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TV Dad Parenting Styles, Shackin Up in your 20's, and Michigan Football Controversy

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Ever wondered how iconic sitcom dads can influence your parenting style? Join us on this roller-coaster episode of Permission to Speak Freely Podcast as we reference some of TV's favorite fathers - from Uncle Phil of Fresh Prince to Bernie Mac, Carl Winslow of Family Matters, and Julius from Everybody Hates Chris. 

We share our blend of parenting techniques, emphasizing humor, authority, and love. We also delve into discipline, accountability, and the importance of community in raising children. Discover how we navigate these avenues in our journey of fatherhood, and perhaps pick up a few unconventional tips along the way.

Taking a humorous detour, we engage in candid conversations on women's names and the notion of older women hitting their sexual prime. Buckle up as we challenge stereotypes, societal expectations, and discuss empowerment through owning one's body and sexuality. 

But the fun doesn't stop there - we also dive into neighborhood lawn care competitiveness, injury mishaps, and the intricacies of relationship dynamics. Packed with anecdotes, personal experiences, and even a touch of sports controversy, this episode is bound to hold your attention from start to finish.

As we reflect on our personal stories, we also discuss the idea of "shackin up" and the skills gained from marriage and relationships. We emphasize the importance of resolving differences and being accountable to one another. 

Lastly, we touch on the allegations of Michigan's football signal stealing, further highlighting the importance of accountability and integrity in all aspects of life. So whether you're a parent seeking unconventional wisdom or just looking for a good laugh, join us on this enlightening episode of Permission to Speak Freely Podcast. 

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Speaker 1:

Thank you for bringing us here on this, on this happy Friday, on this, on this very, very happy Friday. Thank you for bringing us toward another weekend. Thank you for once again bringing the big three, but it's podcast. Permission to speak freely together One more time and we look to to honor you with whatever we choose to discuss today. We ask that you put something, something good on our minds, something good on our hearts, put something on us, give us a word from you, but through us, to get to the people. Once again, thank you for bringing us here one more time. Permission to speak freely, amen.

Speaker 1:

Amen a woman. Good day people. Yeah listeners journeymen.

Speaker 2:

Here ye, here ye, here ye.

Speaker 1:

Romans. One of my favorite episodes that was on that was Damien Wang. Yeah, those that don't know freedom speakers, that's Damien Wang from the TV show. My wife and kids he was down. He ain't get that man of the year for sure. Yeah, we're sure. Damien Wayne is one of my favorite comedians and I like to model my father Style kind of after him. Yeah, he psychologically tortured the kids more than like whooping they ass but fucking in a bed though.

Speaker 2:

Right, you want to put him out the house.

Speaker 1:

Mama saved him. Don't know what about how. I just think it go Blow the horn loudest fucking way, good man.

Speaker 1:

So, tell me this man, what do you? What do you? What father style Do you use? It's a blend. I actually already have this. It's a blend between three Sikon fathers. Um, not that I think about it for, but I'm gonna just let me just go with my three and I'll give an honorable mention. It's the perfect blend between Uncle Phil Philip Banks Rest in peace James Avery um and Bernie Mac, because I don't give a fuck, but I do for sure but I do um.

Speaker 1:

I Remember when my first daughter was on the way. She'd be four soon, great. But yeah, it's like two months She'd be four. Like mother Um shout out to Nisi poop, yeah, she should be four. But I remember she was in ways like she gone, she gone soft. And you look, she don't watch. Use my mother-in-law to shout to mama rock, she gone soft. And you what? You gonna be good cuz you got the boys. Now you had a girl. Oh, yeah, she gonna change. Oh, I still don't give a fuck, I still. You can get it to, you can get it to. She begins smart with her mama. She's got this thing. Now you have to do some. Linus, go finish your sandwich.

Speaker 2:

Okay.

Speaker 1:

That's where the Bernie come out. That's when the Bernie come out. Okay, but the uncle Phil come out, you know, because he just just being a leader of leaders. You know, sam, he started off early in the show. He's a lawyer and then he judge banks. You know, sam fofa philip banks. And then I gotta throw my man, carl wins, low in there. Hmm, gotta throw Carl wins low in there as a perfect blend. My honor will mention was a Julius From. Everybody hates Chris. Just cuz a nigga gotta be a no wings. We ain't going to Wendy's tonight. We got burgers here. I can make fries. You mean the potatoes? Grab that knife, come on, we can. We get name friends next now. Just a little Obvious, be having to be frugal sometime. Hey look, this is what we doing, that's what we not. So that's my, that's my blend, my mesh of Fathers. I got them there, took them on.

Speaker 2:

I like that man.

Speaker 1:

So no, you ain't, you ain't take a moment. So let's keep in mind these are. You don't have to be that father to be in that row. Yeah, so Mine was definitely will be Michael J Kyle. Yeah, he's like he the point you run in the point of these teams, especially cuz he's such a big-ass fan of Jordan as well. Yeah, so, and LeBron Lebanon. Jane Fina, the Fina. So it would be Damien Wayne as Michael Kyle from my father and kids, my wife and kids, that I'm gonna make a show called my father and kids. It's gonna be mine. You heard it. You heard it here first, people from from chief Ali my father and kids show coming soon. All right, so it would. The next would be Damien Wayne, again, but as major, get the.

Speaker 1:

Winner fuck pain. Just one of those like I Love your boy and it's gonna be tough, cuz I'm gonna be on where I'm gonna be on your ass, like why don't rice and the paper plate and the glass of milk in the snow?

Speaker 2:

storm.

Speaker 1:

Fuck them kids, but hey, I love, I love them so much that is fuck them.

Speaker 1:

Hey, that makes perfect, sense to me, makes perfect like that sentence right there Did like I understand how some people go goddamn, that made so much sense because that's something that we live by here after mission to speak for it. Fuck them kids, especially if you take care them. That's the only way it work. That's the old, that's the key to get in. Yeah, you can't say fuck them kids and really like you don't do shit for oh, yeah. So usually fuck them kids is followed by Let me get my ass up and cook so they can get something on exactly. Give me a scenario of where the phrase or the Fucking mantra sometimes don't fuck them kids, comes into play. Give me, give me a real life scenario to where you go oh, fuck them. Give give me one, I'll give you a current. When people so listen in In our world. Today it is Friday and most Fridays it's. We wake up on a good note with a healthy level of fucked them kids, only because we made it to the end of the week. Friday is a is a universal date. It was both of. We made it is. We get a little bit of relaxation and I Kind of check out as a parent for a little bit. I'll say you know what the kids doing? What man fuck them kids They've been.

Speaker 1:

He did what, like AJ, I went to his open house yesterday and I'm and I want to shout him out, son, and I know you listening man, so yo, yo, old man is proud of you. I want to make sure the world know that I'm proud of you. Son, shout out to you that Frisbee keep doing the school thing. He is actually a AB student. Oh, yeah, he actually is a AB student and every year he has one Subject. That's difficult, that kind of making that be student for real or be man Fucking up, get you a bee, I take it so when I get to.

Speaker 1:

When we was at his open house and the teachers are showing, hey, yeah, he started at the scene and he Made some gains. Now he's at an A or you know, and he has some tests. He redid it, but he was able to kind of level his self up boom, boom, boom. On the academic side, I'm extremely proud, 100%. When it comes to the social side, I Was sitting back listening to the teachers in a gentle way, like hey, he's a little bit of a class clown.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, he's a kidder, he's a jokester. Um, he can. His grades can be better if he actually focused a little bit more. Yeah, and in the brief moment of me hearing this Fuck them kids, it was this motherfucker doing good man. He kind of almost might be bored. Yeah, he might need to be challenged just a little bit more. For sure they didn't. Yeah, they've been eating that sometimes, so I'm okay with that that. Fuck them kids kicked in of like man. I want to hear that. Shit. This nigga passing me, but I but it still was it. I wanted, it still was a. Hey man, this is the teacher's room, this is their arena. Don't heck with the teachers. You have an arena yourself which is here at permission to speak freely.

