then now you sick or whatever. Woo, woo, woo, sending that out late and you need a couple.

Speaker 1:

When I went about $320 plus tax, $320. Like $400. Yeah, so I remember going. I remember going one time, bro, and it wasn't even for us, from Smorshen, it was going to get a plan B and as a man, I couldn't go in there and just get the plan B and some might not know where it's at. It's over on Shaker, remember this was before that came out.

Speaker 1:

I always had to put my dick out on the counter to show this is authentic, it's from my dad, you know what I'm saying. Like, hey, this is authentic, it's from my dad, you know what I'm saying. But I went in there to get it and they wouldn't let me just get it as a man, because it's like Hunter and Wade, we don't know if we're like forcing her or going against her will. Can you like call her or something? Call the young lady, Call Chris, the way. I like Chris, just act like you. She was very cooperative. So it was like hey, you know, didn't want to talk to you, got to listen to this recording, you know just the motivation.

Speaker 1:

And me just sitting in the lobby, bro, that shit make you change your goddamn mind, it do. He's just sitting there like we agree, bitch, if I got here? You fucking agree. I ain't even know. We agree, bitch, if I got here, right, you fucking agree. All right, let's round up this money, bitch, right. But just having that choice, it was like, hey, yeah, man for sure I'm going to go get it. They made me call her. She talked to them. They ended up giving it to me, but they gave me a stank face like you convinced her Shut up, just one of them. But this is before.

Speaker 1:

They sold Plan B's at Dollar General and shit. You know what I'm saying. You better take two of them. Make sure you get all that up out of there. Did you know?

Speaker 1:

Plan B's do not work if you are ovulating? Word, word, my nigga. You got to read the fine print. Well, hold tight though. Word, my nigga. You got to read the fine print. Well, hold tight, though, hold tight. Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa.

Speaker 1:

So plan Bs do not work if you are ovulating. However, the time where you really want to take a plan B is if you just got bussed and you are in fact ovulating. If you got cream pied yeah, cream pied up in that zone Right While you're ovulating. That's probably when you you know hey, look, man, I'm I lost once. I lost one time I miscalculated, it was December 4th. I thought we was good. Yeah, I thought we was good. Yeah, I thought we was good. You know we wasn't. You know the ovulation period, but it's, you know, it's a window, and freedom speakers correct me if I'm you know I don't, I don't have a vagina, okay. However, there's a window, uh, you know, between cycles where a woman is extremely likely to get pregnant and that's when you probably really want to, really want to take that plan B. So what is this? I'm not sure We'll have to.

Speaker 1:

Freedom speakers, women, most definitely women who are women and they got that thing they mama gave them them. Women or trans. I'm willing to have a conversation and have somebody come on here and really invite us into that world and so we can have some understanding. But most definitely women first. I want to hear from women. You can DM us at permission, that number two underscore, speak freely podcast, to be able to become a guest onto the show, please, and give us your views of these different things. You know, we two men with dicks and balls just talking about different things, but we would love to have a woman's point of these different things. You know, we, we two men with dicks and balls just talking about different things, but we would love to have a, a woman's point of view on things you feel me like.

Speaker 1:

I would love to be able to have that woman in here and be able to say, from her mind and not speaking on all women, but just whoever I rock with her, who identify with her, but I would love that. And if you would love to be on the show, please, please, please, please, reach out to us man. So to us man. Thank you so much. I'm glad you said that, because we're hearing men speaking for women right now and I don't want to be a hypocrite, because we got men in office speaking for women too, and that's the problem. Yeah, understood, and this is why I'm like hey, I'm down for the women to be able to speak up and have that platform and say what they want to say. Man, I'm, I am for that. Um.

Speaker 1:

So when it comes to those things that be on that's on the ballot of abortion, hey man, I don't even really feel like that's something that men should be um too heavily a part of. Yeah, however, oh, the baby to me is just as much his as it is hers. I think one of the things that is swept up under the rug sometimes is that, um, the emotion that the father has for the child and every right that he should, that should naturally come with the birth of the child. Yeah, if the woman says I'm pregnant to that man and he like, hey, I don't want it, it should be a healthy discussion for them to be able to resolve pregnancy, come to a resolution on pregnancy decisions and options. Um, but if she chooses to go against that and say I want the child, I do believe it's fair for that man to be like, hey, I'll still provide, but you kind of really going against my will. You almost crippling me or handicapping me if I'm saying I don't want it but you like yeah, because when the tables is turned and she says she wants it and he doesn't, it's kind of like she overrides everything. It becomes a nature thing, whether it's my body, it's this and that it was this, it's that. It was like bitch, I was just in you too, and I'm with that.

Speaker 1:

But at the end of the day, we everybody men, women we got to be more responsible with sex. There's a lot of reckless sex going on. You know what I'm saying? Ultimately, babies can be born from that. It's unhealthy, it causes unhealthy upbringing. Daddy wasn't there, mommy wasn't there, that type of shit. So we as a people, all people, we got to be more responsible with sex, because it starts there For sure. It starts there.

