Makeup be lyin, Hairlines be lyin, Cuff or Play Toy, Will you hit if you smell something, plus more

Chief Ali, Lay Loe The Mos, and guests MDcutup and Lil Kev, discuss the extremes of beauty standards and cosmetic overload, highlighting the recent fashion stigmas. The conversation doesn't stop there - we delve deeper into the transformative power of makeup and ponder over the trillion-dollar cosmetics industry.

Does slapping on a full face of makeup make us feel more accepted or is it just a tool to please others? This question takes center stage as we discuss as dads and men. 

 We analyze the ripple effects on women's acceptance, questioning whether these practices inhibit their ability to be taken seriously. 

 Freedom Speakers, your thoughts are welcome, as we encourage you to weigh in. Get ready for a riveting exploration of beauty, society, and self-perception. Tune in and let's challenge the norms together. Permission 2 Speak...

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Chapters

• 0:01 Excessive Makeup and Extreme Beauty Standards
• 9:21 Views on Extreme Beauty Standards

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:01

Hey, really quick. We were a couple weeks ago, maybe last week. We touched on the eyebrow. They are gay.

Speaker 1: 0:08

My opinion, how I feel about the ladies in this new eyebrow endemic going on, how do y'all feel about the ladies and his cosmetic Overload that we've been going through for I just say like, maybe at the last 15, 20 years you like it because we got ladies out here who I'm a 10. I'm a nine. Fine, I'm sick bitch. We don't even know what you look like. For it eyebrows look like a mustache, not this Steve Harvey's. So what I do is everybody says I like the body art.

Speaker 1: 0:59

However it is, with anything it can be too much, it can be excessive. So Everything in moderation and winning. If you got a question yourself of like is this too much, am I doing too much? You possibly on the path of doing Too much, just you know. So everybody says I'm gonna show you some shit. To where you know what I mean. I don't think you understand.

Speaker 1: 1:24

To where you can take a woman who is Respectfully a three, three and a half, using the Kevin samu skill, which is below average. Yes, we are, I can, you can. You can fit for the listeners out there and RP Kevin Samuel. Listen, pete, can you so Make people more familiar With the Kevin Samuels Grading scale? Yeah, careful, ass women of rate they sells On the scale of one to ten can use seven, no variation to seven. No, seven and a half, no, seven point nine. You know he would often say that Beyonce is a eight, kelly Rowland as a nine and Rihanna is a ten. Even with her big-ass forehead she's a teen. She think a lot. That's the Kevin Samuel scale.

Speaker 1: 2:10

Most women fall into five to six range and five to six is average. It's not ugly, it's not bad, it's cute, it's pretty. He would often use an adjustable six. Mm-hmm, get your hair done, you're nice, you, you, you, you you're six and you can. You can easily fall into the eight when you get yourself together. However, you were six.

Speaker 1: 2:37

Saweetie I pronounce her name right. Saweetie saw we, so we do. I don't want to sound like oh, yeah, so can't say that she was an adjustable six and folks went crazy, you know, like in a negative, in a negative way. So we do a six. Six is not in. They probably put her on a pedestal. Yeah, it's not an. A six is not an attractive person was gonna ask that. Maybe they do the popularity they felt like she deserved to be higher, but I agree with Just Kevin Samuel's grading scale.

Speaker 1: 3:13

Let me let me pull up Kelly Rowland Is beautiful. Okay, so I'll say that yeah, absolutely no is beautiful. Question? The answer is beautiful. Yeah, rihanna is beautiful.

Speaker 1: 3:26

All of these top tier beautiful women doing what they're doing, peeking their compete in their careers, and there are different skin tones and I kind of I don't know if he ever really broke down why he chose them at that, those rankings, but All of those women to some degree meant to me, watching them and even being fans of them. Their makeup and their makeup is subtle, but their beauty is Is magnetizing man. They are beautiful, attractive women who radiate in some kind of way. I love them, man. I love what they look like with the Uh, I want to show. I want to show what I mean. Freedom speakers.

Speaker 1: 4:11

We looking at some footage right now. Just press the watch again button and just take a look at what I mean of how this, this shit, is getting out of hand. Well, yeah, I'm watching the video. We'll share and post it up on one our social media platforms later on IG. As I'm watching this video, this woman basically transformed her with and that ain't the same person. Basically, that's what I know, what you mean. That's the same person. That's not the same person you know and she. No disrespect to her, but she still is not extremely attractive to me, even with the makeup. However, it's like it's just make major tattoos look better than what the fuck what is going on is is is wild man again.

Speaker 1: 5:02

We touched on the brows. We touched on how the brows is crazy and how some women would shave off their natural eyebrows and draw new ones. They just made a blank canvas first. Yeah, I want them to go like this Get you a little arch or thread and what they be doing, it be. Do that. But the cosmic. You know how much money Women spend on cosmetics per year Trillion-dollar industry, wow, as interest is, it's, it's out of pocket.

Speaker 1: 5:40

And then, when you take into account to a in all fairness, can you rate yourself from a beauty standard based on how you look, what you make up on? I'm talking about with you, with your whole fool, you know what I'm talking about. And they get up like, yeah, like you, you, you put it all the way Together to where, when a man is seeing you at a bar or club. Damn she, fine. You know the lights a little dimmer in there in there. You know, I Thought she looked like this. You Just saw this young woman Change her whole. I did, yeah, she, she did a full transformation and I would say that it's scary. She transformed her DNA. Yeah, miss, a mystique type shit. Hey, man, if she did a crime and they caught her on camera with no makeup on, she puts a makeup on to get a, she gets a man. Have you seen this person, sir? I have no idea. Thank you for your ever bless that.

Speaker 1: 6:47

Moving on for sure, yeah, it's straight Food, the fuck out of me, and that's what I mean. I don't mean just a quick little, you know, little blush, little foundation. I ain't talking about that. I'm talking about the extreme. Okay, okay, so your rent is the extreme. My shirt, oh man, not to settle, not rolling. So, yeah, kelly, rolling Beauty. Kelly ain't gotta wear shit. Exactly is subtle. Yeah, she throw on the love boo.