Speaker 1:

Podcast our boys are on the ads. Go download the ad. Go download every episode. That's how we get our rankings up, that's how we get our listens up. People go and download each one of those episodes. Go share it, comment, especially on Spotify. You can be able to leave questions for us to be able to talk to you people. We really want to become a little bit more engaged. Help us out, y'all engage. So me having that moment with the teacher and I'm kind of just saying to him I'm at fuck that the kids moment. I felt good as a parent to be like, okay, he's doing good academically, but I gotta check myself because his personality is mine, yeah, it is mine, so hey.

Speaker 2:

I'm not.

Speaker 1:

When that long ago your ass was sitting in that second grade class Talking shit. Talking shit, done with my work, a little bit Fuckin' with you. You can't finish yours. No, you ain't done yet, bruh. No, that's wrong yeah.

Speaker 1:

It's clearly be you a dummy, you a dummy, dumb. And you had them clothes on yesterday. You had flame hot Cheeto stand in your pants, I could tell. So I'm having to just still realize myself like in my career I can't 100% be serious. Yeah, and I run a company man. So I'm in orientation, I'm interviewing people. I'm coming in asking goofy shit Like do you put the peanut butter on your bread first? Or the jelly, tell me. And he's like, oh yeah, it determines your future.

Speaker 1:

This nigga, this nigga this nigga choked the staff and roleplay Like we was giving like real scenarios on what things that may occur on a job. This nigga choked diamond rose.

Speaker 2:

Chick had it come.

Speaker 1:

She was doing good, she was not prepared for she was not prepared and anything can happen. Protect yourself at all times.

Speaker 2:

Protect yourself at all times Protect yourself.

Speaker 1:

So she broke the rule. So I get it. Man, I'm a comical person, I'm a comedian. Okay, I have to identify with that and it protects me for what I say. Hey, I'm a comic, hey he was leaving me alone.

Speaker 2:

That was a comedian. That's the shio right.

Speaker 1:

Hey, he was leaving me alone. I'm supposed to make shit funny, right, right too far Little bit. So I'm just getting to see him like, be himself, his personality. I don't wanna, I don't wanna knock that light out of him. It's not necessary, but it should be controlled and mannered. So me just expressing to him in front of the teachers like hey, man, this is their arena, allow them to do theirs. You got your place to do yours, right, you're not even right. All right, let's continue to keep it growing. Man, give them the space They've earned it. Man, do not disrupt me. Yes, dad, I got you. Dad, you write that. I gotta get that, gotta get that girl, yeah.

Speaker 1:

So I would like to end on that segment of fuck them kids brought to you by chief Ali, and lay low the most. Salute, salute. I don't wanna tap your little chair. What we trying to get to work. Blessings, yeah, bluh, shout out for the people. So, moving into the next segment of things, man, research and development. We like to call this our R&D segment. Tell me and speak freely, man, what have you researched about yourself that pushed you into a place that now you gotta develop? Oh, you damn near snatched the words like out my mouth sorter. I was in your notes, my bag no.

Speaker 1:

But it gets to a point just like on the business side of the thing, where it's like, well, if not meeting who, If not now, then when? Yeah, like that's become a theme Just in my own. It's nothing that I say to anybody or talking to anybody about, but it comes now to it and it's like, well, if I don't do this, then who? You know what I'm saying? Who should it fall off? Who can it fall on? Nobody, it's me. It just needs to be addressed, it needs to be taken care of. It gotta be handled. When it comes down to the tough conversations, when it comes down to the tough decisions, shit gotta be handled. I ran into somebody who I fired yesterday. It's not comfortable. You were at that place. Huh, yeah, I was. You were at that place huh.

Speaker 1:

Yes, it's not comfortable, but I knew that it was uncomfortable for her, so I had to make it. Hey, justin, you ain't gotta do that. You know what I'm saying.

Speaker 2:

Oh, hey, you saw me.

Speaker 1:

You fucking know who I am, you saw me, you know what I'm saying. But kind of tapping into that as well, like, hang on, I need to be the Almost like an authoritative figure, if you will. And we ain't talking about the kids, no more. But just on the aspect of, hey, I'm a leader Lead Period. So that's some research and development for your ass. That I've been kind of chatting, still working on it, like I ain't got it. I ain't got it. But the conversations with myself I talk to myself but I don't speak back. I ask the questions but I don't answer them out loud. That's when something's going on. I know you, we're gonna get you some help, but, uh, people, please help me out, please. But, um, but that's definitely something that's been going on with me and just sitting by myself and it's like I gotta take care of this, gotta address this. Let's go get it done, let's go get it done.

Speaker 1:

What about you, man? You got any research and development going on lately. Oh yeah, often man, often often man. So one of the um, the ones that has surfaced for me on the research and development is, um, family, and how much family is very important to me, how large of a family I would love to have, and just kind of, and what I developed to be able to sustain that and have that. But I also researched in myself of knowing when I do have these beautiful things that I want and I can obtain, uh, I wanna I had to, I wanna be able to speak about which the sacrifices that come inside to be able to keep it and maintain it, and how targets come on you when you are working towards those goals that you do obtain and you do achieve.

Speaker 1:

As you just mentioned, man, um, you sitting at leadership position and you had to make a leadership call and just on your day to day you've seen someone that you had that you cross paths with. Y'all Y'all. We were just passing through type of thing with each other. Now you see this person with no ties in his and it's fresh too. This didn't happen like a year ago. This is all your vibe, you like? Matter of fact, two weeks ago to the day Today, extremely awkward 13 days like you.

Speaker 1:

all right, it's like a breakup. I miss you. I miss you. We'll go on to that story another time.

Speaker 2:

Man man.

Speaker 1:

So I've had to re, I've had to In my research of myself, I had to understand what I would have, the sacrifice that comes with obtaining these things, maintaining these things in defendant. So freedom speakers man, I am a huge, huge family person. Okay, huge own family I'm huge on love.

Speaker 1:

Yeah man, I love the kids. I protect the kids. Chief, love the kids. Hey man, if your kids is at our house and one kid get ass whooping, by right, just unanimously fair they all gonna get ass whooping. I don't like that rule. It's a team effort. If they at our house and we and we buy a bike for one, they all get a bike. I like that rule. It's unanimous. I like that rule, it's unanimous. Y'all a team, so it's a team effort. You gotta hold the next man to you accountable.

Speaker 2:

Yeah.

Speaker 1:

You know what I'm saying? It's one of those like who gonna get the ass whooping first. Whoever didn't deserve it gonna get to go last because he tired now.

Speaker 2:

I remember he might not get the ass whooping.

Speaker 1:

This is so crazy man, I gotta share this story. It's kind of a two-in-one sort of story. Man, when I was a kid, my brother and my sister and I went to a babysitter, miss Nisha. We on the 114th, miss Nisha on like 112, 111.

Speaker 1:

Coming up, man, I did not like eating my vegetables. You know what I'm saying. Typical kid Didn't not like eating my vegetables. Man, especially spinach. To this day I eat just about every vegetable. Now Spinach I still can't get with cooked spinach. Let me be clear, because I'll fuck with some raw spinach and the salad. My wife puts the shit in the soup that she making. It's kind of in there mixed in with the rest of the good shit. I cannot just pop hot as shit. I can't do it. I have yet to meet anybody who made some good. I'm gonna do spinach. Good as fuck has not happened. I fucking love greens. I fucking love green beans. Broccoli is my favorite vegetable. Carrots I do some succotage. Mixed that shit together, niggapese, all the shit I don't really get into. Like motherfucking. What's that shit called? Fucking Brussels sprouts? Ocra my grandma used to do ocra. I didn't even fuck with that shit. She get all slimy and you cook it too long.

Speaker 2:

I do some fried.

Speaker 1:

That'sparagus. You gotta cook it, right. Yeah, I do a spare. I fuck with a spare. You know what I'm saying, but not so, man. She left me and a baby in the kitchen for a second. I take my plate of spinach and I put that shit between the refrigerator and the couch, sat back down like this I ate it, I ate it, I ate it. This is how I ate it, though Y'all like, a week later, that shit starts stinking like a. That shit starts stinking like a motherfucking man. She pulled her refrigerator out. Who put this spinach Bitter refrigerator?

