Permission 2 Speak Freely Podcast

Life Lessons, Fatherhood, Relationship Dynamics, and the Impact of Soulful Music

• Chief Ali & Lay Loe Tha Mos • Episode 11

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Chief and Lay Loe go in-depth on this episode speaking about a lot of different topics from, relationships with peers, parenting, and how music helps their emotional diet along with true love stories from their own marriage and experiences. Listen In.  😎

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Speaker 1:

I'm sorry, I wasn't ready. Hey man, what's happening with your chief? Hey man, I'm good man. Just how off that Michael album, that Michael album by Killer Mike man, arguably one of the best. I ain't arguing shit, I ain't arguing. What's your stand on it, manish? What's your stand down it low, I can't even man.

Speaker 1:

Like I told you before, man, I've listened to that shit every fucking day. Now, I started listening to it late. I knew this album came out in June, june 16th, I believe. It was Been wrapped up in everything. Man Just kind of forgot or neglected to give it a listen. You know what I mean. Other shit come out, I'm listening to that. Until one day you mentioned you said, yeah, man, killer Mike's latest album, michael, and my brain went, oh shit, I never listened to this fucking album. Yeah, yeah, what the fuck is wrong with me? The album came out June 16th, june 16th. Like I said, yeah, I know I'll be up on my shit, man, that shit just fell through the cracks. It just fell through the cracks for me, man, I gave it a listen.

Speaker 1:

Man, instance, sometimes you got to listen to an album and it got to grow on you. J Cole's latest album, the off season, it had to grow on me. Certain songs on there really had to grow on me. 100 mil had to grow on me. One day you just got to catch yourself and, man, that shit did not have to grow on me, that shit was grown first.

Speaker 1:

Listen man talking about this. The shit Touch Me, got Me In my Feelings, got Me Wanted to Make Some More Money, got Me Wanted to Fight and Shit. I said I want a hundred million. He said Think Bigger, think Bigger. That album is dope, man. Thanks for reminding me that this album was a thing, man. It just got away from me. Yeah, man, it's an album. Right now, man, I automatically put in my classic section. I put that album right up there next to another Lana Powerhouse Outcast with the Equimni album. Think On your Album, but classic albums that you can just listen to. And I actually think man Grown man music. And I feel like what Killer Mike did was not just for the junkies and for the users, man, but I think what he did with the music was give the pain for people something to listen to, and he made it soulful.

Speaker 1:

He's speaking about, you know, hey, man, the family he keeping it in the family, his serving family, speaking about, ended up getting having one of his ladies having an abortion but then ended up getting her friend pregnant. And usually I'm just gonna stop right there Usually, when you don't hear men talk about abortion, you know what I'm saying he touched on that from a man's perspective and if I would have known your mama wouldn't have never let you keep it, I wouldn't have told my partners at that next seat. We don't talk about that. We don't talk about how you know, act such as smush motion, as we call it yeah, smush motion cleaning, you know, like how it also affects, how it also affects the guys, man, it's like, damn man, I can't help but feel like we killed our baby girl you know what I'm saying or boy, whatever it was. Yeah, that's what he said. You know what I'm saying. But man, just just man, amazing, I can't say enough about it, man.

Speaker 1:

But speaking of which, can we go into a like? Can we go into a chief of our leaves? Top five rap albums all time, dead or alive, black or white, latina, whatever the fuck you like daylight, so cool, that's your thing. Okay, all right, man, I ain't really gave you like this heavy, heavy thought, but I got albums right now that I play Michael is by killer. Mike is the album right now that's continuously in my in my take deck, if you will, tainlessly on. I'm playing it. It get that hour of my time every every day. It get the hour of my time and as I'm conjuring up the rest of the thoughts for my other artists, it will. I'll go in on the Michael album. It came, it was suggested to me just by Amazon.

Speaker 1:

Music like hey man, based on the genre of music you've been listening to, which was UGK man, I'm listening to me shit and I'll be listening to run of jewels, like why would you not remind me? I like run of jewels. Why would you? Why would you not? Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. So that album right now was, is is a classic album, man, but it was suggested to me on there of like hey man, check this out, check it out Like you might like it, based on the albums you've been listening to. You might like it. But that album is grown men music. That album is it's not a bad song on there.

Speaker 1:

That album puts me in a field of like I supposed to sip some something I post to listen to this. I supposed to be able to be like, hey, and it's a story behind everything. You follow up with a killer, mike interview, and he just giving stories how he ended up coming up with these songs. Or even just a story from a quick verse, like you said before the junkie, that that his final verse on for the junkie, true, true story between him and his auntie man. Yeah, and let's not forget to mention man, if you grew up in church, we ain't from the south, but our family from the south, my ground. I got direct connections with Alabama, you know. So that Southern gospel elements that are all over this album. I remember dropping my babies off at the church nursery. I remember you dropped out of the nursery, something simple as that. It just touched me like, yeah, man, yeah, talk that, talk that shit, mike.

Speaker 1:

Like the gospel elements that are all over the album, it gives it a whole another deal. That's production and like we was talking about Good Kid Mad City, if it being a movie, for me Good Kid Mad City is a movie and Michael is a movie, I can see it, I can feel it. Now, just listen to it, not just hear it. I can see it and I understand, I can feel that shit. Dope album man, classic, classic, classic. We don't throw that word around People do we, don't we not stamping every album out there? Oh man, this shit, classic Drake knew I'm cl I don't even, yeah, drake, cool, I don't listen to Drake, all like that. Like Drake a lot. You know talking about hits on hits on hits.

Speaker 1:

This man got a whole, he got a greatest, I want to say a greatest hits out. If he did that, shit would be fucking five CDs. He got an unreleased Like a CD for the just leaked music that you just like, say my name, that shit with James Flunderbury, a frontler Roy, um, a draft day. Songs like that, like this shit, technically never came out. It was leaked and it's just great Drake music. But are we throwing classic around on this? The? Not me, not I, yeah, I don't think. I don't think he made a classic album just yet, and I only say that because I am a Drake listener to her. I take that back. I don't think that. Um, I think each one of his albums that he's done just remember, I'm a pretty hard music critic Each one of his albums is all Drake-esque.

Speaker 1:

It has Drake on there, but I feel like my man is having fun jumping genres. Yeah, that's part of it. I feel like he's having fun jumping genres. Just put house and Caribbean shit. Yeah, putting out house music, house and this rabbit shit. Something for the kids. Yeah, yeah, man, you know dancing shit, right? Uh, they think it's a be doing shit, just doing stuff. Man, gotta respect Drake, but it's catchy. But I take that back on the. I'ma throw this album out that might end up on my top five list. I don't know. I'm gonna have to put this pen to work real quick. It's the first Drake album that I bought and I consider myself still like I go buy a CD, but it's got to be something like yeah, I want to have this in my possession.

Speaker 1:

My godfather actually put me on to this album. What really sold me on it was the way he was displaying the art of it, because he was so pissed that Drake was on the cover. This album just draped in gold and you know, in the seventies. Now he's like Drake you. This was years ago, 2011. Maybe it's like. Drake has nothing left to prove. You don't need to be on this album. Just go change the gold rings and that's not you. You don't have to do that. Your music, your voice, your ear, your great. And he was really turned to fuck up and kind of pissed. You don't know by now.