Speaker 1: 7:16

I don't know all the names. Please do not give me to the line. Little Mac, I know his names, they know that's. I know Sephora, I know where. I know Maybelline, yeah, all of that, but I do not know, girl, I got talking my sisters and my wife about that. They, they, but they wear minimal makeup. Lori L oh, no, that's key of shampoo, never mind what's. But yeah, man, lori L, mac, those are a couple things that I do know. But I like subtle makeup. Yeah, man.

Speaker 1: 7:48

Love something that just touch makes you look even and blended and like you wash your face. Yeah, man, you know, not like you put on a whole new face. Yeah for sure. And we ain't even gonna a. Come on now, the mini blinds Flicking from your eyelids, them lashes. Hey, hey, hey, what's up? I like them bro. I like them bro. Do I need to pull up another extreme video? Hey man, this girl's with eyelashes, with fur to tip, looking like I Don't even know what that is. No, no, no, fly away. Don't blink too fast now. Don't blink too fast. It gets, it gets crazy. Now.

Speaker 1: 8:33

I'm with you with the extremes man and I'm and I'm, and I'm for the ladies man. So I'm trying to do my best to make sure that I'm understanding the fashion, I'm understanding the I'm a bad bitch kind of thing, even though I'm not even Like the bad bitch kind of Cool. But some, some females, take it to the extreme. You say it's a. We're arguing at the extremes. I don't know how they're rated in inches or millimeters on the eyes, but if it's if your eyebrows are as long as your, I lashes are as long as your eyebrows I feel like you pushing on the extreme. Okay, I feel like it's a lot of much. Don't blink too fast in the windstorm.

Speaker 1: 9:21

I'm for the extremes, bro. I remember we talked about this. I'm for the extremes. I'm for the extremes of real, real petite women or real BBW women. Yeah, I like the.

Speaker 1: 9:34

I feel extreme because, like now, you have the difference between you know, say perhaps what you, what a man, would play with, not us. You know, saying we in relationships and we love our women, sure, sure, we good, sure, but there's a difference between what you will play with and what you would cuff. Hmm, does that? Now you go somewhere in my mind. Now you pot, now you pot now. So now you pines real quick, bro.

Speaker 1: 10:09

So do you feel like the extremes lower or less than the chance of her being taken seriously? Yes, you believe that. Yes, yes, I do. I agree with your right hand guy. Yeah, so I Feel like it's a time and place for all of that man. So I don't I don't knock it on it being on it being shown more for show, yeah, or for seductive, more for this person put on this character to come out of their norm. However, if this is this person's norm every day, I would like to still see what their extreme is it sure more to them? If it is, then it's like well, that's the way all that out, yeah, it's like something like the extreme is the norm to some of these women, and that's where it's like whoa, like I, I see you is extreme. The new norm To some women, man, like this is this is my everyday.

Speaker 1: 11:02

Get up, you know, I'm saying, and they and they measure about time. Two and a half hours makeup in the morning. I wake up early for this shit, you know, I'm saying, and not just a quick little. Again, we don't know the lingo and the makeup that goes on. But hey, little lip gloss and some Mascara can go a long way. Yeah, yeah, wash your face first, wash your face.