Speaker 1:

I've always been an accountable, even from a kid. You know what I'm saying. Mommy coming to house, Y'all had company in here. My sister, no, y'all had company in here. My brother no, mom, y'all had people in my house, yeah, but it's never been like a. See, now, that proved my point. Keep your pace and do it. Because one didn't stick to the rule. Everybody gotta get asked for it, and we did, because it wasn't like a me snitching on them thing. It was like yeah, mom, we did, we was us. You know what I'm saying. Zayn Juice was here too. My friends were here.

Speaker 2:

You'd have made everybody get asked for it, we all in here.

Speaker 1:

But I was always kind of accountable like that. So when Ms Nisha asked me who put the spinach in the refrigerator, it's kind of like Me. You know what I'm saying. It was me. You know, she chest ties me with her before and I don't know if my mom assigned this part of the paperwork, but she whooped us, hey, mama.

Speaker 2:

Nisha, you gotta say something about that now she fucking whooped us.

Speaker 1:

She fucking whooped us. And what's crazy is man? You get to a point and man, she was my babysitter from kindergarten to Not like first to third grade, some shit like that. And I get to the point in my childhood to where it's almost like these whoopings don't hurt, but I know you want me to cry, you know what I'm saying. So they start whooping your ass with some effort now.

Speaker 2:

It had to get some shit.

Speaker 1:

It's kind of like you used to be like put your pants down. Now it's like put your pants down and lift the shirt up. So it's like pull your drawers down, bend over the edge of the couch.

Speaker 2:

Don't look at me.

Speaker 1:

It's like Shit, like that man. So she had us, like I won't say, lined up in the room, but I happened to come up when the ass whooping circus was going on. She had like six kids and then come in, you two go on back Next and you'll come back and get like three sets of three. You're like nine lashes.

Speaker 1:

That's how I was having to come up the stairs while the ass whooping rink is happening and she oh yeah, you two. I'm like fuck, I should have stayed downstairs. Shit, she forgot about me in this penance incident three fucking days ago. You know, I come up there. She Look at me. I'm like, yeah, you don't say it, but like she's, my Mama needs you guys. You got 24 hours to respond.

Speaker 2:

It went bad I wouldn't dare say.

Speaker 1:

it was on the lines of like people should not like that and you guys would. You know, we from a time where it's like it takes a village, you know what I mean. I gotta say I didn't get like. My older brother was the one who got the ass whooping by the time she was tired of whooping by the time she got done with his ass. You know what I'm saying, out of breath and shit.

Speaker 2:

Right on, just don't do it like this, but it is one whooping that I remember to this day.

Speaker 1:

I don't know what the fuck I did. Somebody lied on me. I never got an answer for that. I never got a notice in the mail. This is what that whooping was for. You know what I'm saying. I never got the. I know this is gonna hurt you, but it's gonna hurt me more. I didn't get it, but I was in the shower and to this day, when I'm in the shower, I'm locking the door. Now it ain't necessary to keep nobody out. It's a muscle somehow in my mind, kind of like hey, man, lock the door, cause my mama came in when I'm in the shower, start whipping my ass with a switch. I'm wet, so that switch.

Speaker 2:

You sound like the intro of Django.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, man, so the you know what I'm saying, the velocity of these whips to multiply by at least two and a half. That switch then turned into a goddamn mega fire flames and shit. My mama hair fucking spiked up back, yeah, shot. Ahhhh, I'm soaking wet in the fucking shower and I never got an explanation for that whooping. I don't know what the fuck it was for. I didn't never got. I never got too many whoopings coming up, but that one, my she probably remember this shit, but I do, goddamn it. Okay, and you got 24 hours, respectfully, mama Cause I don't wanna, you know, I don't wanna whooping either. Christmas coming up, my, get your shit together. So while I say this, man, as I'm thinking about it, I'm gonna wrap it up first on the R&D, then I'm gonna go into the whooping. Yeah, family is a motherfucker. First, off.

Speaker 1:

That's the defending your family. So in my R&D with that, I got a whooping as a kid and I got a lot of whoopings, bro, I'm like over them, but it was a lot of them. I'm like, no, I don't deserve this. And a few of them I'm like it's fair. It's fair, like it's this one's fair. But as a kid I would be the one who generally would get the ass whooping. For, like the team, it'd be like, hey, man, he's strong enough for all of us. That's kind of how it was. It was like, oh, this is gonna make a man out of you, me beating your ass cause I'm mad at my boss. Oh man, yeah, that's, that's so. That ain't helping. You know what I'm saying. But one of those, um me, I'm not like.

Speaker 1:

I've gotten ass whoopings as a kid that I'm like, oh, this ain't deserve this, I ain't earned this. I also gotten whoopings and chest ties on some things that I did and I also just that gray area then knew I had one coming, yeah, and it was just like, probably so motherfucking, pissed, can't even do nothing, put that bitch in reserve. It's just like, hey, I'm a hurt, this motherfucker. Yeah, she put that ass moving in the freezer, I don't know, so we're going to throw this ass moving out later. So thank you, mommy. My mama, kimberly Johnson, son of an educator Miss Kim they call her and she come from an era where dating women didn't use their real name. Ok, she come from an era where women called themselves something that was edible.

Speaker 1:

Like hey, what's your name? Baby Beaches. What's your name? Baby Candy? Right, right. What's your name? Baby Sweets? Ok, all right, like what's your name, baby?

Speaker 2:

Cinnamon Licorice? Like what's your name, baby? They call me Juicy Rye rye. Like what's your name, baby? Oh.

Speaker 1:

Taffy Rye. Ok, all right, her real name Tammy.

Speaker 2:

What a grape sack, what a fruit, what a vegetable. Like ain't nothing healthy, all right, nothing healthy, you're going to rot my teeth out.

Speaker 1:

Oh yeah, they call me Cobbler. Like what Did your mama call name you that? Like I want to chick name Kale Salads and shit, like I'm fucking. Can I get a V English or?

Speaker 2:

a name V Dan.

Speaker 1:

V name something healthy. You know what I'm saying. She comes from Vitamin. They call me minerals, vitamin C Supplements. They call me 9.5 pH, little protein. I'm in shape because I'm thick like one. Yeah, yeah, all that. Pick some healthy name. Pick some healthy shit.

Speaker 2:

I like the sweets too. The sweets are nice, but you got to be like you got to be like apple cinnamon.

Speaker 1:

Ok, see, now we throwing the fruits in there. Yeah, see, you got apple cinnamon. You like, oh, I could fuck with that. You could fuck with the apple cinnamon, you could fuck with that. Now, you like, now we in the game. Yeah, yeah, apple a day. Keep a side, bitch away. Pfft, your medicals for your doctor. All right, I think. Ok, all right. So shout out to my mama, who I love and respect. She most definitely comes from that era. Toughest woman, strongest woman I've ever come across next to my wife and my grandma, my grandma. Tough as fuck too, man, that's where my mama cut it from. I love you, grandma. Shout out to grandma dudes too. I got a picture of her on my phone, my grandma.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, what you got a picture of my grandma, no.

Speaker 1:

Let me explain. No, we was at the repass a few months back last spring and she was looking real fly. She had the blue hat on, with the suit and everything you know, I remember. And she like take a picture of me. I'm like, all right, take a nice picture, a real nice picture. And then I go, all right, I'm going to send this to Ken so he can send it to you. She's like no, I want you to send it to me. I'm like OK, I'm all right, I got you. Wish you a, wish you never. What's your phone number? Put it in. Send it to her. Nice picture, I'm going to send it to her.

Speaker 1:

AB wearing a grandma's grandma on to knocking the off. Man, she'll get you hey you know what yeah? I'm under arrest in the pickup for older women.

Speaker 2:

That's how you get a little nigga number. Put it in your phone.

Speaker 1:

You think that's it. Next thing you know I'm getting I'm saving it in my art copy. Yeah, Next thing you know, I get a photo of some legs and shit with some tear holes on it yeah.

Speaker 1:

I'm sorry, baby, I meant to send that to my doctor. I got some swelling. You know I got that mobile clinic I need. Do you deliver the doctor? I need somebody to come and rub some my creams down. My cash is all on my reach down there, like I used to got to put my powder between my toes. It's like you're sitting there I be trying to shake it down now. I be missing the toes and shit. Hey, I heard and I believe, and I believe the older that women get, the more their libido starts to kind of kick in. Yeah, we hit our prime at different times For sure.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, that's like women kind of got to like they got that.