Speaker 1:

The album I'm speaking of is Take Care, oh, take care, in which, by the way, before I even move forward, the gold and shit he was wearing. He had a little gold eye on the desk or like a gold cup. It's some sort of symbolic, symbolic significance to his artistry and what he wanted the cover to be. But it wasn't. It wasn't what my godfather made me to believe. It wasn't like a showy, flashy gold, it was a. I really don't know. I really don't know, but it's. But that album do from start to finish. I'm a go ahead and throw that classic stamp on there.

Speaker 1:

For, for Layla the most, drake, take care class. We need to go through a track list. No, no, no, I'm remembering. He's sitting at the table. You got the curl? Yeah, definitely, and the curl. And then he had like the goblet thing, was like the gold goblet. But I'm trying to remember, man, so I will. Man, as a fan of Drake's man, I will. I won't argue with that album being considered a classic by just having five or six. Yeah, the gold goblet at the goat aisle in front of him. Yeah, take care who.

Speaker 1:

I needed that job as I'm man. Yeah, man, I never thought the suicide I'm too alive, but I still treated like it's do it die, even though dying isn't in the plan, but neither was making it. Here I am, which is a very good one, all right, man. So, as I'm thinking about it, man, I'm actually kind of going through my playlists and stuff, just kind of going through my favorite songs and seeing, just doing my analytics of that, seeing how many albums and stuff in here already that's kind of I got downloaded for different, for different things. And I'm going recent man, I can't go all yeah, it's hard to reach, unless you talking about a fucking juggernaut of an hour. Give me and it would differ, but give me like two thousand week, like now that we talk about it, give me, like next episode I'll be able to say like, all right, I didn't skim through all my, throw some Out there and we can correct it later.

Speaker 1:

Okay, when we did our top five songs, nigga, I went home like, oh, I forgot about that, stevie, and we was just doing current. We can fix it later. So we ain't gonna hold you to it. All right, freedom speakers, don't be getting on, my man, please don't. No, you ain't put no biggie on there, none of that, we just throwing some out there. Even as a music person, I know you thought biggie and we gonna go in there, man, but even as a music person, man, I love biggie. As an artist, however, man, I don't put biggie in my top five, just on, just just on one, one notion due to discography, my man doesn't have enough catalog. Yeah, man, like just one. I've got enough for that. And even make it to see his own second album, yeah, so that's one of them.

Speaker 1:

My amen and his time he was here, he shine, he was raw, he still will be held as the king of New York, but to be able to put him as, like, one of the greatest ever, I'll put him up. I feel like putting him in pocket in the same boat as like they got Cut too soon way before they prom and pop Wave for the his young age. We was 24, 25 when he died, and I think about that sometimes like damn, I'm damn near, I'm damn near 10 years older than what pop was when he died, man. Yeah, when he died, man. You know what I'm saying, not to mention when we speak about Fred Hampton and should be in only 21. Yeah, only 21. It's insane, he was only 21. You know, but, um, what you? You working on it, you getting getting. Yeah, I was rounding around my last one man. So Michael is in my list, is normal, take a look. Yeah, my list is kind of a little bit of everywhere, but it's kind of more modern, more modern music. So Michael is the album that I'm listening to right now. It stays heavy in my playlist. It gets a. It gets one full revolution every day. The album get one full spin every day. I put it on with my workout man.

Speaker 1:

My next album just kind of going through is Freddie versus Jason. That's that fab and Jada kids collab One of the songs that stick out on there, me that One of the songs that stick out on there is a song on there called soul food and both of them go in on that song and it's really just. You know it's a really gritty song, but like about love, like man, we all supposed to eat, even from my pantry. The gold wasn't live middle class and drive Camry's, but just man, he just saying a little shit man, and then kiss, saying certain little lines like how many owners. You know that's still in the field. Be, I ain't just rough on rugged, I'm still like, but just is kiss so. But I was like, but it was just kind of hood motivating. And he got a couple of other like Sam, or they got a Harold Melvin sample on there today they do real, real slick with. So after that man I got that album gets a normally a good play, full play Once every two days, if I get that far down my playlist.

Speaker 1:

Next is the Carter's by Jay Z, jay Z, the carters. That's a good. That's an album wifey and I listen to together back like just, we listen to it the whole way through and we we back and forth singing and I'm doing my part. I'm like I like it when she rap. Really I like it when y'all say rap man, yeah, man, friends, it's on friends. She, matter of fact, she wasn't rapping on that, she was rapping on the one with Ryo. Nice, yeah, last name gonna be here forever.

Speaker 1:

I don't know how much of this is right, but fuck it. Collaborative thing it's. It don't matter who, how much, who right man is making music, but when it comes to Beyonce, but let you find out, somebody was writing for big. Let that shit come out breaking fucking. We all gonna be just broken hearted like a mother. I say this man, I'll say this R&B artists can get away, yeah, with that.

Speaker 1:

But rap, mcing, you know, master ceremony is your skill. You have to deliver your own shit and as a hip hop person, bro, you have to be original. Yeah, you can't be biting nobody else's style. So I would feel some kind of way Like you said, somebody said that, but I wouldn't like I still say they had to perform, they had to deliver, they had to, yeah, and that's definitely part of it. But you know, when it comes down to it, man, when this shit organically came from you First, I lived this.

Speaker 1:

I was able to put this in a music form and say it in a way to where it rhymes and it sounds good. And I'm hitting on points and I'm telling the story like it's you. You know what I'm saying. You're able to deliver some shit in a dope voice or I like the way he said that, the same way when Kanye went on through the wire. Simply, he's really putting it down. You know what I'm saying? Down that way may have came from somebody else, but yeah, he wrote that shit, yeah, there ain't. Instead of just simply he's really putting it down, he could have just said down like that and because of the way it was in the video, j actually was like he put his hands like that and then pointed down like yeah, that's how you do it. I feel like that was J's idea Like instead of just saying simply he's really putting it down, say simply he's really putting it down and he explained the story. I'm like I fuck with that. That sounds better. J write that shit. No, however, he put an element in there that made the shit. He put a bow on it. Then you get like 3% credit. But go ahead, man, yeah, yeah. So I agree with that. I agree with that man.

Speaker 1:

So, after that Freddie vs Jason album, mama's Gun by Eric Abadou, that's that's like one of my smoke Queen out there. Like that man, I love Eric Abadou's whole musical being musically inclined. Her whole vibe with her sound is very soulful, very organic and she, she's such, a such a lady and, as a man, when I listen to her music it takes me to a place, especially if if I'm in need of a like female energy her and Jill Scott. Like Jill Scott. Recently I've been going back listening to her albums and it wasn't any album in particular, but she got a song like Crown Royal on, but that's that's the song I heard.

Speaker 1:

I'm like, let me, but she talking about sex, you're like some, some getting right back to your knees so deep and right back to your. I'm always solely you. Like how she talking about and she talking about bumping. She ain't saying nothing about a pussy being wet, sliding shit across the n***a face. Get that hair, get that red leash. She ain't said none of that shit. She ain't say her bullhole is brown, seems to her Jaina pink. She ain't say none of that. But you know, but she did. So you knew, she said everything. You knew. God damn it. You knew man, yeah, I need to catch up. So Eric about to do and Jill and I say this Jill more so takes me there than Erica does.