Speaker 1:

If you're going to have sex, protect yourself. Get a plan B when you don't need one. That way you got one when you need one. Yeah, the pull out method don't always work. Not always, they don't always work. You can make a little bit up in there. Don't let her ride too good, yeah, yeah. Or throw it back. Throw her off that. Hey, get the fuck off me. What's wrong with you? Mhm, mhm, keep doing that. Like you love me, you better stop. And if you in love, sometimes you gotta stop. Them like hey, man, we already married. We already married. Hey, that's the fact. Because I'm telling you, man, you doing it like, hey, I'm telling you, don't worry about it, don't worry about it, yeah, man. So I say that, just so.

Speaker 1:

I do believe that men should be able to have a voice when it comes to their children. I believe that we have been muted a long time on that. Fathers do actually care, fathers are around, fathers social media makes that available for us to see how fathers are really involved and how some aren't. Um, and that fathers don't have emotions when it comes to their children, like fathers don't have, uh, separation anxiety if not seeing their children. Fathers don't have postpartum depression after the babies are born or things of that nature, or still having to provide in their roles. You know what I'm saying. So I just speak freely from that of having to kind of almost fight, of like I give a fuck too. Yeah, yeah, man, it's like you, not by your goddamn self, motherfucker.

Speaker 1:

It gets so ridiculous, man, because, man, you know we get silenced. You know what I'm saying. We get told to shut up and sometimes we tell ourselves that thing because it's. You know, I'm a man, I gotta just with this. Just what I'm trying to do is what I gotta deal with. You know what it really takes for us to speak up for one another and for women to understand, man, that men, we gotta go through this with you.

Speaker 1:

You know I'm saying, whether it be a, a miscarriage happening or an abortion, even if he say he didn't want that baby, he's still connected to you because a part of a part of him was inside you for whatever period of time. You know I'm saying and it may seem like that's something that can just go away, but you're gonna be forever connected to that person. Y'all shared a child with a. That child's life didn't last as long as maybe it was supposed to, you know, but y'all went through that together. You know what I'm saying and I guess I guess it depends on the man as well. You know what I mean Because, let's say, y'all in a relationship and y'all decide to make that choice, to terminate the pregnancy. He love you, he care about you. He's definitely going through that.

Speaker 1:

Now, if you just got bussed down on Friday night and you didn't even know his real name, his name was T From the F. It could have been Terrence Terrell Terminator. You don't know who the fuck this nigga was, you know. Sure, it's less of a connection. However, you know we got to be responsible with sex, I agree, I agree, man, what would? How would you promote safe sex? Stop just fucking yo.

Speaker 1:

I always been a picky nigga. I ain't just fucking anything. That's real. I always been that way. But it's a lot of that going on, man.

Speaker 1:

First night, one night stands and all that shit. You know what I'm saying. You don't believe. In one night stands he said no, if we're being responsible, no, you don't think. Hold on. So time means responsibility. It's definitely a part of it. So you wouldn't get no pussy first night. If you got a rubber, I'd be concerned. It's like a mudflag, not concerned like a mother fucker, I'd be concerned like a mother fucker. Okay, let's paint this. I'm a fun type nigga. I understand. I understand, maybe at a time, but not now, not now. This is why I'm asking what time we talking. If I met her tonight, or I knew her four weeks, hey, man, if she trying. Nah, we had this discussing as well.

Speaker 1:

Man, hoes are important and I don't mean hoes disrespectfully. Hoes should be valued. Hoes are fun, hoes are needed in the world and in some cases, hoes keep relationships together. Yeah, cause she convinced you that you can't stay there. You got to go back home. This is true as well. But you got to be responsible with the hoes. You can't be shooting the hoes club up.

Speaker 1:

Fellas, you know what I'm saying. Wrap it up. You know what I mean. Hoes, you can't be. If you know you ain't on the pill, if you know you ain't got the depo shot, don't know. And I and I gotta go back because I don't want to take. How about be responsible with sex? Why y'all gotta fuck today? Because we horny again. You'll see. But see now like, and I and I understand, don't feel into manage. This is true and I do understand you can't. Just you get some head, get some head from where 69 I can't from, can't get pregnant from head. You good, hey, that it's a blow job.

Speaker 1:

Nostalgia moment, real quick. People, don't get in trouble with your nostalgia, go ahead. No, I mean, I remember when my mother growing up used to always say to us like a spit, don't make babies. Oh shit, spit don't make babies. So you better tell that girl put her mouth on the spit, don't make no babies. And I had to sit back and be like man. Did you tell them? My sister's? The same shit. Tell the nigga, eat the box, tell him, just spit on it. But just, uh, vague information, just suck it.

Speaker 1:

That's it like's that it comes from different angles, but I will say, when it comes to those like to sex, because that's an important part of life, remember, we marry men and then say it on the show Like hey man, you know we can put a zero on that number at the end of that time. How many times we having sex per month? You know what I'm saying. Nigga, put a zero on there. You know what I'm saying nigga, put a zero on there. You know I'm saying nigga, like nigga put, nigga could put a zero on there and be like hey, you know you can get that little ass up, let me get. Let me get a little, a little bit more what you saying. You sitting around on that coochie all day, get that shit. You ain't doing that. You with that coochie gonna serve you no justice, just warming that motherfucker up. Let me out. Can I have it please, please, you ain't doing shit with me. Get that shit the fuck up. And I say that as, like hey man, I look at sex from a very tribal ritual standpoint.