Speaker 1:

They first know what they're coochie is. Yeah, getting to know it like and they're working it out how to drink. I forgot who's with the head. Oh yeah, now you to get rummage through back in the day Like rummage through. That's like something raccoons do.

Speaker 2:

What are you doing?

Speaker 1:

I'm going to do shit. Well, you know, older ladies is my kick, so that's they lean yeah. All you to get rummage through back in the day. You ain't doing that.

Speaker 2:

Rummage up in that ad Little rummage through, I'm going to pull it when they was younger.

Speaker 1:

They just working out that fresh body Numbs and that new body they just got out of that fresh. Then it's like you get your heart broke with a meaning, like your body broken down. You know what I'm saying, but it comes with some guarding and now like from 28 to 35. That's the, that's the wall stage.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, yeah, so at that 36, 38.

Speaker 1:

Really 42, is that one that? Yeah, 42, 40. I'm speaking from experience. So 42 act that mark 42. It's like that thing turned back into 19 again. I've heard this, what I heard women hit their sexual prime. You know, between 35 and 45, which is the sexual prime of a man of you by now should have a good set of twos in your two bucks of what you should be doing. And nobody, not, not not, not, not, not for me, and not necessarily a sexual prime, but our prime period, our prime make a certain consistent money Got, got the crib the keys.

Speaker 1:

Getting older, we kind of free, you know. So I'm a little more smoothly. No smokers, dragon shit. I'm kind of that dude now. And you can tell how successful a man is by how well he takes care of his lawn. Oh, I must not be shit. I can't stand my fucking grand you in the you. So I say this I saw your fake flowers when I was. It wasn't my idea. It's your mother, it's your mother, yeah, so I say that because I didn't like you.

Speaker 1:

Duke, he can. I'm not in bitches. There were people who were in the neighborhood wondering why these bitches still alive in fucking November and shit, what the fuck.

Speaker 2:

Burst ain't laying on them.

Speaker 1:

I need to pull these up and the bees come through. Be discipline as fuck Like nigga.

Speaker 2:

Man.

Speaker 1:

I'm staying the fuck out this, so no I say it matters, because, one, you had a place that you even have a lawn, yeah, so that's one. Yes, and it's your responsibility it is. So that's two. And then, as I've learned myself, it becomes very competitive with who going to make the neighborhood look better. Yeah, like I'm not going to let this black guy just out do me or just neighbor just to be there. My neighbor, my neighbor, black he doing this thing. But you know he won't tell me, mike, I know you listen to this shit too. He won't tell me exactly what he puts on his lawn. I'm going to try to get them this spring. I'm saying, man, what do you use? Now we'll say the shit that you gave me hook up to the water holes. But that shit work. I'm gonna tell you how. I know it, fucking work.

Speaker 1:

I got a hundred foot water holes and that shit it wouldn't reach. I'm starting. It wouldn't reach. It wouldn't reach the, the far tree lawn in the front. I could. I'm trying to put that bitch on jet Spray, that shit out there. It couldn't reach the far corner of that tree lawn out front. So it ain't get no love. That one ain't get no fucking love. The weeds didn't grow back any fucking way. But that corner shape of where I just couldn't spray out to I could push them in the cup. I'm like, shit, that shit out there. I don't fucking know you don't water and can some shit, but being that, I saw weeds growing getting taller. Fuck out there, the dandy line when they be looking all weird and shit. I saw them growing. I'm like, oh shit, this shit work. Those motherfuckers it's supposed to be everywhere around here but they not, cuz I put the shit down. So I stand by that shit. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I.

Speaker 2:

Man.

Speaker 1:

I'm a long guy, so I'm not say as a as a certain level of success. Please hear me out. And, ladies, this is a, this is a. These are little, small facts that you look at in detail. Don't look at his shoes, because sometimes they can be his friends. Don't look at his clothes. She in, she have to pay. You can get them now and pay on them. Yeah, come, snatch them pans off your fucking ass, because you ain't, you ain't make a note on your shit. You got a pants note. Okay, don't, don't, don't, don't don't don't have to pay don't choose.

Speaker 1:

Granted, I bought like six pairs shoes at once, so you got damn right. I used to have to feel like a motherfucker. It was new, for sure. I got proof and I'm not. I'm getting all these bitches $100 in two weeks, bet For sure. So this is not to discredit or in the negative, but remember you yeah, you just said you bought six pair shoes at one time. Yeah, oh, one time. And you, they didn't count for what you have prior.

Speaker 1:

Your shoes that you use to cut the lawn, yeah, the shoes you dunk on the kids would be out there running the shit. You, one of them, dads and uncles, I'm out there with you. I'll be looking like I think we're running around and sweating and shirt what the kids? But this is that mess. So you try not to stunt but, brother, you stun you. How many people buying six pair shoes and getting approved for she and my wife used after-pay. She ain't clearing up a lot of all of that shit and she started using that. I know you watching, I know you here and I'm on your ass, man, when I was like, what your money? Because I don't ask her about money. Yeah, I don't ask about money. Her money is her money. My money is my money, but see if I can pull up on you and I only asked about money.

Speaker 1:

it was only that day I was about money, but it was just one of them. Like I'm bored, I'll ask you Hi, so a board and surface question, where your money going? Because, because I know what my name we open yet. But I was telling her like just on some joking shit.

Speaker 1:

But I'm telling her like joking, like no, we need to make a certain game with the ends. Put a cup of certain dollars into this account, pay down on this, boom, boom, boom. And I want to give a side note it's certain things that I don't have to worry about or pay for that she does. So it's like I can see Legitimately on what tangible things where the money going, because If you watch there or follow us on social media, then I'll post more pictures. Please, mom was definitely so.

Speaker 1:

Freedom speakers, you can follow me on Instagram at permission. The number two underscores speak freely, podcast and follow my Ben Boston as BN B O S S hand on IG as well for inspirational, motivational pictures, information and family business entrepreneurship. Follow me there. So if you go on my social media and you look at Any pictures that you see of our home and is decor, is decoration, is lawn stuff that was not me If you see some really nice rocks out there, if you see some really good, no, uh striped in that grass. If you see the bushes trimmed and heamed up real good and not. If you see some good, nice fucking gutters up there, if you see a really good, beautiful fucking window not one, not two, but three beautiful fucking windows out there. I did that. I didn't. I'll not a put windows in where we ain't, they ain't, but I mean. That's why I know my stuff went for sure. But if you see any decor out there of Christmas lights, witches, Santa Claus lanterns and shit, any of that shit.

Speaker 1:

Rudolph and them niggas, I Didn't do it, that wasn't. That's not my thing, that's hers and she don't go to cheap places to get this shit. She first. You're going to be J's, she's gonna hobby lobby. I love you.

Speaker 2:

She's going.

Speaker 1:

I love BJ's as well, in all forms, and factors. Um, but she goes there out time. She ain't been to PJ's with me in a while, so we got a visit there soon. Round trip to.

Speaker 1:

She's the one who does that, and if you ever been inside of our home, or if you follow her on social media at Moka Chocolata, they at our IG, or if you follow her on TikTok, she does these beautiful reels of where she goes, which is first off, as I'm remembering. Target is number one. Shout out to target, she goes to target. I love target Only because I go to target with her now and I just like the.

Speaker 2:

You just hear the store target I had getting shit you don't even fucking need.

Speaker 1:

Like it was a, it was a basket in that motherfucker where I'm like that bad, that little basket look nice with like, just like some yarn balls in.

Speaker 2:

My little sock basket.

Speaker 1:

I'm gonna just put socks in this month. So I'll agree with you, bro, and my woman, my wife is into the decor, she's into fashion, she's into decorating. Anything that's designed in our house that looks nice was not by me. She do a damn good job. She does a fucking beautiful job. I like them lampshots. I got man With the rope, which was the rope was.

Speaker 2:

Yeah so this is how the slave they nice, they look a little slavish. But I'm okay, I'm gonna run out this is how the uniqueness works with us people.

Speaker 1:

Okay, she picked those beautiful lamps, but I put them up.