Speaker 1:

Erica kind of puts me at ease. Jill puts me in a place of he owns me, he teach me, he's high, she's, that's a lot, give me something to think about. But for show, man, for show. So, um, I'm gonna listen to that. She's like yo, bro. But Erica puts me in that place of like calm and peace. Jill puts me in that place of hey, I actually I would like my woman to think about Hang on, I'm gonna let you slide, but we did say rap, I don't know.

Speaker 1:

We said rap, we said rap, I think so this cool, I think you got three on there. She was rapping on there on one, so we will go ahead, I'm gonna let you slide. I love you. Jigspit, I'm sure she did on that microphone. She was up there. I want to go see. I like I do that microphone thing on the verses. I do that Disrespect, yeah, man, but that their essence of Woman.

Speaker 1:

But the Carter album we talked about that one. That was my other one. I listened to that. I'm completely straight through. Damn, I don't put no, it's a rat, it's both. I'm gonna let you hear when I win. It's my turn. Okay, all right. And then, well, I'll tell you this man, it's a song on there that Wifey and I listen to, man, and it's a. Let me actually go to it. But it's one of them, it's the, it's a. It's like amen. We was, we was at a place in the relationship and I was like amen, a modern day Makeup song, or you know, I'm so All right, but I think with the name of this guy. I just was in my list. But Boss is one of the albums on there. Man, that's one of the out Out songs.

Speaker 1:

I like to hear wifey be in her mode, singing and doing her Thing, like oh yeah, yeah, I'm a boss, yeah, I'm blah, blah, blah. But in them, in the notion of man, she really do be bossing and really do Be handling in her shit man, but no, I'm just. Yeah, I think this song is love. Yeah, it's called love, happy. Oh yeah, yeah, he would done some things to me. I think that's it. She hit it harder than that. You know just some things to me. You got it. Okay, I lost it, but in the way he's like, y'all can make it with the bag. I had to change the weather, man, the whole family West, but it's whatever. Hey, you know what man and when it couldn't.

Speaker 1:

But what I really like about that album was JNB really discussing. You know the shit that we rumor about. We know that apparently it was some drama going on in their marriage during the lemonade era. Okay, she wasn't spilling the tea, it's lemonade, but but my man holds, my man holds said nigga, I ain't going to nobody, Nothing, I ain't going to nobody. Nothing, me and my wife beefing. I don't care at the house on fire, nigga, I ain't leaving. And I'm assuming I was out. No, but I'm just going to put the zoom on. He's talking about yay and Kim's wedding near JNB didn't go to your Kim's wedding. Jnb was beefing at the time that.

Speaker 1:

I ain't going to nobody, nothing. I ain't going to nothing. Yeah, you coming through, I ain't going to nobody shit. Hey, we ain't right over here, Like I'm staying in the in the house and that's something that we discuss amongst men Walking out when it's, I want to say argument time, but discussion time in your relationship and your marriage, and you can go to the other room. You can leave the room. They don't leave. We just bounce on, skirt off a space, space big enough. Yeah, I'm sure it's big enough. Show that house got like three zip. Hey, man, find a corner and claim it. That's the same man. Find you a corner and claim it. Yeah, for real man, but that was some grown man. I ain't going to nobody, nothing, me and my wife beefing. I don't care at the house on fire, nigga, I ain't leaving, I take care of my kids. You can understand that we ain't meant to be friends.

Speaker 1:

Hard grown man music Roadman, rap, kill a mic. Jay Z Grown man music. Man, you wrap up the top five. What you would you come up with, man. My last five, my last one is I'm forgetting one, remember, I'm going recent these my top five. That's kind of like I get a lot of listen in my you know from me. My last one is Lil Wayne. No, sell it, that's a mixtape. That is true, man. It's true it's mixtape, but I bump it. I bump it because that was no ceiling. That is why Fianna was kicking it.

Speaker 1:

Okay, that run takes you to a time. No sillings. Yeah, I put a radio in her Jeep. I'm in her truck Showing your age. Yeah, nigga's got a Bluetooth. Now what the fuck you had to put a radio in. I put the radio head in that joint. She had the four truck. I had to take the little, take the screen out. I had to put it out by the face of it. I think I got her a little. I got her a little. I think it was a pioneer or a Panasonic is something from from the world. I had one of them bitches in my civic and my uncle, my uncle, had one in this cutlass year. He's popped that bitch out when he got home into the church. So niggas, don't go in there and still it pop that bitch out and just put it in the tucked in vision and niggas going to steal your shit.

Speaker 1:

Nigga, I remember walking through the damn. I miss my tangible face. One of the Kanye West say he's like walking through the mall. You know, I can't even remember to sing along that well with music. I don't know where I'm. I miss my civic. That was your air. I wouldn't say that was my air man, but it was a cool little car man. I got pulled over a lot. I ain't like that part, no reason, but I missed that car. I missed that car man. Great top five bro. Right, right, right.

Speaker 1:

So we rounded off with I got Michael Jason versus Freddie Mama's gun, which is Eric. Goodbye, dude. I got everything is love or the carters. Yeah, you know say. And then low way, no, silly, tight as that was. I knew there was a mixed table. I saw good, we try, we try to keep the rules light around here. That's, that's about man. That's about three and a half four hours worth of music. Oh yeah, nice little road trip. Yeah, that's an. I'll tell you what, man. That's a nice Amen. We're going to go to Chicago, hop on Route 66 and road trip all the way to Los Angeles. We can start with that five. That'll get us through a quarter of the trip Because we stopped in there.

Speaker 1:

Ain't nobody driving that long straight when we road trips. Just speaking, the road trip man. I've been actually Been tripping late. I've been road tripping. Wife even made some shirts to say road tripping when we go out of town. But we actually been taking more road trips, man, especially since I didn't upgrade it to Veronica. That was one of the reasons to, you know, hit the road. That was on the way.

Speaker 1:

But, man, I told Ness I was just having a moment. We on the highway driving, looking the backseat he is the fellow sleep. I look over at her, she trying to stay up, smiling at me like I'm staying up with you and I'm just driving. But I'm like, hey, I feel like such a fucking dad right now. I feel like a fucking dad. I'm loving this shit, like just Johnson family vacation on the road. I got my seatbelt on. I'm looking at stuff. I'm an overpopulation. Look at all this land. I got some houses without my exit. But I'm one of them. One of them, but I'm loving that, I'm loving living in those moments and falling in love with being a father, being a dad, and though I'll gripe or beat myself up sometime, like, hey, man, I'm being tough on my kids or I'm doing this and doing that, but I also get to sit in those moments when I'm just reflecting or when we go, because this is permission to speak freely.

Speaker 1:

When we go, man, fuck this shit. And it's moments like that that make you go. I'm staying in the house, I'm staying here. You know, ain't nothing out there. You know, man, shit, I'll tell you this man, I'll say this man.

Speaker 1:

So as being, you know, a dad and finding my dad laying now was being on road trips and just being a dad, that that sits higher to me than being like a bachelor. And at a time, man, you know, I had my stand of just being a bachelor man, exercising those skills to be able to take care of wifey and take care of business, you know, take care of what's necessary. So I get to live through that again with my sons, especially with KJ man, he 11. He, handsome, handsome young man and he, he's getting the attention of his peers. So now he's at this point where he's starting to have to. He's starting to want to care about what he looked like, care about the older and his breath. You know just little things like that man. So me getting a biker, you just get to know what's going, what's out there for him.