Speaker 1:

More than just a hump and bump, it's a meme going around on social media where they got the lady like all they want to do is do this to you. Yeah, they just want to do that, yeah, and she, she got a good rhythm smacking, yeah. But I understand the teachings that come in out of the, the um trust that comes with that, like exercising the trust in that, or the exercise and the vulnerability that comes with that, like, bitch you about to see me naked, probably on soft and hard Little chub too. Yeah, you gonna see, I gotta walk to the bathroom naked. Like this nigga got hips. You know what I'm saying, he gonna, but just, he got booty hair. Yeah, he was like this nigga. He got some pimples on his ass. But this is with one another.

Speaker 1:

And then still, because you added a layer, now, right, you added a layer and then still be able to see how can you manage yourself with this person, mm-hmm, and if you and if you so I'll tell you this if, when I know I'm handling business right at home with wifey, for sure she becomes extra domestic towards me, okay, towards me, okay, all right. So if I'm handling business right on the couple times I might get blessed with my nest, that she'll become extremely domestic. She already a cook and do stuff like that, but she'll do certain things special for me. So I'm a huge tea person. How people are so overhead over heels for their coffee, I'm the same way about my tea and I got a particular way. I like my tea. When I see her giving a damn about the details of my tea, especially within like the last 48, 18, 48 hours of getting smack right, and I get to see this hey, you know, I got your tea ready. I know you like this particular tea.

Speaker 1:

I got some, some lemons, I think fresh lemons. I actually grew them for you, yeah, and rinsed them off, diced them up the way that you like. I made them in quarters, I put them in there with your two ice cubes. I even rinsed the ice cubes off so they're really icy, they're fresh ice for you. I put them in there and I got this set up for you. I got your Reese's Cups for you. Later I got two, three different things that I thought for you for for dinner and that's you gonna let him do this shit. That's just gloating to me. But as I told you, bro, I had to learn and it's just freedom.

Speaker 1:

Speakers to men. I know we are very, very, uh, sexually motivated, okay. So this is why hoes win. Sometimes they look at it. Your wife should still be your hoe. She should not like, take that out. Like, don't you dare try to have a quality of your fucking self now, bitch you married motherfucker. You supposed to be the biggest hoe ever. Throw that ass back now, don't you like? I said don't. Why the fuck is she sitting on the ass all goddamn day, motherfucker, you don't serve, give it to me. So an old hoe Told me this back in the day. She's like this, my cock. Okay, you feel blessed To be that. I let you in and she had to be old Cause she called her shit a cock. Yeah, that's wild, that's crazy. You know what I'm saying. So she want one of them airs. But she like hey, this is mine and I, I gatekeep, who comes in and now you can have some you can visit. But goes and comes with me, young man, okay, and I would just yes, man, you are.

Speaker 1:

Nothing truer was ever said about the power of your pussy of like, hey, this I control who visit, I know who I'm probably pregnant to fuck by. Remember that's great pussy management. I think that fell off somewhere by niggas getting really good with talking shit to bitches because they like to be ear fucked, they like to be said good shit too, and they just have fun for a little while, and sometimes fun can be mismanaged. Okay, it can be mismanaged. So this is where the free clinic. Come in, the smorgasbord clinic. Come in, go get yourself your shots, get yourself cleaned up, but keep in mind you can't stop sex, but you have to be responsible, and I'm a huge responsible person on that.

Speaker 1:

Like fellas, don't eat unqualified box, not at all okay if if she eating seafood boils and you don't see no water in the house, and I mean quality water, high, high ph, like some some puree, some intentional water. She got, yeah, she got the essential joints. She got the, not just the nestle your life, yeah, don't get no goddamn nasty as dear part. Some great value, regular shit, the sonny don't get. Which great value is actually pretty good great value. You said which one great value? The walmart brand brand water. I mean, it tastes good. I don't have a vagina to manage, so I'm good.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, however, but as men, because we talk a lot about the genie, you know you have a woman, come in and finish that another day. But for men, your sexual health too. Bruh Water, vegetables Ain't no woman trying? You want her to swallow your shit? Pineapple juice, but, nigga, your shit tastes saltier than the motherfucker from which she's stating yeah, chipotle, like nigga, you got too much protein in your diet. Nigga, food, food, food. Drink you some water, nigga, work out. Yeah, walk the block. Get you to do some pushups. Keep your shit right.

Speaker 1:

As you get older, nigga, you might find your shit not being like it was, your erection not being like it was when you was a teenager and your dick just got hard because the wind blew. Now, as a grown man, you more mental. When you young, remember, you would just fuck because the pussy dangling it's there. Now, as a grown man with shit and bills and commitments, you like I ain't even got the mental space to fuck today. And this extra pussy you trying to throw? Nah, you don't attract me. You ain't even got a vehicle, baby, you fucking with value now. So, men, I gotta come get you. Nah, I'm good. We can't meet nowhere. Nah, I'm okay, it's too much work. You gotta fuck with value, man.

Speaker 1:

You gotta that man if you are looking to get top-notch women to your scope, okay, so what's what works for you? If it's she got some skills and she got some abilities and she got some talents for show, if she look good to you, she got the aesthetic to you, she got a style to you, she hold herself in a way, she got to come. Whatever it is, make sure that shit work for you and it's quality man, so that before you go ahead and you eating box or you stroking or you feel like, hey, man, I'm gonna go ahead and drop one off, you didn't process that this person has some qualities that I can fuck with, I can work with, I can manage, and not just we got the sexual chemistry, because that shit can wear off. Yeah, that shit can wear off. And if you try to build a foundation on sex because this is why we got to be responsible for sex, okay, you hit off with Shorty first night and it's good, it's the bomb. Damn, she was doing this and that to. To the brother you said, oh girl, he was hitting all my spots. You go ahead and try to build a foundation on sex. That shit is not solid, it is not gonna last, but it's a really good substitute. It's a really good substitute. You get to, she get to work in that she get to shift the gears On your shit, nigga, she get to. Just, it's nice if you're trying to, if you're trying to build a tent, yeah. So I'll say this.