Speaker 2:

you had, you had to do that, I had to Put Lights oh.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, I'm getting some ass tonight. Should be any goddamn it should be y'all just as hard as I work.

Speaker 2:

I asked you, just as it should be, man.

Speaker 1:

That's it should be. I want to um. Thanks for sharing that, man. I think I think a lot, of, a lot of guys can relate, man. Um, I know, I can Know I can't. I want to share.

Speaker 2:

What do?

Speaker 1:

you think people? Oh yeah what do?

Speaker 1:

y'all think. What do you think, people? I just Just but go ahead, man, just believe in the comments. If you, if you was the man, we're gonna go there first. Yeah, keep your space. If you putting in work and work is divine, defined as what you are asking for me to do yeah, in the simplest way, vague, just like I'm kind of following the world or I'm doing 95 or 90, 95%. We understand that I'm taking care of stuff. You know, I'm fixing and building, and then we'll even do the inverse of it of the woman, because normally we don't, because it's men here. You can't speak for y'all, I can't, I can't. But the inverse that I'm gonna say is and we got a woman here, so hey, but the inverse of it's on the basic of amen, I took care of the house while you was gone, I cleaned up, I did the laundry. Uh, boom, boom, boom, whatever it is that maintain the home, I got the kids right. Do she be feeling like she deserves some some pipe game for?

Speaker 2:

a, that's a great question. Like that's, that's why I was like do she feel like, hey, hey.

Speaker 1:

More than just like give me the credit card. We kind of know that. Yeah, we know that I'm like, but like she like I didn't. I'll be Nick, I'll be take care of you. I cooked and then I cleaned up.

Speaker 2:

I got the kids right, I got my head done for y'all. They see my nails.

Speaker 1:

What do y'all want after? After y'all don't take care of y'all business, because we know we won after we done, took care of long we done, you know, helped you a little bit with the kids, took a little something off you, you know. However, we took care of what we supposed to take care of. We know we. What do y'all want after knocking out the kids baths, after, you know, making sure the left I was heated up. No, I'm fucking with you, but what are y'all like what? What are you? What are you? I want to say seek, because we're not doing things to get reward. We're doing. It could be supposed to. However, it's nice to get some reward. Ladies, what, what, what? What reward do you want? And I may have an idea what it may be, but I want to hear first, because I don't leave it in the comments.

Speaker 1:

I don't want to be called massaging, this For sure. Yeah, you don't want to be, although my massages are the bomb I heard I'm really good, yeah. So freedom speakers, please let us know. Let us know, especially from the females. Man, it's kind of blatantly out there as, as, as my broho stated, man is blatantly out there.

Speaker 1:

Most men working, putting in the work, the labor, the hard stuff to be able to lay it with something soft, to be able to get that feel of a woman man, we've been out here fighting the day. We just trying to get rubbed on and lay up with you. You know we trying to get some and out and we're gonna classify it as this. We trying to, uh, celebrate with you. Oh, I'm trying to celebrate with you because we did a good day. Five words, you did look. Look at what I did about cut the grass. Ain't nothing to cut off in here. We handle shit together. Remember, this is a gather thing. We had touched on this, on the second and a little bit like that 50, 50 Pay all the bills, stuff. I would love to talk about that, but we're gonna put a pin in that for just a second. Well, I was gonna say, most of the time when you celebrate, what do we need? We need cakes.

Speaker 2:

We need cakes. I like that. We need cakes, all right.

Speaker 1:

Aw shit.

Speaker 2:

Like that, because if you're not catering, let me cater to you. But if you're not, I just feel like. You know yeah.

Speaker 1:

I just, and you, you as a woman would know For sure.

Speaker 2:

I'm with that If he denied you of say yeah, he don't want to give it away tonight.

Speaker 1:

Like I'm tired, man, man, my leg is hurting. Man, yeah, yeah, you saw me doing the lawn, you saw me fall. Yo, speaking of, uh, speaking of falling, I want to share. I have a confession. Uh-oh, it's a couple weeks ago, man, I um, I hurt myself, um, I fucking fell down the stairs, man, and it hurt my home. Yeah, oh, cool, great, shut the fuck up. What the fuck stairs are that? Anyway, fuck, fell down the stairs, man, god damn it. I was on the way to, uh, to uh, miss Evelyn's home going service and you know, of course, I put on dress socks and the fucking socks, man, why the fuck they don't make the socks to groove the work, the like. I fucking slipped. That carpet got smoothed in. The motherfucker I fucking slipped. The man fell right on my goddamn ass. Man, I'll bathe my daughter, but first of all my wife. Like boom, you okay. I couldn't even say shit for like 12 seconds. My daughter was asleep, the stairs are right by her room and my baby come out of the room. She's like what?

Speaker 2:

what's going on, daddy? You okay. You fell down. You hurt your head.

Speaker 1:

My naw baby. I didn't hurt my head, but I'm fine, yo. She still had the sleepy face on her eyes. Y'all, puppy, just hey what's going on nigga, my ass went boom and it was the first fucking step up top, but my ass landed on like the ninth step, like right in the middle. So like the slip to fall ratio. Didn't nigga math glitched. If I slip on the first step, my ass should be landing on the third step. My ass landed on like the ninth step. I'm in the middle. Pictures was crooked.

Speaker 2:

I had to banish her so. I tried to catch herself.

Speaker 1:

I hurt myself like a motherfucker. Back was hurting back, still hurting man. That's why I put these pillows and shit. You got some nice shit I'm using y'all, even though I did.

Speaker 2:

That's behind the scenes, that's good. Go ahead, bro. You lumber support.

Speaker 1:

I'm just fucking man, I hurt my god damn cell and you know I think I told the story already. I bust my fucking head about two months ago. So after this happened and my wife, like you, want to go to the doctor, my hell nah Already owe these niggas like $1,200 from the last incident. And then on top of that, if I go, they're gonna start asking questions Are you safe at home? Hey, I don't think you're safe at home. Hey, I don't think so either. I think it's booby traps being set up around the crib. You've been getting hurt a lot lately. Says Y'all ain't got them life insurance policy. Man. I smack my face on the fucking, uh, the wood I put up three incidents right there, listen the wood I put up around the pantry.

Speaker 1:

Nigga, reach down and get a goddamn walmart bag Full, full, full diaper, because you know I don't. Niggas ain't got diaper jeans, no more. Fuck that no for what.

Speaker 1:

Reach down and get a goddamn bag and they gotta stand up. Nigga, smack the side of my goddamn face when it hardest, fuck die. Why fuck man Do me could come to your aid. Yeah, she come. She come helping nigga man. She like. When she shouted out and I ain't say shit for a minute she was starting to get up, but you know she'd be hurting too. So my baby beat her to the punch. She was so fucking concerned. That's my nissy nissy poo. Even when I hit my head she was your most concerned child. She still asked me about my head because it's like a little ball spell right there. They say the hair gonna grow back soon like a little Fuck monster. They me off camera. It looked like a great spot.

Speaker 2:

It just looked like no, I just blank.

Speaker 1:

It looked like nigga got fucking rainwear. Oh shit, this was 11. They said. You know, the hair grow back eventually. Just the follicles gotta rejuvenate and be born again, or your ways of growing in real deep right there. And that's the thing. Like that shit, when it do grow out, it's gonna grow out like baby head, it's gonna be a different. I said, hey, man, you, you a warrior man, you a warrior and then when I get like I get my hair cut.

Speaker 1:

So, uh, you know they be like I know Barbara nicked you. It's like I'm Nick grown niggas, that shit don't happen. So, fuck, I bust my fucking head. That's what happened. I survived. That's what fucking I had. So pray for me freedom speakers. All right, I've been falling and smacking phase and all kind of shit. You know I'm okay. I think I just gotta be more careful. I'm, I'm a um and this is all I do. Respect the sis man, I think. Sis said you go up, you got. Uh, sis, I think you setting up my she laid them dress socks out for me and dress, socks have.

Speaker 1:

Dress socks is as bored as most girls tires on their car. No traction, niggas, none. You can't get them moving, picking up speed, you can't stop, for shit. I ain't wearing them socks no more. And when you hit them, steps, bro. So I fell down some steps, not recently, but often. I have felt a few flights of steps. You hit the steps. It's not a just because, like you, fall flat. Yeah, because we kind of with our with our feet, we kind of slide off the edge of the step and kind of Blum, blum, blum, blum, blum dance, you know that real, real.