Speaker 1:

Through my own child, and airs make me just have a nostalgia moment. I'm saying like amen, knowing what all I done built myself up to being, how dare I let somebody who didn't, who mishandled me prior or I mishandled them, just shooting fair, shooting fair, that I even take that step and go back. If we, if I, if I ever feel like I want to risk anything, I look at my kids and I don't even and we don't talk about this man. We're going to change it up a little bit, because music kind of helped with the, with the, what we feel. So I can't remember one of these albums, man, but it's a song in there and it just kind of. You know, I think it was a. I don't get me the line. I figure out what song triggered me to feel the way that I feel.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, for sure, however, but we was just talking and rapping one day as as men, as men, and I was hearing their philosophies but they were stating and when stepping out on a relationship, the insurance plan that they had was I need to make sure my next bitch I level up with is bad. That she kind of compares her rivals, the one that they with, so if they get caught up they got a bitch. That's kind of like equal to that shit To me. I didn't agree. I thought that narrative was backwards. It's a little shallow as well. Yeah, it was a little backwards, but I looked at it too Like man. Those are like entry level tactics.

Speaker 1:

I stated if you really looking, or you know yourself, and you just trying to bust a nut, why would you try to go and make number two, the runner up? Like, go fuck really with the runner up. Yeah, like why, hey, why, that's true. If you know, and you two really just trying to get a nut, you just go find you a little scubb bucket to fuck. Come dumpster, that's fine with you. Just giving her some time paying a little delinquent bill, getting her some cheap wine. Taylor pork is preferably the thing. Now she get real loose. She had a little buck. Wow, hold for your dick Blackboard White boys, but just hold my.

Speaker 1:

My philosophy was real simple and real quick. If you get your little scubb bucket to hit and you get caught up, you could tell the truth. The bitch didn't mean shit. She didn't mean shit. She wasn't quality that rivaled you, it was just something that helped me get out this poison on juice. Yeah, we get this poison, and that's something like the question I asked you the other day. Nothing we would know. It's just a general question.

Speaker 1:

Do side chicks get upgraded after the relationship goes sour, or do you just remain in side chick status and then a new chick come in and take that place? Because apparently not in all cases, but I imagine most you wouldn't work Wifey status somewhere, you wouldn't like you was lacking something, and I don't even want to put all the onus on the young lady. This man's preference didn't meet. You know you didn't meet quite. Does the rotation go up? Okay, number two, turn number one. Number three, turn number two, and maybe you got another one hanging out here. You can get on the bus too, maybe. So I'll say this man, I haven't really given them thought to it like in depth, but I'm thinking about it now. That crossed my mind. My gears is going fast now. So I like to leave with me.

Speaker 1:

I actually feel like most men can handle at least two women at least. Yeah, most men can handle two women at least. And most men get caught up with dealing with, you know, multiple women. If that man is in a committed relationship with a longtime girl or wife and he is still dealing or has chosen to deal with somebody else, I can't say if that woman gets upgraded or moved or she heard status changes, but what I will say is vacant, something will become vacant. Okay, something will become vacant.

Speaker 1:

Seasons happen, rotations happen, so I can't say like, hey, man, she gonna automatically get bumped up because she got seniority. You know what I'm saying? Well, she would hold me down. She's been here, me and Pearl was. It was 78. I got Pearl to 78. We was down there at the post office. They had it on the one spot. Now I was on one. It was there first and then I pulled in. I had a Park Avenue and I backed in and I had to and I saw her and she had on the skirt, exactly. But it's one of them. One of them like old type, that type nigga, yeah, man.

Speaker 1:

So I say this man, I feel like I feel like having multiple women, or a man of a certain status can have multiple women. It's kind of the undertone or look that like that. Anyway, when you kind of hold yourself for the value is like you got hoes, you got a bunch of hoes I can't fuck with you got a bunch of hoes, I got a lot of women. I don't have any hoes, I don't fuck with hoes. Hoes fuck up Household. Okay, I don't fuck with hoes, I don't fuck with side bitches.

Speaker 1:

If I had to choose or put a name or phrase, my nigga, give me a old school mistress, give me a myth. The mistress that like that woman, not down the side bitch, I'm the sneaky link. I'm just that you, the mistress, the nigga, love the mistress too, like some niggas yeah, some niggas not even man enough to stand up and say like I'm in love with my wife, but I love my side bitch A lot of times. You know the marriage. You know, at least in some communities, the marriage is like the business move. Yeah, the mistress is the one you know, and she may have been one who came through years, years later. She may be younger.

Speaker 1:

You know what I'm saying when you say the word mistress. It makes me think of like on some JFK shit. That's where my mind goes. For real, yeah, my mistress is like older. She make you a fish sandwich with some grits and put that big walrus pussy on you and it starts to shit out your work out. I don't know, my mistress, this will be a old bitch, like I don't know if the old chick really gone flat Like uh-uh, youngster, you got young, you get it. I think that I think if you in our air in 2023, if, as 30 plus year old me and get some young broad, you gonna you gambling with house money and you gonna, you gonna, you gonna lose. But listen, when I say on some JFK shit, I'm talking 55 year old man, 35, 30, 35 year old woman, not 35 year old man, 25 year old, that's just, that's getting messy. Ain't fucking y'all, ain't you can handle all you can handle this. Yo ask me, want to step out of line? Nine bitch, give me 35. You know something you got some sense and you ain't trying to. You ain't trying to fuck. Good thing up for you, for you understand what your benefit. Come in. You know what I'm saying and it's you know you're loading, ran out of options, which I'm what you got left. You know what I'm saying. Hey, yeah, so I agree with that.

Speaker 1:

I don't not knock the age, but I reverse the gender. I am just speaking for myself. I'm with you, man. I wouldn't do a young woman who labels herself as that side chick, that sneaky link, that other bitch. I wouldn't do it just because of just what are one of the holes out there.

Speaker 1:

Those monikers are a derogatory moniker to me of like what the stigma comes along with. That that's not a, that's not a respectable other woman. Terrible, that is respectable. None of it is respectable. But nigga, if we, if we dealing, if we dealing, you gonna respect my woman, you, you gonna respect my wife Straight up. All right, that's okay. Everything else fucking fair game. But it's like respect my wife, remember we speaking, we still speaking Polly. Yeah, we're still speaking Polly. So, just like I say, respect my mama, respect my auntie, my grandma. It's respect my motherfucking wife, respect this woman. And rest of this shit is food, nigga, rest of this shit is food. Have that and wives is off limits. Don don't you look at it, don you? What the shit about your mother fucking? Hey, nigga, so you been not mentioning my wife soon as you say, whoop, I'll whip your ass. All this shit, all your friends go, all your friends go. You be the man. So I say that man just as a.

Speaker 1:

I was a bachelor for a while and I had a, a stick of Polly, and Polly taught me more than just what you think of of just like threesomes and shit. It ain't, it, ain't it, it's sex. But who ain't having sex? You know what I'm saying. But it's more skilled and tact of communication, honesty, trust, yeah, things that kind of seem to be the hiccups in monogamous relationship. Still, in this relationship, is you practice it of? I'm attracted to her and her. I would like to take care of both of you. I would like to deal with you both and not Now. Now, if I have not an issue isn't with me because my honesty freed me. Yeah, now it's. Is this a problem between you two? And most of the time it's kind of like it, you stay over there. But it's all kind of variations People, family, just like it.