Speaker 1:

I say that because we always promote as men Jokingly Like to our wives or women or the women we date or whatever that if we were to probably Get a little bit more sex, we would be a little bit more sex, we would be a little bit more nicer, we'd be a little bit more motivated. The kids would be happier. For sure they have a better father in their life. Real shit, man, I'm so much of a better dad after I done got some men Like hey, son, you need help with your own. It's okay, you didn't do so good on your spelling test, huh, hey, we'll get them next time. Champ, let's have some ice cream with sprinkles.

Speaker 1:

Let me be two weeks out the game Boy. Didn't we rehearse you boys? And that's just how it go. Say, be two weeks out the game, two weeks out the game. Kids watch out. That's 14 days. Look out for your children, ladies, do it for the kids. If not for him, do it for the children.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, man, so we promote. Hey, this is why hoes be winning, and maybe hoes can give wives some advice. You know what I'm saying. Hey look, baby, don't ever forget the husband, don't forget the man. Fuck him regularly. You know what I'm saying. Make sure he right, don't make it a job. Make it, you know. Make, enjoy it if it's enjoyable. If it's if it's enjoyable, if it's not, you might want to speak up and say something like hey, baby, a little bit to the left, a little bit to the right, a little bit more, drink you some water, drink, uh, take you some vitamins or something. Amen. So I'll say this, one of the things that do help me, excuse me, in the morning, making sure I keep my just my shit right on some men's health. For a second, mental health and sexual health.

Speaker 1:

As I mentioned earlier, man, I'm a huge tea person, so I like to drink my tea raw no honey, no sugar, no nothing. I just like to drink it raw. However, I do enjoy the natural benefits of what what raw honey can do for you. You know I what I'm saying? The antioxidants for your body, indigestion, all of the good stuff, and you ain't got to kill nothing for it to be made. So I'll ask Nessa, because she's going to be making my tea for me in the mornings. Hey, can you just go ahead and put a little bit of honey in there for me and I drink it like that, man, I don't add no domino sugar, no, save a lot of sugar, no, all these sugar, no, no, nothing. I'll add. No, nothing, none of that. But drinking that tea was like another herb for me, man. It gives me like some mental clarity. Um, I can feel, you know, my energy be good. You know, I got the, uh, that extra little kick. Sometimes the tea got the caffeine in there.

Speaker 1:

So this, this you mentioned a while ago, you had five things that every man should have, five things a quality man should have. You want to recap your list real quick, if you remember? Yeah, yeah, yeah, man, real quick. Five things that most Two bags, glasses, a do-rag, uh, some black efforts I was going to say some white forces, that's great, beat it again.

Speaker 1:

But on the basics, man, one, have you and this is no particular order, I can't remember exactly a particular order, just give a few if you can. One have yourself a tool bag. Two have yourself means of reliable transportation. Three have you some money, aka some hustle something about yourself. You can get to the bag in some kind of way to get things moving. The number four is a big one, is a game changer, of giving you, like a, a place to live that shows a heavy level of responsibility, uh, and you can recruit women to come and lay up in your spot, you know, safely right.

Speaker 1:

And then the last one would be, you know, having some style, some personality, some Either you being able to dress, you funny, you got a good sense of humor, you smart, you intellectual, you know, you deep. You know what I'm saying. You read a lot. It was something that Show some intellect, absolutely, man. So just those five things, man, I feel like, and those are just the basics, man. Those just get you in the door, get you started.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, but the reason why I asked you to recap that and, by the way, I famously went into a whole women don't want him, but we already talked about that. I stand on that. Can you curate real quick, perhaps, five things that make up a quality woman, just from your perspective? Yeah, yeah, yeah. What are five things that you would like to see that a woman has For me, man, I like, if I can go, five things and it's just. You know that's a good-ass question, man. So five things for me. That gets me, and I'm going to ask you this too. So keep your thoughts. So keep your thoughts, take notes and it's off the riff.

Speaker 1:

For me, probably the number one thing that I would need from her man is like a level of cooperation, like, hey, baby, we a team, but I'm in charge, you are in charge on things that are, you know, she more powerful than me. But let's communicate, which would be number two. Okay, communication is number two. She got to be able to effectively communicate with me in any manner. She can write a note, she can draw me a picture, she can be really good with her words, she can text it, she can be vivid with it and not have to be open. So being cooperative is one, communicating is two. So being cooperative is one, communicating is two.

Speaker 1:

Number three I need her to be sensual. Be a girl, be a motherfucking girl. Be a girl, okay, be a girl. Play in makeup, do your hair Stretch, be flexible, shave your booty hole if you can reach it, you know. But like self-care, warm towel on your shit. But be a girl, polish polishing nails. Be a girl, be a fucking girl, all right, and then four would be I need her to be complimentary. You know she doesn't have to be involved in everything I do physically, but if she just cheering for me, yeah, that's a heavy thing, like. That's a heavy, heavy thing of like hey, you, you speaking that life into me and I'm that man that I need, that I thrive off of, off off that, those words of affirmation, that powerful thing.