Speaker 1:

If you play it, nigga my shit ain't work. Grabbing for shit, trying not to, yeah, my shit ain't work. And then you know, like the carpet real smooth because and y'all house biggest fuck bro y'all got, like I wouldn't say, 17 steps, it's all right. I was right in the middle, nigga Nice step. That's what my ass landed at that bitch man. Look Just just. I need help. I'm gonna fuck around. We'll get you some, some hot shoes.

Speaker 1:

I'm gonna have and I usually use my slides in the house. All right, freedom speakers, we go. We're gonna start a gofum me. Loads of uh some hot shoes or grip some Gucci slide some gold toe. Yeah good, get him some Gucci slides for show 11 and a half.

Speaker 1:

Well, they don't make slides on half size. Give me a 12. Meet uh meek, assist Um Uh. Get uh. That's a Christmas gift for him, depending on might want it earlier. Just give him a gift, don't wait for Christmas, all right. So I'm gonna say this Give me a fucking walking stick that might Not a cane is one of them, old like Stick from man just select and smooth some.

Speaker 1:

but would you be you man, people who walk around with them, I can them Chinese movies or Asian movies. I'll say Chinese, japanese, but they all are there because a lot of them be racial movies, attention, stuff like that, yeah, but the guy who got the Staff, yeah, and the guy who got, like either the long beard, that's that more than long ponytail they masters. Yeah. So you gonna be wise as fuck with your staff, you sure cuz I saw on that drug Marv like $30. It's just how much it costs.

Speaker 1:

This nigga just no shit he got. He got that stick and things change for him. He starts speaking yeah, yeah, but blessings coming through and shit, let's take our power. Shout out to the jug mark walking stick hey talking about for my wedding, I have bought a cane because of our we were African guard. Yeah, I have bought a cane from Old Tom pottery. Oh yeah, that's the stuff old Tom pottery shot out to do and I was walking with it and I just felt More balance. I just felt bad I need it? I don't think, but I just felt like holding it was like Anybody move me for yeah, I know stuff.

Speaker 1:

It really felt like I Felt connected, like I'm always touching the earth. Like you said man, but you say one getting their eyes from the tree and shit.

Speaker 2:

I got a dead tree.

Speaker 1:

I'm still in there. Yeah, so it's like a nigga you old, I'm old, but I'm still. I'll leave your business. Good, maybe make trees in the brown, for why? So? I say this, man, when it comes to just getting older and gaining knowledge, man, at this, at this Valuable age in our 30s, is these valuable 30s will say Do you feel like you have gained some knowledge and become wise?

Speaker 2:

that you can give game now.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, fuck, kidding me man. Fuck, yes, mmm, absolutely Fuck. Yes, man, my little brother. He'd be going through Situations with his, with his lady and shit.

Speaker 2:

I'm a baby mama drama.

Speaker 1:

He just got him a baby. Yeah, baby man. But you know we're going through little little tic-tac. You know, type of shit, man. It's kind of like a man. This is how you handle that. Say this. You know I'm saying she got to bring it up this. Don't get so defensive. Be a man about the shit. You know what I mean. Let her know. You know I want to put that shit out there.

Speaker 1:

But definitely definitely be Coaching, bro. You know, I mean coach them just on the relationship shit, and they, you know they got a spot together. Now you know they moved in yet but they got it. So I like to talk about that. Yeah, that's gonna shagging up. Shagging up, I would let's, let's make sure we note that. Producer, please note that we're gonna call it a segment car Shagging up, and y'all know what shagging up is. If you don't go ask your grandma, go act. Yep, it's a Planned. House is another another term. The next generation generation had, and then I don't know what they call it now, if they moving in together, you know what, I know what us, we was. It was calling it, we was playing house plan.

Speaker 2:

Yeah.

Speaker 1:

I know, behind a cow and it ain't free. Wherever he was saying like Ain't got no milk in them.

Speaker 2:

So why buy a cow when you can get the milk free? There you go.

Speaker 1:

I don't know where you get milk for Freddy's.

Speaker 2:

Go ahead. Well, leave it to your dough. There is one place.

Speaker 1:

So in this segment of shagging up, as it's coming to me now, is pros and cons, people to shagging up, living with each other, and I just give my my experience. I don't. That's the only story I can tell, that's the only one I know the best. All right, so for me, young, I want some shagging up. I've learned a lot of still about myself being outside of my mother's home or my parents home, kind of equivalent to if you go to college and you in the dorm room with somebody that you don't know. Yeah, okay, so shagging up a little bit, we just gonna. I'm gonna keep it vague, but I'm gonna give a lot of examples to make a comparative. All right, so I've learned how to manage bills, cook, clean, wash like, exercise, these domestic things that I was taught at home already In the same like a different domestic capacity, but the same skill. Okay, as you would be in college. You most people don't know how to cook is why they top rum in that shit. I'm a mother, you know I'm saying they don't got the resources or whatever it is. They're still on the tight budget when you moving out on your own, still on the tight budget, you get to learn a lot about the people around you, the people you're trying to connect with, and sometimes you learn to be like, okay, we passing through this. Is we just? We learned enough. We've taken on these courses with each other, mastered what we needed to master, and we graduate on to our careers, now what we really want to settle into.

Speaker 1:

So for me, I Learned a ton. I learned a ton in those shagging up days. I Promote for you to still live on your own in some capacity. Yeah, even if it's with a roommate, if it's with a potential spouse, even if it's on your own. But I know, financially sometime it is, it is difficult. So shout out. That's normally the nucleus of why people shag up because it's affordable. You know I'm saying it's affordable, but I learned so much shacking up or playing house about how to steal, prepare myself for when I did step into the husband role, the man role, that I know how to lead and handle these things because I did get out here early and do it. I did have that exercise of, oh, I can handle this, I can do this, or this is what this feel like. Okay, oh, damn, I can see what my mom and it was it cut these lights to fuck off. Put on some thick pajamas and cut the heat down.

Speaker 1:

It's that he would us. They kick out my fucking ass. Oh, in the, in this segment of shacking up man, I like to give this information why are you out here and you look into Survive? Because you gonna start off in that phase. People, everyone starts, almost people. I don't want to group everyone into a bunch and I get attacked later. Oh, my god, okay, it's the, it's the nigga, that's more like everybody. They got to speak up always. So. So, when you do step into those roles, you're gonna start.

Speaker 1:

Most of us are gonna start off in a position where you are surviving. This is this hunting phase you have. You are seeking, you are going out into the world Looking for things. You're exploring, your discovering, you're gonna have that. That's, that is a necessary part of your 20s. Okay, man, this is my experience. You're gonna need these things. You're gonna need to exercise yourself. You're gonna need to, as one point time they used to say so.

Speaker 1:

Your royal oats Not as an, always just mean you are here fucking, but it does mean exercise. You skill there, exercise, celebrating. We'll say that. Remember that. So celebrate, exercise, celebrating as you taper into your 30s and you mature. You kind of get tired over the last three, seven, maybe nine years doing repetitive things and really not getting a taste of certain things, but maybe Not knowing how to handle it, fumbling it, whatever the case may be. But you get you kind of find yourself at a place where you are done Exploring externally out into the world, and then you find yourself in your 30s Primarily. That's when it hit, sometimes a little earlier for others, but I know for me it really hit in my early 30s that now I'm starting to Search and explore and discover Internally, and internal is Way more vast Than external.

Speaker 2:

Okay, he's way more vast, way more deep, way more you can harbor so much inside.

Speaker 1:

Externally, you got a cap. Room ain't big enough, house ain't big enough, gotta get a storage place for your shit. But you just put that shit you hold known to, but it's still got a cap. Internally, virginia, alien, guillian, gigabyte, terabyte, the hard drive you can harbor so fucking much. But you start to explore yourself. You start to find what you feel that you need. You start to find what fuck with, what pumps you with, what drives you where we're most of us in our 30s, now that you get to see and keep in mind we're married men, so we're. I'm living by curious through most people that are around me who are Expressive to me about what's out there, what they're doing. And hey, man, I want you in your wife to stay together because it look good.