Speaker 1:

But remember, polly means family, man, like, in the most simplistic way it can be put in, we make it, we make it immature. When I say we, I mean just social media is big in the conversation, the public conversation. Now people's being asked the question what do you think about a polyamorous? Or you know the, the umbrella of Polly, I'll just leave it at that. This Polly, a lot of different Ways and types come under that. Polly, we make it, we make it immature, like it's even on TV now. You know my Polly life, or whatever it may be, you know, and I still even got a motive in there, you know. But Polly people population, you know, compared to Monogamy, mono, one, single, we don't die, we multiply, don't die, we multiply. We baby is kids. You know what I'm saying. We will be.

Speaker 1:

So you know that was Marcus Houston, where the main little dude no, I didn't know Marcus Houston, that's dope. Now you fucking say that around for a long time and we can put the lab with the leg of stamp on Marcus Houston. Nobody else with that niggas a legend. Let's get me Jamaica Sun. That was your Mika Sun, but that was Marcus. You know, I got to be mature.

Speaker 1:

So I'll say this man, I say as we talked about the JFK and the Melon Monroe, remember she was what Thirty five, thirty six Say. As a man, I'm thirty five, thirty six. I wouldn't deal with the twenty four, twenty five, I wouldn't do what. I would say that I wouldn't deal with the twenty one. You learn what that they didn't. They call us the enough. Yeah, I will go for that Fifty five.

Speaker 1:

Be your old lady who still cook from scratch and all her kids gone. She still go to church and she go to them free lines at the church and get food. She do her own pedicure sometime, unless her daughter come get her and take her out. But is she with it, though? I know that's what you'll go for, but is she with it in mass? I ain't talking about just one, it's one out there. We know most of them with it, most of. Just keep it in mind, bro, I'm we speaking free man, most of us. I see most of them at this age now and I'm just speaking my own truth. Man, like I'm a therapy with you, I'm going to send you, send me an invoice. I'm going to pay you for your time, really, but this is my therapy session, all right.

Speaker 1:

So Since I was a kid man or in my juvie age, I've always had attraction to older women and older women always had an attraction to me. I even hear from my grandmother of, like, amen, you always been mature, you had like a maturity about you, yeah, and I'm like, ok, cool. So women, my age or my generation, I was all. I was too intellectual outside, I was too creative and dynamic, that I was a little different, but I was always weird. I was always like cool, but he, you know, cool, cool. So the older women seem to be the ones that always gave me the attention, like, hey, little young man, I'm am, how you doing? Yeah, I can't boy, yeah, man, but it was, it was that.

Speaker 1:

So in the age that they at now knowing just not just saying knowing women, I'm still learning women through the women around me, my wife, so on and so forth. But Though those women are older, everything still work, bro, just your way. And and they come with a huge level of understanding and I know you, important baby, and you got them cheering and they need you playing your, your, you got your lady and I'm proud of that and you know you hold that together, you know. So what I did was I packed you a little bit of lunch so you don't need to cook you nothing, and when you get home and you can just go do what you need to do for them when you get in there. But before you leave, I'm going to put something on your belly and I'm going to put something on your mind, so I want you to have a seat real quick. I'm going to help you out and then you know you can go ahead and go up out today.

Speaker 1:

Baby, what's on your face, what? But it's, but it's a level of convenience of you. Tell that young lady, you, you, being responsible, she turned off. You know what I'm through having for you. Yeah, no, I can, definitely. I can definitely see that man. You wrap that up pretty. I'm with you. So that's just me. It's like hey, man, for what we doing is impressive. Yeah, it's impressive to our generation and the one previous, the ones younger to us ain't lived long enough to really know they, we like this, fuck, we like we are. Titles is probably why they attract it. Can we buy corny as fuck? Now we have some. But if, but if, I told her like hey, man, you know I'm a, you know I'm a night shift manager. I mean, I run the district. Like I said, I'm the manager. Like bitch, I'm clearing 80 K easy. I got a company car man.

Speaker 1:

I heard something interesting man, I forget who I heard say this man, but it was a young lady who tweeted something. This influencer was quoting a tweet and she said um, um, you know I'm tired of the dope boy slash Kingpin, fortune 500 CEO me, please Like it. Ain't nobody in between Doing the right thing, making 80, 100, 120, 150 K goodie who fucking doing the goddamn thing? You ain't got to worry about putting nothing in your vagina. Come on now. You know what I'm saying. There's nothing in between either rich dope boy or rich CEO.

Speaker 1:

But the rest of these niggas isn't visible to you and that's that, uh, 90. 10 split. Oh, definitely, that's the 90., 10. And the 90. Let's be clear that 10%, that 1%, we'll keep it at 10 for the sake of your argument. 10%, you talking. You know $100,000, if we talking, if we talking money, you know what I'm saying. Only, really, 10% of men make over $10,000. But yeah, and that's all me in, the 10,000 or 100,000. I apologize, 100,000. 10,000. That would be crazy. I would say, man, what about that number? It'd be reversed. It's niggas making like 10 bands. Yeah, yeah, yeah, it's like I'm thinking but uh, but yeah, 10% of men clean $100,000.

Speaker 1:

You all the rest of these niggas is in straight up and visibles you. You ain't got nothing to do with him because he ain't a dope dealer and he ain't the CEO of Fortune. Fine that niggas sell cars. And he demanded that shit Pulling in 150, get his bonus checks and shit Got a nice dope ass crib Got him a car. Himself could get you one. Hey baby, this bank fuck with people fucked up credit Don't get you though. Don't give a fuck about none of these dude. They just won't top street nigga.

Speaker 1:

And then we can speak on this. You can't handle the CEO, you cannot. The CEO nigga don't want you. No, let me say the CEO, he don't, he don't want you. He gonna turn you down. He might fuck you. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, but he may, he may play with you. He may let you think you got a shot If you can get in the room, you can't get in the fucking room.

Speaker 1:

Make your standards more realistic. Let's be real here. It's some good niggas out here, man. It gets so wild man when it comes to these. Man, let me.

Speaker 1:

I pulled up some lyrics real quick, man. I want to read these. Going back to the top of your discussion man, I'm a single little bit right now, shake it, and I'm trying, but I'm only human. I know loving use of crime. If I take this cookie now, one day I'll do the time. Slip me a zany at once, somebody. I got that earth in the blood smoke. I get the skirt when I want. I get to skirt when I want. Bars man, if you don't vibe with Kevin's heart, you ain't living enough right. You ain't taking enough risk. That shit right there. Grow man, use that right there. That song One is is a dope song.

Speaker 1:

Kevin Hart playing himself in the video yeah, cuz he just went through his shit with his wife. Yeah, went through his shit, but he handed it marvelous, like five months earlier. It was still fresh, yes, still in the world, fresh in a relationship. So I'll say this man, when it comes to the two women man and I always find myself in a position where I'm back for women man, I love women. I, I think a trauma of mine is I saw our back so heavy. For women is like because, man, I've seen my mama and my aunt and my grandma and my sister's like, hey, man, I deserve a good nigga. Yeah, you know I'm saying deserve a good nigga man, even if they it beat up the nigga that was Beating the gas, but they just heard you. Yeah, so you know it puts me in that place, but I'm I'm more of a realist than an idealist. Yeah, so the real I'll get to see, not not with just them, but just with some women in different generations what, whatever narrative that was in the world, is what was pushed and kind of what's in their mind.