Speaker 1: 11:24

Let me say this talk to us. So you mean to tell me they take an hour or two hours out of the day Just to focus on what you look like. For who? Hmm, is it more for us that you naturally, don't you not happy with you? What you naturally look like the guy make a mistake, and that's Ladies time. Yeah, yeah, comment, let us know, because a lot of women would say it's not for the attention of men. Then who is it that I feel like you're not truly being honest with you? You're just trying to look at yourself. Yeah, you know, I mean. Yeah, and a day if, unless you just looking in the mirror all day, let me, I'm okay. I 've seen you More today than you've seen you. You've seen you for about maybe 90 seconds today. That's a crazy way of looking. I've been sitting here staying at you for about 30 minutes. Creepy ass. I love you. I'm just what. You know what I mean, though. I've seen you. Yeah, I've been here. Y'all been here good half hour. I'm seeing my face, yeah, but what's okay? They like hey, I can see your face. You can't eat? Yeah, I try, look at it, but I get what you're saying of. You get to see me. Yeah, more than I get to see me. What I am is a reflection of what I wear. Knowing, as you statement, I'm not arguing that, cause I agree that most women wear the makeup for to be seen. Beauty isn't one dimensional. I don't believe that. Oh, I just wear this for me, true? However, I do feel like, hey, bitch, you look good, your face look beat will serve you well and make your day knowing how hard you put that into, all that time that you put into, which is equivalent to that man getting a haircut, getting a lineup, getting a fresh twist or something it's like. Now your woman like why you got all these errands to go, why you wanna handle business in the world, why you wanna be professional, why, sam, I'm about to run and get some milk real quick. Uh-uh, I'm a buy a cow. Oh no, I said I'm about to go get milk real quick. I'm a buy a cow. I'm a get a almond tree and we go drink almond milk. I'm a milk the almonds. What, how much fucking work you taking. I'm kind of off. She ain't about to let you leave that house, bro, cause if you know you handsome remember you just said you done turned into Joanna Gaines. She's seen you more than you seen you, bro, straight up you. So very true, you may feel handsome as fuck and you gotta cut. For who? All right, the bitches. For the bitches. Not to feel good about yourself as well, that too, that also. But to be like, hey, that also when the bitch. However, man, like how often we run into the shop though, you know what I'm saying Once a week, two weeks, three, if we slipping a little bit or we waiting until they get a little closer to the 4th of July, you know what I'm saying. I'm gonna wait til we wait. Next week, christmas coming up, you know shit like that. Or me and the fam we taking pictures. I'm gonna go and wait, get my barber a fresh canvas. I'm gonna come real fucked up and then just let him fix this shit. Brand new man, wolf it out, wolf it out. And then we gone. Man, what man? My barber? She would block out an hour from me cause I'm a hairy motherfucker, I got a beard and my shit, she block out an hour from me. You know what I'm saying. Getting the haircut Nobody's gonna say getting a cut is an extreme. However, we do feel very, very good about it and that's all. It take 50 bucks, 70, 200. If you really, really love your barber, shout out to the $200 cut barber. Some of them out there doing it, man, I got a story for you later on. But no, I'd like to make it. He ain't never heard nobody say the barber shop industry, trillion dollar industry, billion dollar industry, they making money, they making money for sure. But makeup and not to mention hair Extensions, we've got whizzes out, now We've. So I got one man, I got one, remember, I'm on the, I'm batting for the ladies Like. I'm with you on the extremes, but I gotta give a comparative view. Come on, I go to the barber shop too. When I get cut up. I get my beard trimmed up, get my, get a line to make sure my locks looking, my locks is locking. You know I'm free, but I'm locked up, baby that. But when I see some of my bros in there who got the hairline situations and they get the little Beijing where they get the beard all in there, I've seen them go a little extreme. It's like why you got a whole beard that's drawn on and God didn't grow you one. This is true. Why you do. I got a whole hairline down five eighths of an inch and you, that wasn't like that. This morning you gonna go down there. He's buzzing leaves, sharpening marker all on her thighs and shit. Don't you dare get nervous and wipe your brow, don't sweat, get in the house. It's like, oh, it looks surprising, it's a surprise. So I say that, okay, there's the extreme on both ears it is. However, it is less common, Absolutely, in us, in the mirror, ours is more simplistic, it is less common, and also perhaps the whole, you know, spraying enhancements on men's hairlines and stuff like that is it's becoming more normal. I feel like it always kind of be a little to me. You know what I'm saying. Hey man, rock your beard, brush it more, get you something good in there, help it grow. My brother, he had this little rolly thing and poke holes in his face. Help it, help it. Shit, girl, he got a little ass chop. Yeah, man, he got a little ass chop. He's science on his face. But as far as I understand, the comparison and I appreciate it, ladies chief is batting for y'all Not to say that I'm not, but I might not be giving my all Cause you just controversial. Hey man, you been trying to give me starting shit where it be peace. Hey, look man, i'ma say something. I've been sitting around for a long time. Lowe ain't said shit. Now you don't put me on this podcast. I don't bother nobody Ever when I'm in here I'ma say what I'm saying. It's war, we got an controversial Lowe and peace. I leave Trying to keep. Why y'all just gotta be a motherfucker hero man. Hey, man, we got to try to simmer down. We need to simmer down, all right, fuck that. So I'll say this, bro, I'm with you on the extreme. I'm not for. I'm for the natural beauty of rocking your natural Look at your natural face, your natural hair, yo Nat. So I'll say this we going into beauty, man, but I don't want to stay on the face, cause, remember, beauty is more than just one dimensional. If I do have something that I want to gripe about, it's baby, baby. Ladies, let me let me blend me your ears for a second. Okay, let me let me put on my sexy voice. Brother, lady, we turn it into a segment Ladies, chief Ali, thank you, thank you. Thank you for the introduction. My brother, my brother man, my bro host, I love this gentleman the most. Show your right, ladies, when you and your man getting ready to get it on and he's fantasizing about all the things he's gonna do to you and sending you the messages yeah, baby, i'ma tap all that ass, i'ma ram that little clam. You know how I do. Shut up, don't push me out, take this. Can I have a sandwich after work, please, if you still woke? But that being said, when that man is helping you unclothe, if you have a gentleman that does that, you know we'll put that inside of the four play category. The less layers, the better. Baby, when you have on them body shapers and I got a Velcro, you unveil, crow you out of here. Or you got a bra strap connection in the front or the side on top of your bra already. Go on here and let that fupa hang. Let it hang, baby. Do your thing, baby, do not be afraid to rock that thing. My gripe about it is it takes an additional