Speaker 2:

It is good you look happy being there for that woman.

Speaker 1:

I'm kids handling what you do. I couldn't do it. I was smoking crack with your daddy back in the day. I ain't over. You knew that, but I'm just feel comfortable telling you nigga Testimony?

Speaker 1:

yeah, but one of those of like a lay a burn down, yeah, a burn down at the same time, while bigging you up about I couldn't do it, you stronger than me. I turn the drugs. It was easier route and I commend you, my nigga, cuz it couldn't be me. I love you though, and normally that be my granddad, but nigga, stay for that woman, stay from kid, stay for you.

Speaker 2:

What you would say there. I'm proud of you.

Speaker 1:

What I'm proud of you, hey man. They made me believe a man in me to be a father, a man in me to be a chief, hey man. They meant to do this, but you doing them all and you're running laps around the boy.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, I love you, I'm gonna call you back, but these I Needed. I would need that, yeah. So I would say this of to in my my segment, in my little rant on Shacken up In your 30s is really when that light kickoff and you mature and most people start following on one accord. But for men we have it's a. It's a mental value and a it's a mental value we have to have more than just the Materials, because we get to see a lot of times those come and go, yeah, those come and go, but my knowledge that I've gained to not let this continuously happen comes.

Speaker 1:

My problem-solving skills kick up, being able to critically think you know I'm saying being able to handle pressure, yeah, these are to be able to Mission complete every time a task is is had, regardless of how much time normally is taken, because, remember, some of these things that are freshly happening I ain't never experienced. Let me, let me, let me red, let this register to me. So I say that to you people when you are in this mature phase in your 30s and you are looking internally, take your time, do not rush because you seem to be on one accord or everybody itching to get somebody, because 40 is kicking close and normally if you, it's saying if you not, what you're gonna be by either the 30 or 40, that's what you're gonna possibly be for the rest of your life. Yeah, don't push yourself into something or with somebody just to have somebody.

Speaker 1:

I really tell people Slow down, even for our kids, like man, slow down, don't get to know the person for real, like get to know the person for real. All right, so as the end of my rant, I'm shacking up, but I will segue into this For For relationships, for marriages, remember all of these skills are transferable. When we talked to our son at that place now where he dating girls or not dating because you know we're near dating, dating is like Shit, orchestrated actual court. He just likes somebody for four days.

Speaker 1:

That's kind of how that shit, but Giving him game to understand things and to learn how to bounce back through things. And I give, I want to be able to give him an example, as I talked to her and talk to him just about our Relationship, of getting to see our kids see us resolve differences, to know in the household. That's how Issues should happen. I mean, that's how things should be happened. Yeah, hey, if we do have Some issues of certain things that are Kid-friendly because I'm a firm fucking believer of staying a fucking child place, this is not for you as a goddamn child, this grown-up shit, I don't kick it. A party with kids, this ain't for you. You will get there eventually, we'll even slow down.

Speaker 1:

Don't be Bobby Valentino, god dammit, I ain't trying to get to know you like that, but I say that to him. But you know, I say that to him to exercise Certain things in relationship that we may not have seen growing up in our household. We may have heard or seen our parents bigger fight, have issues with their spouse, but we may have never seen them actually resolve it in front of each other, say I'm sorry, hug, kiss it out. Yeah, we we never seen it. We may have seen Turned into substances, turn it to something else or somebody else. I remember seeing something recently in the last couple of weeks that said it can be good to argue in front of your children as long as they're they see the end result.

Speaker 2:

You know I'm saying yeah, yeah, I can't, which I don't know.

Speaker 1:

I don't know where I stand with that. It's kind of like Bitch you will. I'm seeing all laughing, you know, baby. Yeah, I'm sorry, I apologize. You know what I mean. Like, I do think seeing that is important for seeing the, the top side of it, the arguing. I'm gonna let that stand. Somebody else let me know so I get my stand on that man. I actually like that phrase. I still feel like even as an adult where we are mature, like grown-ups, I'm classy as fuck. So I'll say that even in my arguments I'm very tactical. I don't gotta yell. I don't gotta yell, but I don't come to that space to argue. I don't even come into that space now to Be bitching and hoeing and all that. I use that shit for show. I do that shit for. You know, just one of those like I I don't even like to identify will be being like a hood person or neighbor. I came from the inner city, hood nigga, but it's like that is me. So my vernacular sometimes slip out is like Filler.

Speaker 1:

But I digress on that. But I do agree with the the children get a chance to see the parents communicate with each other and get this ex see how you, your mannerisms are, because when we have differences now I'm not at a place where we are arguing it doesn't get there, and if it does, it's like we both didn't lost control. We too deep into marriage, we too deep in our relationship to the conversation. Gotta go to arguing, yeah, it's like, no, no, and I and I and I know I lead, bro, I lead, I lead heavily and I step into it rightfully. And, baby, you know I'm a leader, you a leader, but I'm leading you first, and that's a shout out to come, and that's a common line. That's not me, but I do agree with that of like we a team, but I'm in charge though, like it's my, I'm Captain For us though, but it's us, it is us, it is us, it is us, it is us.

Speaker 2:

It is us it is us and. I have to.

Speaker 1:

And I have to approach it that way because sometimes we, when you do have to even address somebody that you love with an uncomfortable, it can make things uncomfortable, but it had you gotta have no more comfortable conversations to be able to have a comfortable relationship. Yeah, like they are. Yeah, I think that a thousand percent. So our necessary Mm-hmm. So I'm 100% believing um, not 100%, but I believe in having the children around if you are having some differences, and it's especially if it's a minute, if it's like hey they need to do this or do that, or hey, I need you to do this.

Speaker 1:

You didn't handle that. No, I'm sorry, you know. Just you know some, some, some mediocre, but not Some grown up, no, they time and play. They ain't there for that, but just the parents are around when the kids are having some things, especially when the kids are involved Heavily, when they're involved. Hey, did you tell your dad I said this and you did that and it causes for y'all to have Some.

Speaker 2:

Hey, did you, hey, baby I thought we discussed.

Speaker 1:

They can't have you know this for this or we went post to do that.

Speaker 2:

Well, he said, you said baby, maybe I'm gonna check you up. You know, I said not.

Speaker 1:

I'm thinking about it. I know exactly what you mean in one of those like hey, they need to be involved and held accountable and Get to see the Resolve the residents. You know the situation be resolved, so I do. I do feel like it has some pros and it can have some cons, but I do feel like it's a different take on the norm of Get the fuck out of here.

Speaker 1:

You can't see this and and normally I still believe in that on heavy shit, I still believe it out on heavy shit, but on the kid appropriate things, oh yeah, let's, let's get this resolved, let's. Do you learn to see apologies and my dad apologizes to my mom?

Speaker 2:

my mom apologize to my dad.

Speaker 1:

That's important to say. But like, which is the biggest take of it all? You know I'm saying like we can get to. We can have a conversation and discussion and get to a place where we're not arguing and yelling that we need to apologize for other shit, being on with the top of what was doing. You know saying we're arguing because something happened, but we're now we're we're mad just from us arguing what we said during our arguments and now we got that out the way.

Speaker 1:

This, what happened, this, how you made me feel right, which happens to me and a lot. You know what I mean. We'll go to bring up a situation that we're Comfortable with or something that we need to address, and then you know a lot of times the way it comes off or the way it's said. That then becomes the top of the conversation and not actually what the fuck we wanted to discuss in the first place. You know that's a skill, yeah, that's a skill to Avoid or to deflect, to micro, manage the conversation of. I'm trying to express, I'm trying to be expressive and I like the way you talking to me. I don't like your tone or taking one word out of the entire sentence. Oh, so now I'm not. You don't feel. This is the.

Speaker 1:

So I don't care, you saying I don't care, you know what yeah.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, like your actions are saying you don't care or Then it turns into Use, a whole, so then it turns into a whole Different avenue of something as a deflection and derailment of what the initial, what your initial thing is, and it's like you made it about yourself, yeah, many about you, and it's not necessary because he probably want to feel what was coming up and when we get done Okay, we got past arguing part, I love you. Sorry, hold up, I didn't get the fucking say I really wanted to say, and then it's a no, that's important, man, that's definitely important how they, it's important to know how to navigate. You know those type of instances when they come about, you know. So it's something, man. I forgot what I wanted to ask you. But moving forward, man, had you heard about what's, what's been going on up in Michigan football? No, no, man, bring me up to speed up.