Speaker 1:

Then the last one would be, which probably should be the first one to be honest with you, is respect. Respect, which probably should be the first one to be honest with you, is respect. Respect like respect, probably before all of those that I think all of those are filtered into respect, yeah, but respect is probably the biggest submission that this part. Anybody for sure man, and I think a lot of women really don't even understand why we feel that way. You know I'm saying these days I was like a lot of women just have a desire to go against. You know I'm saying what days I feel like a lot of women just have a desire to go against.

Speaker 1:

You know I'm saying what a nigga really got to say. Like I ain't trying to tell you, I'm just a mcgrath, I'm like I ain't trying to, I ain't trying to tell you nothing that's gonna put us in harm's way, put you in danger, put us in the fucked up position. But when I'm saying something, I'm trying to get you to say, hey, baby, this, this what we gonna do, we gonna move this way, you know, saying we're not gonna do that this month, but next month we'll start that. You know what I mean. Whatever the case may be. And then just the need to have some sort of rebuttal you know how sexy to be just for you to go. Okay, I like that plan.

Speaker 1:

You know what I'm saying, especially if I made it make sense. Yeah, yeah, now, if I'm just telling you some straight bullshit and you don't, hey, you sure, and that's the man who ain't got, you know what I'm saying? The intellect. You probably shouldn't be with that guy. By the way. However, yeah, that respect man, oh my God, that's invaluable. So I'll say this If you noticed in the, in the five things that I wrote down, that I mean that I didn't write them, I said them.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, I probably won't remember, I'm gonna listen back, yeah, but if you notice, I didn't even mention love. Most, most men, okay, freedom speakers and I'm speaking, you know, specifically, specifically to the women my bad are driven. Most men are driven by other values and other admirations in life, besides pussy being driving him after a while, material things, that doesn't drive him after a while. But you respecting that person, you being cooperative with that man, you having a sense of human personality, like on your own, you really like hey, I guess you can say like I, and I believe this with my whole heart man, I feel like most women ride heavier for the nigga that they like than the nigga they love, like being on both sides of it. If, like hey man, she, this motherfucker, did everything when, when we was liking on each other.

Speaker 1:

But once we fell in love, once love came into play, it was, you know, that love got divided up a little bit, which is understandable. But that kind of, like I said, puts you on the back burner of hey man. Know, I am equipped to handle things and do things, but I still need you, I still want to make sure you know I've got this, that. And the third, regardless of what is going on throughout my day, I purposely still make time for you, yeah, in the morning, noon, night, yeah, just because I'm a fly-ass type nigga like that. That is like I purposely make the time. I ain't telling you I'm too busy. Yeah, I'm making that. You know what I'm saying. So respect that.

Speaker 1:

So, yeah, I think for any man, like love is likely won't be in that top five, it's there, you'll find it in the top ten, but for most men love is not going to be in that top five list. You know I'm saying respect is first. You know I'm saying like, respect my purpose. So if you want to kind of go into my, because I like your list, you know I put I pull a lot from your list and just, real quickly, I just I just wrote down um, a couple of things, but, um, respecting a man's purposes and understanding.

Speaker 1:

I may not be home with you all the time. There may be times where you feel like you know you don't have much of my direct help with the kids and stuff like that and it is hard. But understand for a man it's like our job, we outside, getting what needs to be done, done you know what I mean A place that you don't have to go. Yeah, for sure, For sure. So understanding a man's purpose and understanding is like hey, baby, this is what I do. This is what I do and I need to know that you got my back. See, while I'm doing this, you ain't got to worry about outside, I got this and I know I got you here and I ain't got to worry about my kids taking care of because I know they got you. That's balance, that's complimentary.

Speaker 1:

You know I'm saying um, and for women, I do understand how that's not home. They miss that. You know I'm saying but gotta respect a man's purpose. You know I'm saying and value that, yeah, because I don't think that you would most women would, and I say more women than none, I don't think would overall respect a man who didn't get up and go outside. Yeah, you know, he didn't go out there and get about a sweater, his brow and figure something out. You know, if this was in the 1800s or early 1900s, as my son and them would say, hey, you would have to go out there and hunt If you didn't have the grocery stores, it was like, hey, did you have a man that can actually go out there and hunt and guarantee we was going to eat every night? Yeah, that's a skill, that's a this, that's a that. It's no different in a civilized world now of, hey, can he go and hold down 10-, 12 hour, 8 hour job? Can he go be productive there and show how great he is there, that he climbing the ladder, that, hey, that he making moves. He got not just power at the job but he got power at home. He got power in the world. For sure, man, he making things move for the family. You know what I'm saying.

Speaker 1:

And if a man being in his purpose is a problem for you as a woman, ah, that's a, that's a, that's a big fault. You're gonna have a hard time being happy in that marriage slash relationship. A man gots to be in his purpose if he gotta worry about making sure you're happy, because famously, you know, will smith said that's not my job to make sure you happy, that's your job. Like, like you told Jada, I'll tell you what. Show me that you can be happy by yourself. Just to show me that it's fucking possible, because I've been trying to do everything to make you happy and nothing seems to work. So it's your turn. You make you happy. I'll be over here. Let me know when you get there.