three to seven minutes to de-clothe you. When you got on this additional outfit to try to hide what you was blessed with. Yeah, man, don't do that, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't do that. Now. You heard it straight from the horse, from the chief. You heard it straight from the chief, from the chief. It'd be women who would post memes and pictures of themselves and say before you did me. You just know I look like this. So I'll say to comparison Okay, if the makeup is fast flagging to a degree, of how you look. Is the body shaper a fast flag of how you build? Yeah, it is. However, I will say this the isn't the body shaper meant to at least get you down to like, to form you in that way in a permanently, eventually, to help you tighten up, or is it literally we should have had a woman present, we put it on and we need to help us with this. We need the ladies to tell me I don't know what, I don't know what that's for you know. However, and honestly, bro, if you see the way a woman is built and she just happened to have this much, much slimmer waist than you think she may be like wow, she's very stacked up top waist ass, but she real slim in the middle and the way it cope bottles out, it's like wow, if you can get a hug from her, test it out and you know, touch her side, don't try to go down to the ad. Touch, get around her waist and fill it. You feel some straps and some hard shit. Friend ass here me. But no, it's shit. But no, man, like I gotta say man, that's cheating too, if it's really for. No, I'm not working out, I just want to look like this for when I'm out tonight Trying to OK, and it feel like you got a bulletproof vest. Yeah, it was got on Kevlock. They gonna be shooting tonight. Maybe you ever felt one. They feel like washboards, like the old washboard you put in the river and scrub your shit, tighten them up. Feel like a mannequin. Yeah, it's got elastic wrap on under there. Now I'm gonna you said not that elastic, you be sweating, make a sweat, kind of burn some fat, and I respect it. I respect it. However, you know, ladies, if you were in the body shape, work out with that and get down to there, because you get some, some of y'all out there who just rock it and got no intention to doing no squats, sit up, crunches, ab workout, leg lifts what's do? Sean T? The Euro training? No, you ain't planning on doing nothing. You rocking it and waiting for a miracle to happen. You trying to take a magic pill, drinking tummy fat T. Keep it in mind, I'm a male who clearly stands on. I like BBW women, I like chunky women. I like thick women. Me and Red man are the two niggas who openly say that shit the most that we like thick women. I want to call them fat, but I only call them fat while we humping. Yeah, man, tighten that, you know what Jack, suck your Johnny and eat some lunch with you, yeah, and they know what a good food spot is at bro and they can cook if they. If they close, they normally know what all the like the unique spots at the kick it with a food spot set After hours bro, they funny Package and gala Package and mustard in the car. And I say this, man, because since we speaking freely man, when I was younger I was normally the big dude out our group. So I got matched up with their big person out the group and I would get it. I would be like man. They always keep putting me with the big girl and I'm our big dude. So it was like I got to tackle this. It makes sense If you walking down the block with your dudes and then and when I was younger man we used to fight strangers, we had no beef with you. It was just kind of it's for them, it's for what. You can start matching them, you get by me, you got him, I was the little dude, so you know most of the time. But you know it ended up being a miscommunication, you might end up getting the medium size nigga. Oh shit, hell, we got me about four, five inches. He looks smaller from far away, honey, yards away, this nigga, this big. So I say this I understand, man, you got matched up with the, so I would get matched up with the juicy ladies, the big girls, and a lot of times these big girls will be shocked right along with myself, and we would get to have conversations and talk. If it did lead into us having sexy, it did, but in most cases we connected first as just conversation. Then it led to this woman feeling comfortable. I'm gonna put this, this big old, this big cooter on him, this big ass clam on this little wopper. Yeah, when a boy you ever seen a bb dub this little fat cat, that guy, she look like Garfield on steroids, fat pussy, and then he looks creamy, he look like a leather coat folded up in the coat. Hey, man, that motherfucker look like a old, a coach bag, like a hoodie. But that being said, man, so I would chop it with these women and I would have these negative stigmas that were kind of stoned. You know, we young, we didn't know. So we like aw man, you with fat girls you smelling just down to third, and it was like, hey, bro, it's not true, not at all, not at all. For my experiences it was generally the opposite that these, you good, big, juicy ass, I'm getting aroused now y'all gotta leave, I'm gone. Yeah, baby, I'm on the V way, okay. But it would be the complete opposite, bro, and it felt like at a time it was like, hey, man, we giving him what was kind of being like. These parts of this woman is being overlooked because of her weight, maybe an insecurity she carrying that can be probably felt or seen on top of whatever the stigma was. I want this type of woman or that type of woman or this woman, want this type of man, so on and so forth. But I would get matched up with this woman. We'll break the ice and communication, laughing, joking or whatever. She the nicest one out there. She go to church, man, I don't know about the religion, but she would call me God sometimes. Oh God, oh God, god. Ain't they flexible, what you want to eat at the end? They more flexible than what you think, bro. So you would do it. Think it's some stiff ass, skinny bitches Like they can't touch their toes, but this woman reaching in that top shelf to get that damn season that she put up there. She stretched like a motherfucker. No, I do that, seizing that chicken to get you the strength to wear her ass out Straight up. I love me as a big woman, bro. I was raised by him. Man, shout out to him Me and Mike Keps and Red man openly said we like big girl, shout out and much love to all the big girls out there. Let's put it where we were Big up, 200 and up. Shout out to you 200,. I say in today's math, you got you math. I'll say like a 170, 165, 170. I started to go there, but some of them like uh-uh, all right, and the latest thing, that I'm 135. He was like ha in your bra, ha ha, jim Carrey, yeah, lyrillir, lyrillir for sure, yeah, man. So, speaking about the larger beautiful woman in the group being overlooked by a lot of us, gentlemen, how tall are you? 6'1"? Yeah, how tall are you? 5'8"? 6'2", good, 6'3", okay. Well, fuck all y'all Cause I ain't 6'9". Ha, ha, ha, ha, all right, nigga, I'm 5 foot. Well, okay, I say 5'9 on my license. I lie, I'm 5'8". You had on some Healys that day, nigga, it's Pym's own Dicks and I might have been standing on him until you tell but no man, I'm 5'8" man, shout out, shout out to the Five Club out there. Man, do you know, a lot of women will overlook a man who is under 6 foot. Just because he's under 6 foot he can look good, he can drive a nice vehicle, he can have a little bit of money. However, he's women looking. But even short women, it's your 4'10" what you need, a 6'8" Nigga, 4". Y'all can't even do certain positions how you 6'9" you can't. You just trying to fit in any companions. It's like but no man, a lot of men will overlook man. So I ain't gonna ask y'all, I'm gonna just speak on this. Ha ha ha. The average height for a man is 5. In America Is between 5 and 15. It's somewhere up in there. 