Speaker 2:

So apparently.

Speaker 1:

There's been some, some signs stealing, some signal stealing, and I know that sounds. What the fuck is the problem? You know my big steel signs. All the time I've been trying to do that shit at home Allegedly Michigan, michigan coaches, staff fucking Interns have been future scouting Future, and that's the illegal part. That's the rule break, right, there has been future scouting future opponents To then get a leg up when they actually Play them.

Speaker 1:

So a kin, so like film. They been like watching film, not not watching film. Watching film is totally fine, watching film is totally fine. What they would do is hey, we played Penn State in a few weeks go to their game and record their signal caller and then Bring it back and we were able to study it and know what Means when they caught. So when we're playing them, we know the fucking play you, you on, you on you. You hit a ask Matt, and but yeah, we know that, we know that fucking play. Now, that sort of thing can happen live in the game. However, you're not gonna. You don't have time to be studying somebody's signals five was on the time while in the fucking game but you have an opportunity to get prepared in that way before the game. That gives you quite the leg up on the competition.

Speaker 1:

Apparently, this has been going on for the last last couple seasons, including this season, and this is what. Who did they have the who do them? Make sure I get this with the question right. Yeah, what information or proof did they have that Michigan was doing this and who brought it to the attention? Who's like the lead investment? There have been Venmo transactions. I make sure I say allegedly more than I need to. There have been Venmo transactions because the person they had doing this makes about fifty five thousand dollars a year. You know how much it costs to sit on the fucking 40 yard line at these, these college games. Probably his salary, these have you know like it get up there. Like I remember looking for a nosebleed Ohio State Michigan game For me, you and the boys, this is gonna be about two thousand dollars. I'm talking nosebleed, right, $500. Nosebleed Saturday after Thanksgiving. Rather it was Ann Arbor or Columbus, expensive as a bitch. But they have been Venmo transactions. Like, apparently there was there was a guy spying on Ohio State and Georgia in last years was of the all-state sugar bowl. There's a payment to horse pay for the tickets. I'll give you this one, ohio State, penn State. Just last, a couple weeks ago, there were two tickets purchased under the name Connor stallions is the name of the guy who's apparently the sign stealer. Nobody showed up because by the end the funk had already hit the fan. The funk had already hit the fan, you know. Nobody showed up. Nobody showed up.

Speaker 1:

There is allegedly video of the sign stealer at the central Michigan game with some glasses and apparently a toupee. Cuz he's bald, look just like this motherfucker, and Central Michigan cannot verify who the fuck that is on. They stay With all this AI. No, not at this real video. However, they did go to AI match his actual face With who is on the. Who was on the sideline and they sent it through AI. Ai gave it a 99 percent match. Maybe, maybe, like that's him because he's doing the toupee and, like some, some sunglass. It's a nighttime game. You know shades and nobody else got fucking shades. You know saying these great lights.

Speaker 1:

They'll be out. Could you know that be our does get involved and shit like this NC double-a, but it's a huge rule break. Man, michigan's in trouble and you know, and allegedly they've been cheating these last couple years which, ironically, last couple years they've been good and that's horrible to me, right? Mm-hmm, oh, jimmy, jimmy boy was he? Because I don't want to say kicked out, I don't know what. I don't remember that something happened.

Speaker 1:

man, he was in, he was in NFL, but uh, whatever the Cape land lands at that mission did land at that mission, great fucking job, steel, great pay like they still make coaches.

Speaker 2:

They make good money.

Speaker 1:

You know, I'm saying just coming to. You know the different organization. But, um, we wish Jimmy the best. I wish Not the team. I'm not like a kill miss.

Speaker 1:

you know my thing, I don't wish Jimmy the best, I do wish the kids that that organization, at least those who were involved. I wish the kids who they put at risk for elimination, for forfeit wins, for Having to, you know, sit out of certain ball games. I do wish, I do wish them the best. You know their quarterback, jj. It's having a Great year this year and it's possible that it may all be for not because of Something I don't believe. Any player has knowledge of this. Not one player on that team has knowledge that there's been some science stealing going on. You look at the very first play From Ohio State, michigan, last season. I'm talking very first offensive play. Before CJ Stroud could even give the team the play to relate, relay the signal. Michigan's already calling a defense. They're pointing to going like this. It's like how they matching it up. They may they so it's something going on.

Speaker 1:

There's a picture of Colin kind of stallions who supposed to be an intern. Every time Mr Get on the offense, he's right by the offensive coordinator. Every time there's on defense he's about a defensive coordinator with a laminated sheet of Of signs that they made these ain't coaching plays of sign like there's a lot of proof. And you know the NCAA slash FBI. They gonna come knock on your door till they got proof anyway. Yeah, yeah, they just looking to see how much you gonna cooperate. And that's what's going on, man. So it's not looking good. I'm getting new information on the daily, but it's it's.

Speaker 1:

It's something funky going on up there in Michigan, man, and you know coaches are upset about it. Regardless of what they say in the press, they upset about it. There was a poll taken from 50 coaches in the NCAA and Either 45 or 46 out of 50 those coaches rated this a five out of five on the scale of seriousness. You know like this is serious. Yeah, your peers are saying, yeah, it's serious, you'll talk. You'll talk to a Michigan fan, they've got it. Nothing. The leaders loopholes is. You know, it's not illegal. It happens all the time. Yeah, happens all the time. But future, scouting a team and having an opportunity to Study, study, study their signs. Yeah, that's a leg up on the competition. You may have a few of they signs down pat by halftime, but y'all got the whole fucking pretty much the playbook sitting right in front of you.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, allegedly Ohio State gave TCU coaches the heads up and warned them warned TCU last season about Michigan stealing signs. You know what they did? They changed their signal caller. They changed their signal cuz the TCU see, ohio State called us and said hey, be careful. In their mind, your house, facing the playoff to TCU, could have very much Went on the playoff, ohio State for the championship. So they had. They made dummy signals. Hmm, and guess what happened? Got caught up. What Michigan lost? They beat them. They fucking beat them.

Speaker 1:

You know I'm probably the furthest thing from a Michigan fan. I know we talk about them from time to time, man, but I, you know, I think this shit is interesting, man. I want to see how this turns out. Ohio State had the four-fifth wins over over tattoos and merchandise and shit back in 2011, 2012, hmm, now you talking about something cost us a championship, we're sure, you know, sure. So what is gonna happen with what's gonna happen with this situation? I just want to see, I just want to see. So, people, you have it there. We gonna see what's gonna happen at Michigan. We hope you not the best, because it seems like this is one of them. Niggard, everybody got got to get it now.

Speaker 2:

Oh, shit, hold, tight, hold, tight Hold tight.

Speaker 1:

What is the big ticket right here? So last year Michigan Michigan apparently did not want to play Tennessee in the playoffs because they go too fast, they pace is too fast, they call it, plays quick, they get it out, so they don't have time Allegedly, allegedly, allegedly to steal their signals. Guess what they did. What Guess what Michigan allegedly did? They gave South Carolina their signals. So South Carolina's involved in this shit too. South Carolina beat Tennessee and knocked Tennessee out of the playoff race. Last year Hinden Hooker got injured in that game, quarterback for Tennessee and his draft stock took a huge hit. So this go just with that goes deep, because now let some shit about that come out.

Speaker 1:

Michigan gave South Carolina, tennessee's signals and ultimately they beat them and Hinden Hooker got injured. Because if you, if I know the play, oh, I can fucking go off on y'all ass. Yeah, yeah, I'm about to smack this nigga. He bought to be right here. I'm a smack the fuck out of yeah, yeah, yeah, it's like almost like some targeted yeah, yeah. So, man, what I like to do is, man, when we do talk about the controversy that things that's in sportsman, I like to label this, this segment oh, I just had it in my head but this segment of I don't know we gonna come up with a good name.

Speaker 2:

I just had it.

Speaker 1:

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