Speaker 1:

In my grandmother's era it was a man, get you a man. As hard out here we can't really get you know no good jobs on the so forth man. You better get a man any kind of way you can. Even if you got a kind of steel one or a kind of borrow one. Yeah, I'm saying you got ain't enough niggas go around, but he's always been that it ain't enough good ones that want to sign up. You know I'm saying so. That notion was man, get a man, get a man. And he was kind of praised, the you got a man who work, he got, he got. He got a pension, he got benefits. Hey, black, he'll hit you, like You're saying, but it's one of them, like you got praise.

Speaker 1:

The kind of next generation was you know, party, party, party. Yeah, kick it man, but I ain't listening to him. Yeah, it's kind of like I'm doing my own thing. I got some live or I got some freedom, which is great and cool. However, that's not a.

Speaker 1:

That's not the argument I want to make of you can't do whatever it is that you want to do. I'm in support, and men, most men, are in support of what it is that you want to do. However, when logic is added to it and just just bouncing an idea off of it, off of somebody, and it's like babe, you really feel like Jumping through some fire hoops in the rain is like safe, but it's gonna be lit for the gram. I Know what's gonna be lit for the gram. I'm not arguing that. But, bitch, you know you got how dangerous that shit the fuck is.

Speaker 1:

But just putting logic in that, in my little skit of example, if you will, if you can't handle correction, it kind of shows in that conversation. Kind of shows of like amen, I'm not knocking what you trying to do, but I'm trying to give you other views if you can't respect my view and you just want me to agree with your view. You really didn't want my view, you really didn't want it. You really just, you wanted me to tell you what you wanted. You wanted me to confirm what you already thought Mm-hmm, or what you already wanted to do. You didn't want my opinion. You wanted an audience, yeah. You wanted some cheers and you and a spokesperson's like nope, you wanted a co-signer, pretty much man.

Speaker 1:

Now, you selling cars, yeah, but I was like I, that that is a trait that is, um, it's difficult to To maneuver around. Yeah, was very attractive, is somebody that you can create with and blend with and you can share each other's Ideas and be able to expand what is already there. Compared to like, no, this shit, right, right, right, right, right, right, wrong, are you just hating, it's ugly, it's ugly man, are you just mad? But being able to say, well, you know what, okay, so what do you think? You know you got some solutions, you know, I do know what I did think about this, or you know, if you do move that, can you move that for me and show me, demonstrate, opens it up, oh, I mean with this chair over here. Oh, yeah, but just, it expands it out and you get to hear compared to you, that's a form of just being dismissed, yeah, being shut down.

Speaker 1:

So it's like man, you know whatever, but I feel like, as a man most definitely, how are being able to hear you out was a party like that leadership thing in the relationship and most men have leadership qualities that 10% that's taking those risks and calling those shots and really moving the world. Remember those, that 10% is the world movers. All right, they, they put in, they having a lot of conversations of faith about that other 90% yeah, this is true, and keeping in mind that 90% is great people that they're taking care of man, these are the people who still are making the 50, 60, 70, 80, thousand, even 90, even other hundred thousand dollar salaries that are still a part of the growth that was going on. They're just on the ground floor of things. You know, I'm saying, hmm, that man that has that mindset and I'm speaking about myself for being in that Per in a in that, in that 10% man who has that certain mindset does not have time to burn daylight, it's not have time to be dealing with uncertainty, unsururity, the you ain't being able to come up with the idea or make the decision. You swaying and weighing too back and forth. Man, you become the feds. Yeah, can't do that, so we'll put it, we'll put it in the realm of, we'll take it outside of business. But we using the same tactics and principles.

Speaker 1:

You a business-minded type of man, you a hustler, you making things move. You used to kind of getting shit shaking on on a certain time frame, certain pace. You're dealing with somebody that's kind of I don't know you all the time, I ain't sure. Let me get back to you all the time. You feel like that you gonna keep that in rotation. You don't feel like that's healthy to your growth of what you're doing. You feel like that's what you're gonna, really you're gonna put some time there when and they didn't even know, ain't even no exchange of Communication beyond it is still in the idea phase. What comes in me? I don't know. Yeah, compared to, like Nick, I'm here, will you? I drop, you drop, so add, you add that that's what you're gonna put your time into. Yeah, that the one that's showing up. So in the business, the one that the one that's showing up the squeaky wheel gets the oil, you can, that's the person who gets the time. The students that come to class and the student that wants to learn and pay attention to the teacher. That's the one the teacher focuses on. That's the one like that. And you and you got a more. The potential that's lost in the others if they not showing up, if they not there putting in it gets competitive about here, as we talk to our wives and have our conversations, a realignment with them, like amen.

Speaker 1:

My mind set is probably for family, for growth and things like that. But I also understand that I don't want to really Do that in the romantic realm. You know, man, I don't want no niggas stuffing my wife, just like my wife don't want me thrusting up on no other she be getting mad at me, beating me up tomorrow. I had a dream, use, ah, oh, my mother, what you, what you dream about, don't get it out. You was, you was like slow dancing with somebody, but she have a little Dolls that ran lost. And I'm like man, you really man, you like that. It's not me. Yeah, I'm like you, man, cause you wasn't there. You just watch it. You ain't going in your own dream. I'm trying to sink in your brain, let me see. But one of them like One of them, like I'm mad at you because I thought about you did something. I really was fucking pissed at you, niggas. And I'm just sitting there dumbfounded, doing goofy shit Like you, you, you really mad that she can also have, like even outside of a dream, that she could also happen, like, let's say, brad, let's say I'm, let's say I'm listening to some music, the music that's promoted.

Speaker 1:

You know, the female artists, rap artists especially that we got displayed and really pushed out there is our leaders. In female rap, the message is to grown. Grown people like grown-ups. It's like this used to be so much better. Y'all dope, y'all can spit, but the message it ain't they fault, is what they Want to push out into the community.

Speaker 1:

But if I'm listening to this shit and I'm just hearing they telling stories how they play this and he fucked this nigga went back and made him eat the pussy he's like I get to think about my. I wish my this would do some shit like that. You know what I'm saying. I fuck you up. It's like being scandalous. I ain't even do that. You know what I'm saying.

Speaker 1:

I don't know how to scam, yeah, but you lie, bitch. You're right, fucking lie. Yeah, my wallet. You took my wallet. You took a picture of me when I was holding my card up. I flipped it over because I was typing in the number. You took a picture of me and you got my numbers off my shit. Didn't you give me your phone? You know I'll trust me your phone man.

Speaker 1:

I saw one where, um, let's say you had the cashier yo. They had a shit recording like this behind the register That'd be 1776,. Please Shout out to USA random number. Give me your card. Okay, they hold your card in front of their phone. You know what I'm saying. Just enough time, shit, that shit. Not even enough to do nothing. But they have the numbers and shit recorded.

Speaker 1:

Go back and watch the video 1848469971, writing down your information. They probably flip that bitch, get the security code, maybe even a name, off. That bitch Got yo' head, got you. You know what I'm saying. You get your card to the waitress and shit, and they go back there and take a picture of the front and the back of yo' shit. I ain't trying to get no ideas. I don't do this shit, but I've heard. So this is just me putting the message out beware, beware, beware. These niggas and bitches ain't shit and scamming is at a all time high.