Speaker 1:

You know, that's a bold ass, realistic statement, because you cannot make somebody else happy, yeah, and you can get lost in who. You are trying to fill somebody else up yeah, you can get so lost and they think that it only happens to to women that, oh, I lost who I was. I was just trying to be there for tyrone, yeah, and it's like lose yourself. It's very easy to. When you're trying to please, yeah. When you're trying to connect, when you're trying to be the difference, you know most niggas, I ain't like that nigga, I don't do that shit. But it can possibly happen. And even on the flip side, man, you could tell her like, hey, man, you know, this happened to me whatever woo, woo, woo. And then, nigga, you find yourself in the same predicament because, nigga, you almost gave this person ammunition to place you in that same role. Yeah for sure, in that same role. Yeah, for sure.

Speaker 1:

So it, it is gentle, it is hey, you got to be dealing with quality and dealing with a person enough to feel like, hey, I want to. I want to share my words with you. Yeah, okay, more than just your life, man, but meaning. There's two things that I feel like people need to survive for sure is nutrition a food or some substance of some sort of course and words, if it's poetry, if it's music, if it's just conversation, if it's just a baby crying, he sound just like a baby, little baby, little, baby Jesus in the manger. But you need those, man. Those words can change. It fills you up, man, and it nourishes your soul. You go to church sometime to get that, that, that word. You go to the mosque sometime to get that man. You might even go just talk to an og and just get that word. Man, but you, you, you need that, you need that man. So just switch it up real quick, man.

Speaker 1:

Um, you went to church recently. Yeah, yeah, I did. You went to a service recently. How you feel, bro? I feel like one. The service was a very beautiful service, a very beautiful home going. I'm very thankful and blessed to be in attendance, to be able to see someone who meant so much as a pillar to the family, to the community, to the church, just somebody who is held that high in regard in their home, going like, how could I ever forget this? Yeah, how can I ever forget a beautiful ceremony? So it made me at the same time feel like, hey, bro, I need to open up my church. Ever forget this. Yeah, how can I ever forget? Like a beautiful ceremony. So it made me at the same time feel like, hey bro, I need to open up my church. I don't know, go ahead and do it. Yeah, man, but on the preaching side, man did a wonderful job. I needed those words to be filled up.

Speaker 1:

Shout out to Bishop Marble J Street, jefferson Street, baptist Church, nashville, tennessee, nashville, baby. But I enjoyed it, man. And you were in attendance, man, you actually Von Baby. If you didn't know, von Baby had a solo at the church. That's what they called me man First saying that. Man. So you know.

Speaker 1:

Last episode, man, we spoke about Granny passing away. Maddie Lockridge, m-a-t-t-i-e. Ai Spelt my granny name wrong. I'm sorry. We're going to get Sonny from Matty. Okay, matty Lockridge. Her service was this past Monday, man, definitely a beautiful service, man. She had quite the home going. I'm honored man.

Speaker 1:

First of all, thank you for being in attendance. Man, that was definitely a surprise. You and vanessa, you know I turned around just to see, uh, I packed the house. You know I'm saying, and then y'all sitting with maybe four rows behind me, I'm like, oh shit, what's going on, man? That was definite man. I thank y'all so much, so much for showing up for granny man. That meant, that meant a lot.

Speaker 1:

I felt like Alfred on Batman 3. The Dark Knight Rises Shout out to Christopher Nolan he produced those and directed those. But at the end where he tells him one day I want to see you just over there for yourself. Every year I take a vacation. I tried to just keep my composure when I seen you turn around and I'm like hey, caught eyes real quick and was just like hey, bro, I'm here. Yeah, the support man, just the support. Like hey, I, I have to do no work, I have to move no tables, I had to get no speeches and normally I'm the center in certain situations. So it's like, bro, I'm just.

Speaker 1:

It feels good to be a guest and be complimentary, yeah, to what's going on. Thank you so much for being there, bro. Thank you for even making us aware. Yeah, you know I'm saying and even sharing with us here at permission to speak freely podcast, how raw you feel about this person, how you connect with her, how, just in this freedom speakers, during this beautiful, beautiful ceremony, man, you just kind of you couldn't count how many times they said the powell name, how many times they gave thanks to the entire family, yeah, and if you can share with the people how you actually connect to granny, um, so granny is my. I'm not, and this is is something I meant to say. I'm not a biological Grandchild Of Maddie Locker, but you go and tell that to granny and see if she gonna fix you up real quick. Yeah, for sure you know what I'm saying, but they used to call it back, they'd hem you up, yeah, and she just might say that's my baby, that's my baby, my brother, my sister. You know I'm saying granny's baby. You know I'm saying, um, so that is my, my. I'm gonna just break it all the way down. Granny is my mother's brothers, so my uncle's wife's mother.

Speaker 1:

Now let me go a little bit deeper, because we're sharing stories. You know, post her passing. Granny knew me before I knew me. Granny knew my mother before my mother knew herself. Granny has always been around. My mother, when she was born, had three grown adult brothers, okay, who, I believe. Maybe even one of them were married before my mother was born, and my mother has a niece who's actually older than her. So my uncles were established grown men with a baby sister, okay, infant, yeah. So my uncle's mother-in-law, granny, has always known my family Lived in the same projects.