90% of men are under 6 feet tall. 90%, 90% of women want a man that is at least 6 feet tall. So this is what they say now they, like the math, ain't mathin'. 90% of women want 10% of men. And this was side bitches, be thrivein'. Ha ha ha, this was side bitches, be thrivein'. And this is why see, and this is why see, and it becomes a thing. Break down the numbers for him. Break down the numbers for him. So you gonna end up you can't have your own man. Why? Because too many women want this certain box of the. He got options. He got options. He got options. He gettin' DMs. You know what I'm saying, like so what they say. He gettin' shoes and signature. He gettin' choosin' signals. He got options. You know he don't wanna settle down. He's still playin' the field, doing this thing. You know men have a lot more time to play the field than women, lot more time. It's not even fair. We can be 15. Are you into casual relationships, casual sex? I'm a married man. No, understood, but we speak in freely, bro. Just overall, are you into casual sex or casual relationship? I don't like the way that question is. As you mean, before I was, am I into it? Not now, like today, bro, like now. You safe here, nigga you safe, I'm good. I ain't got a ass, no one. You listen to the podcast? All right, good, no, I'm. So I'll go first. I'm gonna have to delete that shit, as I've learned. No, you good, bro, as I've learned, ask him. So I am not a casual relationship person, which does not make me connect with this person, to even wanna be sexual Real quick, define casual relationship really quick. I'm not a surface person that, hey, we are. Conversations are only about one dimensional thing. It's only about negative gossip about people that you're not here. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Only about the if ands buts. No decisions, it's only the ideas you like to get more in depth, establish a connection, establish more of a. Yeah, sure, I'm attracted to your body anyway. You look in the little bit of makeup you got on. What about your mind? Where your mind at, where your soul at? How do you think? How do you handle shit? And I learned that honestly through my youth. Like I didn't, it didn't come around full of circumstance, like I got older, of like, yeah, you don't realize. Oh, that's what this is or that's why I'm, that's why I was able on some real shit, that's why I was able to sexually perform with this woman, cause I connected with her compared to, hey, I was physically attracted to this woman but I didn't want her. So, yeah, man, I didn't want her. So I'm trying to perform somewhere, looking bad, like she was just looking bad. She was giving it to me and I took it, but I really didn't even want her on the phone. I don't like you. And that happens, yeah for sure, man, as I learned some women, as they say men can't take rejection. I think it's very heavy or mutual that women can't take rejection either, cause it's not. They always start looking at the exterior like what's wrong with me, what's wrong with my makeup, what's wrong with my body, what's wrong with this? All the things that they've done to piece themselves and feel a certain way or look or so way or be presented a certain way, totally fine. That's not an argument I'm equipped to handle. I don't want to go there. But on the mirror end of it, if me getting to see this beautiful woman with these essential aesthetics on, some of it may be a little over, a little less, and me, but the inverse of that is like why this man got on sunglasses at 2 AM inside of this dark ass club in T-Way, why he got on 80 chains and got one neck, why he got on three, four watches and he got a cell phone. Yeah, but just certain things. You be like hey man, we both got our extremes. But in this room I look at it like hey man, I love the women and I'm batting for them. But it's kind of hard to bat when sometimes you your own enemy. And I get to see as that man with these women that I deal with in our council as well. A lot of the things that they do is for show and it is for the extended eye, not more so themselves, yeah for sure. So when I get to see these women beautiful, I get to see beyond just the aesthetics, man, I get to see this soul. And when I get to have a conversation with them, I get to ask them those Pearson questions, I get to see where they mind goes, where those gears turn. Like, hey, you extremely surface, you only can talk about other people's news that's in the media, but if I start asking you about yourself, you don't know, yeah for sure. You may not even recognize. They don't recognize themselves, yeah, or we're certain traumas make Because they created this character that they wanna be, yeah, or even why you do certain things About costume. If you will, they put on a costume. Yeah, exactly, that's exactly what it is. That's important, man. So I got. So I want you to keep your space, bro, I want you to tell, I want you to say, but I want to say this while it's on my mind, I got a chance to learn through that, through kicking it with these women, and a lot of times we would get as a young age, bro, we would me and MD cut up. We'd link up with beautiful women from the city through the Cleveland Raven. Shout out to the 216. You've got the Cleveland Raven. Yo, you've been snubbed by. You can't have like, look at this. This was our my space to get cheeks. This was our back page. Shit. We just had to. We just had to phone. I mean, I remember in the chat room. I don't remember he had to phone downstairs, I had to phone upstairs. They can be up here just singing and shit the bitches. I don't remember specifically the Cleveland Raven, but I do remember little chat rooms. Yeah, so, bro, we would link. I would link up on some Dolo or we would link up on some tag team. A couple of times I would link up on Dolo man, it's crazy, we got some stories. We got some stories, so we're gonna make a whole another podcast. That's another segment of a yo, you've been snubbed by. On the Cleveland Raven, we're gonna say that Love a boy. But I do got a story to start that segment. Right now. I met a young lady on there years ago, long, long, long, long long time ago. I was like in my teens. I'm like 18, 19. I just got the crown Vic, the crown Vic era. That's another bra. I got to tell you how, how my life was set up during the crown Vic era. However, I pulled up to her spot in the crown Vic, skrr, skrr, doing my one, two. She come on outside. I'm like, oh man, she juicy. She had like a little blanket on. She came and sat in the front seat. We talking dirty and I'm like we just ain't touching each other at all, but we just talking dirty, dick hard in the motherfucker, like I just wanna you show your mom in them sleep rules yeah, everybody's asleep, but I don't know, I'm scared. I'm like Rob, you're playing with me, you scared of this dick. We're just trying to figure this out, bro. I didn't, I didn't know. I didn't know. I was trying to find me as I'm still. I'm now. That's all right, man. However, younger man, man, we get to get touching and moving and see, and I'm uncomfortable, I get the mood. It's the first time I got to see how large this backseat was in the crown Vic and I had a 92 crown Vic, all white with the blue crush in the inside, real Miami Vice