Speaker 1:

Scamming is a heavy career and you find a lot of it's men and women who scam. They got all kind of different scams and schemes. They send the men to the women, they send the women to the men. Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. So I'll tell you this man, the part of the scamming is I'll tell you this is we were bringing it back full circle.

Speaker 1:

I think the narrative that's pushed a lot of times that you get to see or at least the people I see on social media they push a negative narrative poly. They promote sex and satisfaction over family. And I feel like when the women or the men that push poly for sex and satisfaction, those are the women or the men that I feel like, hey, that's that man that he needed to tell you he let you to lay on your couch so he can be with you. Or that woman who feel like, hey, she can tell that you sexually deprive and all she got to do is kind of fuck you a little bit and cry wolf and she can reel you in, especially if she can kind of put some leverage on you, like I tell your bitch, I tell your wife aw, bitch, I ain't be. Curtain resheded, but I think Kurt really loved her. You know what I'm saying. But another topic Shout out to Kurt for resheding from, but you know that kind of, you know that kind of places you know is part of them, and so you get to see the man lie about him being able to take care of the women and or you get to see that the women lie about really being okay with that. You having or dealing with. You know other women, yeah, and it's a.

Speaker 1:

The notion is not say not y'all, like this is supposed to be for y'all. Bringing other people in on even just a monogamous thing, it's like it's already difficult enough to get a blend with just two, but bringing in another person and that person is only there, like their level of relief okay, is their level of relief is generally promoted through sex sexuality. Yeah, not a relief of amen. I can come through and really do the tedious things, some tedious tasks. I can, you know, clean up a little bit here there. You know I can kind of you know prep food, I could you know just things that were really kind of and that 10% they probably got a nanny. They probably got a housekeeper, more definitely, if some, or a lawn keeper, a pool boy, that one person for sure, most definitely I want somebody in there got that, I'm pretty sure you hear stories all the time about that desperate housewife fucking the pool boy Cause a lot of times in the upper, the upper dig day, they have agreements and they married to a woman like that man, so big and he know.

Speaker 1:

You know, but that should come with rules Don't get fucking pregnant or had no diseases. You can fuck, not. You can fuck with who you want, but there'd be some shit going on in the upper. Yeah, maybe it's all negotiable. She can go on and get hers. You know you're too busy, I gotta go out of town. And he taking his assistant to Hawaii with him, yeah, yeah.

Speaker 1:

So me and my uncle saw him like this one day, my uncle Dale shout out to my uncle Dale, and we was just talking about a powerful man, and not just powerful in your position of like work or whatever, but powerful as you can command things. You know what I'm saying. You got, you can, you can control the room or whatever. You got a good way with people, whatever it is. And he was like man. Do you know why? Most powerful men screw like the maid, the secretary, the front desk chick, you know the assistant, I'm like no man. Why? Why? Why, you know why they do that. I've never done these things so I don't know. But I'm like, why, man, go ahead, give me your philosophy, give me your theories.

Speaker 1:

Like man, most of these women play a position of servitude. They all play a level of hospitality, of doing what this man is asking and what he needs. And to a man I remember saying, wifey saying to me one time, like hey, nigga, it shouldn't be that easy. And I'm like and I'm sorry to tell you that it really is, it really it really can be that easy. It really can be that easy of getting caught up in just your own shit. Yeah, getting caught up in your own shit A lot of times. I'm going to say this really quick I imagine it not. I imagine it not to be, not to be selfishness or greed involved in this, however, it's just the factor of yes, sir, that shit is just naturally attractive.

Speaker 1:

Now you get to the point where you need to shoot your shot, you know, and it can go up or it can go down, and to go down is the good part or bad, depending on how you look at terminology, terminology you get terminated, but but no, man, and I think, I think that's important for a lot, of, a lot of people in relationships to understand. Like we ain't never fully going to understand each other. We never going to understand each other as much as we want each other to understand each other. You want me to understand you 90 percent? Ok, I'm probably only going to get 70 percent of this shit. I might have a good day on tapping 80, but now I hover around 70,. You know it's never going to be a honey.

Speaker 1:

Now you've been through something. What you need is different. Now for sure, oh my gosh, when the shit come with like age nigga, if you've been in a relationship with a woman since she was 22, think about the time you 35, you ain't. You don't need the same shit, not at all. You know what I'm saying, even from a woman's perspective. You don't need the same shit. You need more back rubbs. It hurts, your ankles getting swollen. You making soul food like your mama did? Yeah, like I need. I need something different. I mean, man, let's, let's cut some of this soda in my grandmama's recipes. It's delicious, I love it. Let's cut some out. Can we drink almond milk? Yeah, you saw, but man, it's a. It's a continuous. It's a continuous thing, man, it's a continuous thing.

Speaker 1:

Do you feel like you, as as the man, knowing like yourself and knowing hey, man, you're married. Do you feel that what you and your wife is building and what you're doing is like it will really last? Oh, fuck, like, not beyond, just like more than just what you're building in the world? No, no, no, no, no. I want to meet him. I kind of love the kids Like I want my want that, I want to model myself. Fuck, yeah, after that, we talk about that Actually pretty often, that we recognize that in our generation I just put it at, say, like Just a generation that we went to school with our graduate and when we graduate, with high school, from relationships that we and we're able to keep in touch with folks through the social media, so we know who's married, who ain't together, no more, who's buckled, who who just got a baby together.

Speaker 1:

They don't get along. Oh shit, they'll be fined because so we know, we're able to, we all talk you know what I mean and we recognize that a lot of Forget marriage, just relationships in our generation ain't panning out. Yeah, so I do. I feel, even beyond just the love I have for my wife and want to be with her. I feel a sense of responsibility to hold it the fuck down for my generation, for my like age group in my family. You know what I'm saying.

Speaker 1:

Like I mentioned to you on the last episode, we are not Marrying At the race that we should be. Married ain't the goal for a lot of people. Marriage ain't the goal for a lot of people, At least not yet For a lot of. By the time they do make marriage your priority, it's too old. You're gonna be trying to scounce for a nigga and them standards better be reasonable. Yeah, I so, man, I'll say this you will be 45 looking for a nigga with no kids. Is you crazy, man? Do not let social media, do not let somebody who's heartbroken Convince you that being married is not the goal. Okay, do not let that. Do not let them falsify to you that being married is not a real live Commitment type.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, it's a set, is the one of the biggest disciplines, man, and for even the people who feel like man, there's just a piece of paper. It was like such a so as a living wheel. So it's a paycheck. So it's like your birthday, so, like man, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, do that now I don't do that.

Speaker 1:

So I give you this man, a young lady, um, that I used to counsel and talk to a little bit, um, she kind of gave me this sour view of marriage and Me, being a married man, still hearing her, her view of marriage being a spew and nasty and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Yet, man, I'm counseling her in a place of she feels prideful to be the other woman and, like, I know how to play my position, how to play my role. Yeah, as most of the mall says, you know. So it's just a vague kind of thing, most of them. I could play my position until you got a, you got a button up in your feelings get hurt, or the deck got cut and you wouldn't you, your, your car wouldn't the one that was pulled. You, as we say, I was being responsible. All right, dealing with you is irresponsible. If it ain't the time nor place to handle this, then it ain't gonna be and you don't hold no right, nowhere For me to have to explain anything to you, because a, if you in your position and you know when you understand, then you understand thousand percent.