Speaker 1:

At one point in time Granny and my grandmother lived in the same building. Grandma on the time, uh, granny and my grandmother lived in the same building grandma on the first floor, granny on the second floor. We'd be at, uh, grandma house for dinner, at granny house for dessert. You know I'm saying um, but granny, always, we was her, we was her grandbabies, we was her grandbabies, my brother lamar, my sister lenita. You know, banana pudding will never be the same, will never be the same, will never be the same.

Speaker 1:

And Aaron had talked about that at the service. I had asked. I said, hey, who retired Granny from making the banana pudding? They said, man, one time it had tasted like mothballs. It tasted like mothballs. I was like, yeah, granny can't make the banana pudding, no more, you know. But yeah, granny made a fire banana pudding. I ain't even like banana pudding. I eat granny's dog For sure, I eat granny's. I love banana pudding. Now, you know, and now the holidays coming up, man, somebody got to come with it on this banana pudding. Yeah, come with it, because I'm comparing you to granny's Banana pudding is probably almost as significant to the black family, as like the mac and cheese, yes, as the yams, it's on the, it's on the.

Speaker 1:

As far as desserts, because they're in two different arenas, you know you got dessert, you know, but the banana pudding is just as important as the yams and mac and cheese and greens, it's got to be busting the German chocolate cake. It's up there, it's up there. Somebody can, let's, say the chicken wasn't too good. Hey, you still got the turkey and the ham. Yeah, for sure, you know, when the chicken was a little dry, you just let it soak up in the green juice. Hey, do that For people who don't mind they food touching, like my, like my shit, you know.

Speaker 1:

But uh, I'm honored man, because my aunt, my aunts, allowed me, asked me and allowed me to be on program at grand man. That meant so much to me, man, that meant so, that meant the world to me, to be able to go up there and just speak. You know what I mean, man. I I really can't explain that, man, because I was actually gonna ask my auntie, aline, before she had asked me. Like you gonna be on program for us. I was gonna wait till you got the phone. Hey, you mind if I say some remarks and she asked me I'm like, yes, yes, absolutely know, but granny loved all of her children, all of her grandchildren, great grandchildren, great great grandchildren.

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Everybody man just having a family as large as are being blessed to have a family as large as ours. And I'm pretty sure all of my, my siblings and cousins have a story, or even just a memory, from when granny looked out for you in some sort of way. Rather, it was something you needed as an adult or just something you wanted as a child, you know, like myself, just wanting a cookie or a piece of cake, you know I'm saying or you actually needing some advice from granny when you get into your older years. That's what she meant to us, you know, and just like I said at the service man, we are and forever will be granny's baby. We love you, granny, we're going to miss you and we'll see you when we get there. Amen, as once again, bro, beautiful man. Amen, as once again, bro, beautiful man.

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Um, the impact she left. Do you feel inspired by that impact? Yes, definitely, um, because that's what you want, right? You know, that's where you win if you blessed to live that long and leaving a legacy like that. How old was she 94, 94 years old, blessed to live 94. You know how much the world has changed in 94 years. I'm thankful that she didn't have to sit there and see this be elected again. She got out right on time. Got out hey, granny, got on up out of here. I'm thankful that she didn't have to see that. You know what I mean, cause she already lived through the one once. Yeah, I'm thankful.

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I'll tell you what my, my grandma, my mother's mother, passed away under the Obama administration, never didn't have, didn't have to see, didn't have to see a Trump presidency. You know what I mean. And she loved. I remember my grandmother man.

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She had a picture, an 8x10, a picture of the Obama family sitting on the coffee table, right where she could see it when she's sitting in her chair, right. So somebody who lived in the same building wanted that same picture. My Uncle Lawrence goes hey, ma, I'm going to. So somebody who lived in the same building wanted that same picture. My uncle lawrence goes hey, ma, I'm gonna take this, I'm gonna get you another one, I'm gonna get this. I think it was sister turning. I'm gonna get this sister turn. I'm bringing up.

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My grandma, who was the sweetest lady in the world said uh-uh, you ain't take. Uh, no, no, my picture. Stand right there, go get her one. You ain't taking mine and you gonna bring me another one. Uh-uh, no, she wasn't having that. She was proud, amen. Shout out to Granny. Shout out to Granny One more time For sure. Much love and respect to Granny, to the Lockridge family, to the Powell family, from here, from us, here, at Permission to Speak Freely Podcast. Hey, man you.

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We talked about legacy before man, and we got a chance to see somebody's legacy be spoken of in their passing man, and so I got a question man, if you could direct your own funeral, man, I knew you was going with it how would you like to see your shit from the audience? I know right, and that's something I was just thinking about that this morning, because I replayed the service again. It was on YouTube. Man, I don't know, bro, I ain't going to act like. I wish I could be there. Maybe I'll fake my day. You will in a way, but like are you, though? Do you get a chance to let me see how they put on for me? Who's singing? Okay, they, ah. Like, do you get to be there or are you making your way Like no, you don't get to see, you know.

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But like I want it to be, I want it to be similar to grannies, similar to grandma, similar to big heads, just full of love and family. Man, I want, I want, man, I want all my kids to be able to have a lot of kids, back to being responsible. You know what I'm saying. But I want my kids, I want all of them, to have a lot of kids. Like, minimum, I need three out of each of y'all, that's 12. That's 12 grandkids, all right, and then for them to have kids. Like I want that man. I'm weird, bro. I can't wait to have grandkids. No, but I'm in the same boat. It's a lot for us to put on.