police edition. It was real clean and shit too. That was my baby. I love her RP to my crown Even more uncomfortable I've sat back there, I love her so much. The VIN number was one F no, I'm here, no, but I pushed the seats all the way forward. In the crown Vic I had the radio playing, had the little pioneer head unit in that joint. I had on a MP3 R&B, little age like right, like a hundred thirty nine songs and I'm like you can get pregnant off one of these baby Straight up. But we get in the backseat, we get to touching, we get to kissing and this is when I really got to see like a as we spoke about the body shapers. This woman thought that she was fat or just whatever. Because she spoke down about herself, which is never attractive to me. Like I check women who speak negatively about themselves to me, like I don't respect that you to do that in front of me. I don't know how you feel about how you feel, but that's kind of like belittling with yourself in front of me and you're more beautiful than that. Don't, let's not do that please. And most of them kind of feel a particular way in a good spirit. Yeah, they felt the body. Shame is the turn for it now. But you know, it was we giving the confidence that's there, that sometimes it's necessary, yeah, it's necessary. So, that being said, this lady come up out of this, this blanket, and I got to just see this body. That would kind of was like Amen, bad reference. But it was like similar to a porn woman's body I just pictured, like Django in the beginning of the movie, oh, you just dick out, fucking this shit just upside. You saw the scars, you don't know, but you could. But she come off this blanket and beautiful to me, nicely shaped, and I'm like this is a woman, she's a woman, oh, women, she's a women's. But it was one of them like wow, I got to touch how soft she was and how she felt. But it was just a man experiencing a woman. I was wasn't caring about what she cared about. Oh, I'm not barely, I'm like I'm just, it's soft and it's warm, it's cozy, stuffy up in a little ball. She has my friend. But it was one of them like hey, would you dislike about yourself as what I'm actually attracted to you. Like all my breasts too big. It's like God did do that. I'm a steak. Is it a beacon of love to niggas that like Teddy's saying Lord messed up on you? That, would you say If your back hurt, then we can talk about it. But like we can stretch first before you get to chopping on yourself. But I get you, I get it. But it was one of them like hey, though she feels a certain way about herself or shame in herself, and I went forward when it was time to perform and react. It was like she showed herself and it was like how dare you speak negative on your shit now? So I give you even more. Sorry, wifey was like that. When me and wifey link back up after school, she like, yeah, I'm fat, I gained a little weight. They got going over there and saw she on these little leggings. I'm like, oh, I'm fucking, nigga, you're supposed to. Oh, I am. Because it was one of them fumble through your words type shit, like you talking about you gain weight, nigga. Yeah, you did. You did what you were supposed to as a grown lady. Yeah, straight up. So, yeah, I'm fucking. It was one of them like, yeah, she, she feeling some? Oh yeah, my body might, as I'm like, yeah, I grip on that shit. Give me that shit, stop playing with me. But first calories. Today, you know some of what somebody don't be perspiring, but shout out to the juicy women. The BB Doug, you got love coming from chief Ali, always man, and I love the more I'm showing love to and MD to the fullest, you know. So I'll say this man, as my niggas used to clown me. So, being the nigga who, after a while because I first I had my stigmas of like hey man, I don't want that, until I got the choppy kick in it and the reverse on me, like hey, nigga, you're not small yourself, bucko. I'm like, yeah, I am, I'm gonna get something to talk about, but it was like hey man. So I got to tell my homies as we would sit back and share these stories. Like me, I wasn't hitting that fat chick. I'm like hey, nigga, y'all sleeping on them we may love. I'm like, hey, you acting like I'm. Like, hey, nigga, you acting like ain't no pussy in there, right, you acting like ain't no pussy in there, bro. Like she's she bruh, and sometimes, because of how she was overlooked, the shit is uncharted territory, right, uncharted territory. You like, any flexible they cook, they got clean bed sheets and shit, man, nigga, they like I told you be them slim, funky hoes. Sometimes they be they. They are little house by booty hole brown. Because I ain't white dude. I'm like, yeah, stop playing. Stop playing like little funky small. I digress on my ranch. Shout out to the BB dubs Y'all got the love. Shout out to y'all she's coming from y'all On this warm July evening. Man. Shout out to y'all I like old school big ladies that put powder in their titties. You can still see them. I remember I was messing with this one shit, go get long, long, long, long time ago. Man, yeah, because we married man, she was, she was a, she was a I don't want to say a larger woman, man, but she, she man. She has some, she has some weight on her and she has some large breasts. So why I'm going to get to get to discovering. You know what I mean. It shouldn't wait, hold on. I don't know if you know about titties wet. Hello, a grown ass man. What you mean, you don't think I know about titties wet. This is from a hard day. You know what I'm saying Don't, don't be, don't be, don't be tripping, don't be tripping. I got you right outside. So it's just a little what you say. One more time you lift them up, get some air under there. I'll be down here doing. Well, they fan me. Throw the bitch's back, all right, ass off with some napkins. What time of the day you won't hit the coochie if she took a shower? Let me say this really quick. I ain't trying to, I ain't trying to. Y'all got to have my back on this. We don't know if this is an unpopular opinion, it doesn't matter. Hang on, spoke it like it's true. One thing I will say and I'm going to ask your question on the time, but what I will say is I don't necessarily want you fresh out the shower, I want you to smell like you, taste like you, feel like you. Let me, let me, let me give me some of that day. It said taste like you. Little seasoning. You've been sitting there, plus, it's been man-nating over there, medical music all morning. We got that with a W, with a W, but not for real. Man, like you know, baby, I'll be homing a minute, but I want to think on time frame. Man, like a woman, you know any woman I dealt with. Man, she pretty clean. I hadn't had to think about the fact. Oh man, she ain't took a shower in 29 hours. I'm cool, I ain't had to worry about that. I say this as long as you can't. It's not a strong odor, or you where you could smell it from a mile away. Yeah, yeah. So I'm in the boat with you. I like to smell her, which she is natural. I want to taste so much, which you drink for the day, which you ate for the day, like hey, baby, you need to lay off them salt and pepper chips and little vinegar. I can tell you in the Olive Garden. But if you come in this room and you smell good, she's gonna leave this bitch stinking Cause we gonna sweat. Sweat it out. Sweat it out, sweat it out and fresh out the shower is cool, man, but it ain't nothing like just a mild day. I ain't trying to get you straight out the gym and nothing like that. Yeah, clean yourself up, baby, you know what I'm saying. But if it's just a day, you been sitting there