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Somebody who then been through life, who, 55, who could make some beans and rice for you and saute it with some cornbread hot water, cornbread from scratch. Starts to shit out your jeans with that. Niagra starts Press the fuck out. That motherfucker got put you a little. You smelling like a goddamn car fresher when you go to work, man belly on full dick on drain clothes on fresh, mind on focus, and she like go be responsible baby. That's the shit. That young bitch you know I want ten wings flat hot sauce, ranch loaded fries and you better give me some papas too, bitch. I said I want them new J's you need, I want them. Take me shopping.

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And this is how domestic violence starts. It's like, okay, like I'm not a fan of domestic violence, however, you still a man, some of my family, that's women, beat niggas, they, they still own niggas. So I, I've been a man that been stolen on by a woman. So it's like a hey, hey, hey, don't Shake the shit I shoot like don't, don't, don't do that man. But hey, is that older lady ain't gonna Beat your ass? She cuz, she, she, it ain't the time or place for her. She gonna, she gonna catch you and hurt your feelings just on some like I forgot to do some shit for you that I know you like nigga and now you miss it. Now because I'm a star view of something. Man, she ain't gonna flatten your tires. That's young nigga.

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I but I brought, I've took some risk in my life. Remember, it's my therapy session. So, nigga, I'm came on, my mama hose tire slashed and I and I'm, I am a stickler of tires, bro, I'm a stickler for tires because my first car accident in my crown I remember you had to race the tires on it. Yeah, yeah, bro, I was the, I was the race tires. I thought I was the shit, but I got the racing joints because it was my first car and it was a real world draw. And the god, the salesman, god was really good, he was really nice, he promoted me, like, yeah, you need these because, hey, this is your first oh buck, oh, you need this, come on, this is hate, come on over here. So he got me but I did like the performance.

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But when she slashed them joints, and when she slashed, I'm getting pissed now man. So I'm conjuring up this old shit. So you're thinking about, but you know I've been through many a time. That's my shit. I had to Go get some, some used tires from a little spot. I ended up getting into an accident because the tires bored as fuck. And then the assurance god came up there like yeah, of course you couldn't stop. Look how fucking bought these tires, sorry, I like the adjuster claim guy. Like man, yeah, it was like I just couldn't stop. We like I got a course, nigga, got a car full of Ray Allen head, all this bitch sitting there, man, just like that's.

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When I learned, like yeah, you, you lost this one guy, you lost this one, like just them coming out looking at your tires, if your tires is bored, they like, yeah, the accident is Lively on you. They like, nigga, your tires in these safe, yo, how, so how you? How you claiming somebody couldn't stop, how you like you look like the nigga that couldn't stop. But it was, uh, it was, it was, it was that I learned that man. But oh, uh, girl came through, fucked up my, my tires and my mama house. I'll stand back with my mama Niggas. She, my mama, see the bitch riding down the street. She come and check me, crazy as bitches at my. God damn, how'd you need to be checking your mother fucking whole, get these bitches lying and shit.

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I'm like that's a poly relationship, another woman, you cussing me out because another woman Cussing me out and doing the fuck she wanted. Mommy, I ain't even do nothing for real. Like you said I could stay here. You say I could stay here, he's grandma but bruh, so I, I just hey man, just young, wild and free. I'm gonna say I'm wild and free. Well, it's a leaf shit, young, wild and free, but um, I, uh, I enjoy the perks of so I'll say this man, I enjoy the perks of being a man. I was saying, I was saying this to myself.

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It came to me in my meditation the other day. That's something I want to coin. That's where a lot of my great thoughts come from, in my meditation. Man, well, share with us. In my meditation that day I felt really good to be a man. I felt really good to be the man that I am, that I'm developing and researching, but developing myself to continuously be, and I'm never finished.

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But I got a chance to see, taking a moment just at that 4 am, stroll through the crib, looking at my children, looking at the house, looking at my wife, looking at my property, looking at some of the work I did around the house, looking at some work I need to do, but just sitting in that moment, basking like man. I remember living in my car. I forget a lot of shit, walking through 3100 square feet of living space every day, but just like that's a big testimony to me. Then I remember not having no kids. Then I get to hear them in there fucking snoring and shit Sucking in the walls. Was it calling the hogs home? But I'm like them, my goddamn babies, man. And then just get hit with that nostalgia. How they got here, like damn man, like you didn't been on the journey, bro. Then I go back to just go sit in my little man cave and I look out there and be like I remember this bitch looked abandoned but just, and been hit with nostalgia.

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I'm getting getting uh, just Be glad to be a man. What I've developed myself to be, of the respect that I've gained in the world, the relationships that I've built with people, the trust that I've built with people, the relationships that I've broken and rebuilt, the relationships of that just needed an apology. The relationships that needed Acknowledgement. They needed to be known, that they were seen and they were felt, and it really just Just. But all of these things. But I'm checking my cell phone and I'm understanding myself on and I'm Getting to be thankful of like amen. It could have all been worse, for sure, it could have all been worse, man, but what I'll do is I'll take that and lead that into A prayer for the night man.

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Very spiritual person, very deep thought, poetic type brother man, show man, take us home. So when I pray to God, y'all in here with me. I ain't with y'all, y'all with me, y'all with us. On permission to speak freely podcast. And this is how we talk to the powers that be Insert your own God.

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Hey, god, man, just wanted to Let you know it's your God, son, again coming to talk to you and just be thankful, man, and just vent to you and just just sitting, this moment of of reality in existence and no, I'm measuring myself and my growth in the team that we, that, that we that we've built, and just speaking to for myself and others, that kind of identify with the journey of Remembering where we came from and where we going, man, and who coming with us and who believes in us, and and who we really doing it for and and why we doing it, man, and who we've had to let go and who's come along, and that the pain that comes with growing and the pain that comes with sharing, and and the pain that comes with losing and the pain that comes with just giving, but just Do, do do our mercy and through our grace, man, we still thankful with all things through you. I'm not here to question, man, you know how how I get with you. I'm just here to be thankful. It's here to be thankful because it could have all been so worse. It could have been all, could have been worse, man, and you know it. But I, I think you, built this, this journey, to be a journey for me, to have it in any time soon. And you know my, my view of my work that I do every day, man, is what I can do, what I can do when I can do it. Before you call me home, how much I can put in, but thank you for the opportunity to put my left foot forward and trample down evil and let the world know I'm here and what we doing and what we trying to do and Building something that's a catalog that can be Look back and our children can look at this and we Sitting examples and we sacrificing ourselves, which is one of the biggest things of a leader is just Putting yourself out there, man. So you know I can go on, guy man, but I I highlight you. You know when. You know when I'm hollering that you just on my dolo. You know how we do our role love one and talk to you or roll up a few and do how we do. But All praise to you, to the universe, and search your own God as you please. That's my prayer. Amen, amen. She definitely appreciate that, man.

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Freedom speakers, thank y'all once again Listening to another episode. Thanks for hanging in there with us today. We appreciate y'all. Man, be sure to follow us on our social media handles. For chief Ali I'm Layla the most. For chief Ali I'm Layla the most. Permission to speak.

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