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Kj and Kyro to be out here. Fucking you know what I'm saying Sounds so ridiculous have a bunch of kids because I want to be a pop pop, I want to be Pop Parkin. So bad, yeah, man. But I want to be able to be blessed, to live that long that I get to see because I got laid nigga how all this shit turns out. I'm just getting some booty. He Just getting some booty. He said I done built a whole army because your mama was horny. We ain't had no playing bees back in our day, nigga, it was pull and pray. That's real man, pull and pray man. But to answer your question, man, I just got to conceive. Man, I do not know.

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I know the songs I want sung. You know what I mean, one of them being I'll just put it out there now, man, for all we know, by Donny Hathaway or somebody. Just do that for me, you know what I'm saying. Like that song and definitely celebrate my life. Man, y'all know it's going to be sad, y'all going to miss me. I hope I can become a complete a-hole, you know. But man, just just man, I do think about that often, not only this morning. I think about that often. Like man, y'all better put on for me my funeral. Yeah, yeah, yeah, and we talk about that. Man, death is a part of life.

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I want people to wear black, white and accents of green to represent life. Yeah, accents of green, not like lime green, like a green tie, green, look, you know what I'm saying. Ladies with green scarves, you can pull out your green hat, your light, you know your darker green, not like lime green. Yeah, yeah, you know your darker green, not like lime green. Yeah, yeah, you know, but I'm going to just put it out there now. I hope my wife take notes. You know my kids.

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I joke around. I joke around with death because I got a unique relationship with it. But as I become more relevant to it I'm like oh yeah, I ain't more of a sneak up on your whole ass. You can get anybody. Yeah for sure that I used to just want just to be cremated and put me on a, put me on a mantelpiece somewhere.

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But now and I get to see like different people, homegoers and the celebrations that are with it man, I'm nigga, I'm trying to get a tune like Jesus. Why, like, I want a nice-ass tune. When you pull up to the grave site, like that's that nigga right there, like you can't miss my shit. So you want to get a mausoleum, if that's what they call them. Yeah, they got a mausoleum. I wasn't looking up the name too much, I just was like that, look, fly, they got them at the box and they slide your ass out. No, no, I won't.

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When you drive through the whole motherfucking through the, through the, yeah, it's like a bunch of different. No, look, I got a tomb by myself like Jesus. Oh, this is not even one of the million dollar plot. I'll be doing all right by then, hopefully. Yeah, your back, y'all, but it's one of them, man, I I joke about it, but I would love to be like hey, man, if I, if we can keep continuously making an impact on the world the way that we are, I would love to have a monument even in my death like that, to become like to be visited.

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You can come and visit my shit. Hey, this man if you, if you scan this bar on the front of his tomb door, it play all the songs or like, or like a message just for you. Yeah, but it's doing what you do. I, I would love to live on like that. I think that plays into the legacy of yeah, you can keep me on a mantelpiece, but you know, only motherfuckers who probably really knew me or can go there. You know I'm saying it can go in the house, but if I do get a lot of land or I do, I am in the cemetery Somewhere and I got the. I got a 12 by 12 tomb In that bitch you can go in there and see me. You know what I'm saying. You can go in there and just have a seat On the bench Next to my, my tomb and shit. Yeah, hey, bro, I feel like that. That's a joke, but that's something serious.

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And y'all hearing it here on Permission to Speak Freely podcast. We are hearing the highest chief, ali, wants to be in a tomb. Hey, say people can come in and kick it. I'm going to let them know Come with me. I'm going to let them know Come relax, come do some yoga in that bitch. You know. Come talk to me, man. You know, come, hang out.

Speaker 1:

I'm undecided on if I want to do the cremated thing. I think I'm going to put me back in the earth. I'm undecided, but I think you know. I know I was just there, so it's fresh. Retire me to the earth, you know, that's where I'm at.

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Freedom Speakers, if you could choose your director of your funeral, who would it be? Would you? Are you going to call, uh, what's, what's? Phaedra? Phaedra Park? Ain't she a mortician From, uh, the Real Housewives of Atlanta? I don't know. I think Phaedra when I looked.

Speaker 1:

I used to watch that show a lot with Nessa man. I think that Fajal Parks kicked off for a minute. I think she went over to the Real Doctors, something like that, married to Medicine, which I love. That show, I like that. I like that show. Shout out to Dr Heavenly. If I could choose a style, a wife, just a raw personality, you can For sure. But on TV I would be Dr Heavenly and her husband, mr Dr Heavenly. They're both doctors. I would be their dynamic. That's kind of Nessa and I dynamic a little bit. But on the reverse, nessa is more like the husband and calm and cool decision making. And I'm Dr Heavenly.

Speaker 1:

I be wild as fuck at the mouth sometimes I be just saying shit. I do it, man, just wilding man. I do wild as fuck at the mouth. Sometimes I be just saying shit, just wilding man. Hey, freedom Speakers, man, we appreciate it. Thanks for listening, thanks for just giving us your ear for a little bit while we at our best, while we at our worst, while we going through our times. Man, we definitely appreciate it. Chief, you got anything you want to close with. Might not be the best person to close with, but I'm going to pull my Russell Simmons. Thank you all. God bless and good night. Permission to speak freely.

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