typing all day and you walked and got you some water and you had lunch and you came back and you were a little tired, you just got a little perch on you. That's all you know what I'm saying. Hold on, wait a minute, cause that she almost slipped by me. Did you say she got a little perch over? Not like this perch? I don't understand, cause you just made me like that. Yeah, we gonna go to the sharks at this man Shout out to sharks at Sam's. They got good fish too, but uh, 2, 1, 6. But, nah, man just got a little. You know what. Okay, I put, like this man, a little fume on. Is that better? Okay, okay, so we natural body odor Smell like gas. We gonna, we gonna, we working on terminology. So bear with us y'all. We working on terminology. We don't want to offend. I will say I like big butts and I can't not go. Very true though, I like the cheeks. I can't lie. I like them, cheeks that fight back. You hear them when they fit you back. I like them. They like that domestic violence kind of set it up Tsunami buns. They ain't, they ain't, they ain't to be pushed over, don't pun intended. Pushed up, but not pushed off. Straight up, right, right, right, oh. But that being said, I'm with the hey man, you didn't Like you said you didn't. You've been handling things. You tightened up well in the morning, straight up. You tightened up well in the morning, or whatever time. You gotta grow. But after you didn't like you said you're a little leather chair, listen to your little music. You didn't. You other little shit didn't wore off. It's like you ain't gotta go. You took your sweater off during the day. You didn't took all your natural bacteria out. No, don't do that. Keep the. There's good bacteria in bad. Keep, keep, keep that. Keep a little bit of that discharge, just a little bit. Just a little bit of that, just a little bit that like, because it smells like you, the pheromone yeah, it's the pheromones of like we animals. Put a little bit behind your ear Like, don't Remember we, we, we, we, we doing our best to ignore nature of like a. You smell her or that arousal of like a. You are related or you didn't, you you juice and ancient. You may, or name a holiday ham in that pants Got a set. Well, that's an animalistic thing, primal. If you will love you, I can smell it. You want to be like. Put the kids to be you a learn. Put the kids. I shut the house down early and my kids confuse as a bitch. Because it's summertime 9 30 is still some daylight left. They go like all right, eat this shit. Hurry up, eat your food. You ain't gonna eat shit. All right, you better eat. Give me this. You're gonna eat this shit for breakfast. Good night, go to bed. You're gonna be crying. I put in the garbage. Watch TV, timmy. Hey Timmy, midi, cut that game off. Go to bed, get some rest. It's a matter of fact. Turn the game back on, turn it up. It's late outside. Close the blinds, hey bro. So I'll say this man, shut it down. I find myself getting more buns when I got guests in the house Because it's exciting, it's edgy, it's edgy but for real, and you can finish quicker. I'll be like hey man, you like an audience, you're nasty? Yeah, I can, I can, I can. Okay, come over this weekend. They be setting shit up. I already know, but listen, I can With that man. I don't fucking know, but maybe it's just the. You know, we got like an extra kid, so I got to show like extra attention and shit to the. You know, when you just doing that shit, women love that shit. Yeah, you know what I'm saying. We just been. Oh, I help you, help me be helping my homework, making a little, then which one? For lunch tomorrow I'm gonna put a little something extra in your bag. You know I got it. You know what I'm saying. Women love that shit. So when you got and I'm gonna speak from the kids aspect Now you got to show extra love to another kid, make a show. They straight and enjoying themselves and throwing the ball with them. It's just you show, you show. Now you earned in the pussy, hey, and especially step dads. I mean when you playing the step dad, you taking a responsibility of another man's child. So you know they gonna, they gonna fuck with that Straight up. This is true, man. You got to make sure you get the generic stuff out the house. You got to make sure you know if they, if he drinking he ain't never heard of Capri Suns he get the generic juice. And you got to make sure little man's or a little mama make sure you got to got got the good juice. They get to get the juice. And then how, that's clear, got the sunny deal, get the sunny deal, get the Capri Sun. They got the generic lunchables. Hey, I'm gonna fix that for you. You know what I'm saying. I got sure I brought some Real lunchables in here. That got the drink cookie me. Yeah, you will take a camera. We went in like swimwear straight up. You gotta get your lunch about the box, you can't just rip the plastic off the top. Since we talking about that man, we talked about the step daddy man. Have you ever been in that role where you play the stepfather role, or you are in that position now. I'm in that position now you in that position talking. I'm in that position right now. You know I'm saying so, uh, I Got another daughter that's like the same age as my daughter. You know, I'm saying in the Sun, it's like six. And uh, you know, one day at a time, I would say For sure, I'm just treating them. I'm remembering how I was as a kid and how I wanted to be treated. Now, trying to treat kids like that, you know, yeah, for sure, man, and I'll say this I had a stepdad growing up and it wasn't as pleasant, as you know, I'm saying I feel like we in a new win, a new time. Now, you know, just still fucked up. We came a long way, we got a long way to go, but I Say, man, I am extremely proud cuz I get to see it and we got social media. Now I get to see Just in how men are stepping up and it's something I didn't see as a kid and again, maybe credited to social media. Now you just have a visual wall of this shit going on. We're not just in a box but, man, I really feel like our generation of men like doing a dad thing, like a motherfucker I don't know. No, debbie, dad's or dudes don't take care to get. I don't. I don't know not one. Yeah, I don't. I don't know. No, dude, I don't take your monkey. I don't know dead beats in our circle yeah, no, dead beats in our circle. We're saying ain't, I'll hold them accountable. See, I don't realize I Don't mean to cut y'all up I didn't realize that I was actually doing a good job until she came to me and told me she was like you've been holding me down, I'm gonna do this for you. This is that, and I'm like Must be doing. Well, man, the stepdad role is definitely one. Now, less now, let's get a little bit deeper on the stepdad role. Man, I know when it's, when it's no longer, I won't say throwing the football, I say cuz it's a, it's a girl, I'm just waiting for somebody say you ain't my daddy? Yeah, so when it, when it comes to them times, cuz it happened to me and my brother and sister we wouldn't know. Sweet kids, nigga, we were nice, we ain't making it easy for this man. You know you were trying to fuck on my mom. Yes, some of it was all for, you know. But when it come to when the, when the lollipops and shunt shine is gone and it come down to a go to your homework, I got listen to you. So now, okay, because my foot off. However, this ain't no, but this ain't your biologic, biological child, and then do it like it is. How does the mama feel about Talk to her first? Yeah, and that's what I'm saying, this is what it is I mean. And then the mama said this is what happened and this is how I'm gonna handle it. How do you feel about it and that, and that's how you take after y'all, have y'all had that conversation? Yeah, I hasn't got that for you, but I already know how I'm gonna do it. But, like, you had a conversation first and then, like, hey, I asked you a question, well, well, her kids ain't never came at me sideways, so I they buy the same. But when did? When the day come, like perhaps it'd be a good idea to perhaps talk to your lady and ask that question and say, hey, I got a question, you know, when the day comes, you know, and it's almost inevitable with any, you know, since that parent situation when the kids gotta kind of get a little out of hand, how? But I'm gonna tell you how I would like to handle that and just had that conversation first. So then when it, when it happened, it ain't like you. Well, she did tell me one day you got the okay with my kids ass. I'm like, oh shit, okay, even though I'm not really, I try not to, I try not to. I would my daughter one time and she do what I say all the time. Yeah, I'm saying that's. You know, I ain't even gonna say she say what I do, what I say all the time, because Nobody, everybody know kids ain't perfect, they ain't gonna always listen to you, but it is what it is. You know, I try not to be. You got that dad factor. I try not to be too, too tight on her. You know, I'm saying I'm trying to let her do her thing, you know. But you know I still got to be her father. Yeah, yeah, yeah, as we say to the, to our kids man, um, just the first time that we doing this together, right, yeah, and we trial and error, like like a mug man, but I stand tall and trying. I stand tall and like, okay, yeah, casey don't like me Doing this or doing that and the carer don't like this, and yeah, uh, just opening up them doors for communication man. So I'll say this man, when I was younger and I was dating, I was, I was a stepdad I guess, because you know, I took him serious, I took, I took, I took him serious man. So it made me kind of step out of I'ma call you back dick in here. Yeah, yeah, you look like lucky. I'm like I've got no children right now, man, but this young lady I was dealing with it. I got to see how my presence was, um, start being felt in the home, though I'm coming there For the mother. The children are a part of the deal too. So Me and her Doing you know our adults thing that we kicking in. He made me, you know, whatever the scenario was, huh, I didn't want to get graphic, graphic, but it was like she was a woman. She played the role of like she was trying to hook line to sinker me. So I could see that, I could feel that, um, she would try to keep her sons on that one child out of the way when I would come over, and the one time. He just so happened to be woke at the time that I was leaving that night and when he had said to me like, yeah, the ones he owned like came and managed the society. No, you had a little two piece with the belly out but dirty feet at the bottom, and I love the kids though. But I just knew like, hey, look, it ain't loaded. So when I did come there earlier that day, it was one of them like. The mom was like hey, girl, let me call you back. Big Ken just walked in the door and I'm like, oh, he's probably nicknamed me big Ken, I am on a little bigger side, or whatever. Okay, cool. So she's like look here, come eat, I'm big Ken. To look Ken, no, I'm not Nothing. No, okay, i'ma say something about that later, not tonight, not right now, but after we enjoy our evening and kick it or whatever. What not? A little man was still up that night and when he seen me leave he was like, can you stay here with me because I ain't got no daddy? Oh man, I'm like I'ma break this nigga heart because I ain't never coming back after this shit. Nigga, break this off. But I got to see the the like a. I couldn't have been playing around on the selfish level for me because she actually trying to hook me. She's man. I just like, hey, you some kind of quality again. You said what I just turned into a seven year old kid again. Man, that shit hurt my feeling, bro. I'm bro, but it was like, why you do a little kid like that? That baby ain't look like me and my children look like me Straighter. But it was like, hey, man, I can't be out here. Just you gonna grow up one day Playing with young women hearts. Man, I know you was thinking about that all night when I left. It was one of solid roll home Home, crying, and she ain't listen to no music. But I was. I was emotional. I was like I don't write a book about me. Why he do this to me like that. This nigga you know what he was doing. That's nigga went home with the sleep. I woke up sweating from nightmares. Why won't you stay with me? I don't have a dad. I'm like, can you stay? I'm like, oh man, I and I liked her because she was really nice. I heard trying to like hook line and sinker me like catch a man, if you will. You know how they got Kind of catching predator show. This was how to catch a man. We some, we some catchable niggas. I would like to say so catchable niggas. So I'll say this. I would like to say I'm a catchable guy, not to boast too much, but a compliment that I received in the month of July, I believe, of 2023, early in the month of July. I was like I'm a lady that I get to see on our routes of work. She just pulled me to the side. I've never seen her before Picking up at this location. It just put me to the side real quick, nothing dramatic, which was like hey, I just want to tell you. You know, I see you coming around and handling the things with the guys and how you speak and things like that. I just want to tell you that you are such a man and I love what you're doing. Keep, keep doing what you're doing. Oh, and I sat there for like maybe four seconds with a mute, like oh well, well, well, well, thank you, because it was one of those. She didn't know, possibly I was having one of those, I was having an emotional day, but what she said brought me Out of a place. But just see, he kind of struck a nerve in a positive way of like you never know who, watching For sure man, and on top of that man, and just being me and out here in this world, see, we don't, we don't receive that was an affirmation, mm-hmm, that was an absolute, that was absolutely an affirmation from a can bleed stranger. I'm right, you know, she had been seeing you. However, you know, thank you, ma'am, I appreciate the appreciation, I appreciate, I appreciate you noticing just the work I put in to make sure I Do a good job, you know, and just and that and that, just coming from a A can bleed stranger, just, you know what it make you feel, just make you feel good about yourself, man, and, like you said, it got you out of a place, man, and Thank you, lady, I don't know who you are. It made me feel seen, yeah, made me feel like Whatever what the work I was doing was in in vain. Mm-hmm, it was. I felt awake. Yeah, I felt the way I wasn't sleeping when she told me, you know. But no, I most definitely felt awake, I felt alive, I felt like Happy yeah, and most men we don't generally Get too many compliments is a kind of a notion of I mean, you're supposed to do that, that's supposed to be right, you're supposed to be tough, strong, I'm gonna tell you good job. That's too much like coddling a man. It's like what you would tell your son, your baby Good job all day long about Stuff he's supposed to do. But when a grown man is handling things that he's supposed to do, it's like a bulletin teeth to say I see you, baby, good job. But we can say that for another show. We show permission to speak freely.